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Inheritance or not

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Richlinn · 07/03/2011 19:38

I have a relative on my Dad's side who has no close family. I know him quite well, as does my Dad, auntie and sister. We have just heard that he has finally got round to making a will and has left everything to an animal charity. His estate will be £1 million+. I am sitting in rented accommodation as is my sister. No -one else in my family has any money to speak of. Does anyone know if we could appeal his decision as a share of the estate would make a huge difference to a lot of people. Has anyone heard of any appeals that have successfully overturned a will? He is of sound mind. Thanks for all suggestions / help offered.

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Rhinestone · 07/03/2011 19:49

Er...it's not yours. It's his.

He obviously likes animals more than he likes you.

I don't blame him.

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Richlinn · 07/03/2011 19:49

In answer to comments - I know what's in the will because he has made it known within the last week.

I know, it is his money to do with as he wants and members of my family are saying exactly that. However, the money would be life changing for quite a few people. That's why I'm querying it.

Not sure yet if I would like to bring it up directly with him. It just seems such a waste for everything to be going to charity.Envy

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Tsil · 07/03/2011 19:51

Jeez a waste?

If I were him and heard this I would give it all away/spend as much of it as possible so you couldn't get anywhere near it.

Here is a novel idea for you - work hard and earn your own money.

TheFallenMadonna · 07/03/2011 19:51

I doubt the people who benefit from the charity would say it was a waste. Do you not get on? Is a charity particularly close to his heart?

Rhinestone · 07/03/2011 19:51

It's not a waste. It was never yours to start with. It never will be.

Get a fucking grip and if you want to improve your life then work harder / smarter etc.

TheFallenMadonna · 07/03/2011 19:52

Oh, an animal charity. OK.

Rhinestone · 07/03/2011 19:52

X post with Tsil!

ChaoticAngelofAnarchy · 07/03/2011 19:52

I'll say this slowly...

You. do. not. have. the. right. to. any. money. from. him.

It's not a waste going to charity. A lot of good could be done by the charity.

Tee2072 · 07/03/2011 19:53

A charity is a waste? Wow, you full of entitlement, aren't you?

LindyHemming · 07/03/2011 19:54

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VajazzHands · 07/03/2011 19:55

It just seems such a waste for everything to be going to charity.envy

I hope this is a wind up.

LaurieFairyCake · 07/03/2011 19:55

A waste !?!?!?!?

Do you know what charity is ?

Why do you deserve the money???? What's so special about you ?

YellowDinosaur · 07/03/2011 19:55

He's probably decided to give it all to charity as he has decided he's fed up with grasping relatives only making an effort with him in order to get some money when he carks it. He'd prefer to spend time with people that genuinely enjoy his company rather than ones that are doing it for some sort of pay back.

Or maybe he has said he is doing this for the reasons above and will then decide to leave some money to those relatives to whom this announcement made no difference to how they treated him.

Anyway regardless of his reasons its absolutely none of your business and 100% up to him to leave it to whomever he choses. Or spend it. Or burn it even. His money, his choice.

LaurieFairyCake · 07/03/2011 19:56

at 'dignity'

Methinks the OP lost that a looooooooooooooong time ago.

hidenseek · 07/03/2011 19:57

OP, you sound vile and grasping. I hope you don't get a penny.

The charity is not a waste of money and they will make so much use of the donation.

You are an utter disgrace.

cat64 · 07/03/2011 19:58

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SardineQueen · 07/03/2011 20:01

People often know what's in other peoples wills, not everyone keeps it a secret.

Some people prefer to leave their money to charity than to people. There's no point feeling anything about it, you can't change it.

mmsmum · 07/03/2011 20:02

I think the OP is a joke

But if I were old and rich I'd tell everyone it was going to my cats (I imagine being old with cats lol) and see who still sticks around. Would sort them out I say

SardineQueen · 07/03/2011 20:03

I don't know if I had £1m+ I think leaving £50K to close relatives even if I didn't like them very much and then the remaining £500K or so to charity would be reasonable.

To leave nothing to your family when you are very wealthy is quite a statement.

I know that I am often out of step with general views on these threads though Grin

BigChiefOrganiser · 07/03/2011 20:03

I have no idea if you'd be able to contest the will, but I suspect not.

I'm a firm believer of Charity begins at home. If I were childess and had family struggling, I'd certainly leave it to them before a charity.

However, I am not your relative, so what I'd do is not very helpful.

Original poster
Richlinn · 07/03/2011 20:03

To the people who have tried to give constructive comments to my query. Thanks.
To everyone else, I'd just like to say what a self righteous, sanctimonious lot you are.
I'm off now to read other posts and won't be back on this thread, so comment on to your hearts content.

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CJ2010 · 07/03/2011 20:03

OP - Ignore all the posters on here, having a go at you!! If they were in your shoes they would be feeling frustrated as well!!! Unless they've all got a few quid & don't need to worry about their finances... You can bet your life, if this was going on in their family, they would be grasping as well.

I honestly don't blame you for feeling desperate, however there is nothing you can do about it. He might just be winding you all up, you never know, you might get a nice surprise in the future.

Don't let this issue affect your relationship with him tho, if you love and care for him, continue as before.

Anyway, its better that the money goes to a good cause, like a charity, imagine if he 'fell in love' with some money grabbbig old trout who just so happens to come into his life, just before he pops his clogs and pockets the whole lot!!

LindyHemming · 07/03/2011 20:04

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Greenkit · 07/03/2011 20:05

Ha Ha, which means post and I WILL be checking to see what you have written about me.......

thisisyesterday · 07/03/2011 20:07

i notice you didn't answer my questions OP.

when did you last see him? visit him? have him over? phone him?

the reason you have got the responses you have is because you're acting utterly irrationally!

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