to ask you to tell me the annoying things your MILs do/ have done? (just for fun)

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to make me feel more benevolent towards mine??

Is it a given that all MIL's do something annoying?

Sorry, but I mostly get on well with mine. She does have a few quirks, but so does everybody else, including my own mum.

I read that as malevolent !!

Sent my SIL to visit to make sure I was "not playing him" and got her to try and convince him to get a prenuptual agreement. (They were pretty surprised when they realised I owned property and probably had more in terms of assets than he did)

Variations on a theme of the above kind of sentiments, around the time we got married, turning her into a paranoid wreck and constantly looking out for "cracks" and "flaws" in the relationship.

SIL (the other one) had just got divorced at the time so I guess she was thinking we'd go the same way. 10 years married, still going strong.

My MiL was a total bitch. She unwrapped my wedding presents, told me I was lucky to be married to DH seeing how he went to Oxford and I don't have an O level, unfavorably compared me to his ex in the having children dept. - ex has 5 I have one. So many other things, she was just a cunt of the highest water.
The best thing she ever did was die.

Mine redecorated our classic and understated tables at our wedding - with Hawaiian themed tat.

One Christmas she got really drunk, puked all over our sofa bed and hid the evidence. So a few weeks later I found a lovely pile of mother in law sick.

Oh and last time she visited she a) screeched (and I mean screeched/yelled/shouted at me for not liking the same cot (for our FOUR WEEK OLD newborn - imagine the state I was in) as her and b) told me that I would NEVER EVER know her son as well as she does.

Freakin weirdo. I would love a nice MIL and believe they do exist...

I am very fond of my MIL. Her only annoying quirk is that she seems to live her life in a different time zone to the rest of us.

For example, when she came to see newborn DS1, told me she would come late morning. She arrived at a quarter to nine. In whose world is that late morning?

BIL also tells the tale of getting up at 6.30am to put the enormous Christmas turkey in the oven, and looking forward to going back to bed for a festive cuddle. He turns away from the oven and sees two little faces peering at him through the kitchen window! All dressed up in best bib and tucker, they had come for lunch.

kreecher

My MOL is about to die. Honestly and truthfully, even her own husband can't wait for her to be gone. She's a nightmare, and even her closest family now admit it!

FoundWanting - my MIL gets up at around 5.30am most mornings, so 8.45am would probably be classed as "late morning" to her too!

Mine insists on giving the DCs cheese biscuits with a big thick layer of butter on, when they're very happy to eat them without. Not the crime of the century, but she's pretty amazing generally so you have to find something to nitpick at!

When I had first child and I was in that fog of no sleep she phoned me up to say she was worried about her little darling not getting enough sleep and that I should really make sure I look after him (dh not the baby) as he can't cope without 10 hours sleep a night. He was already sleeping in the spare room as I was bf and didn't want to be disturbed.

Bonsoir, DH knows how horrible she was to me. He didn't even ask me if I wanted to attend her funeral.
Unfortunately for me, I married her favourite child, he was always her blue eyed boy and none of his siblings ever matched up to the perfection of him.
To see her favoritism in action was breathtaking, she was a manipulative insensitive hateful cunt.

Turned up at our ny eve party a few years ago. Got arse holed, snogged dhs friend in front of everyone then threw up whilst on all fours in the garden. I took pictures

OK not so bad as some of the others and she does mean well, but she is driving me crazy.

• Served me five days out of date pork when I was 31 weeks pregnant.

• Wouldn't give DC1 to me after she picked him up and he got completely hysterical, turned and walked away from me, she had only first met him a couple of hours before.

• Wants to come and stay with us for three months after the birth of DC3 and WON'T take no for an answer despite the fact she can't walk without crutches (so not much help with 16 month old twins). Am 36 weeks and she rung the other day to say she can come up next week and stay the whole way through even though my parents are already coming for a couple of weeks (as this is what I want!).

My dp and his siblings, whilst obviously being upset, I think will experience a tremendous sense of relief and freedom when their mother dies, because when I think about what she's done to me over the years,the only thing that tempers it, is that I'm not the only one.

• Told my headmistress I was a drug addled prostitute who had got pregnant in order to "steal" her son (I'd have "stolen" a lawyer or a doctor rather than a factory worker, surely????)

• To the anaesthetist administering my epidural "My son was engaged to such a lovely girl before this whore got her hands on him"

• to the same anaesthetist, she explains that dp was put into care when he was 14. All untrue.

-Dd - first female born in their family in 53 years...."what a shame it isn't a boy, what are girls for?"

-"You want to abort this baby, or you wouldn't be having showers when pg"

• When dd was 3 weeks old she (and the henchmen sisters of dp) came to the house to try and make me have her baptised Catholic asap. I had (and have) no objection to this, and she was baptised Catholic the following year, I just didn't want to do it at 3 weeks old because they wanted to..This was apparently because my Mum "looked like a German"

-If your parents want to see this child, they will come to Italy, this child is Italian and will stay here (that was the scariest actually, and also the straw that broke the proverbial camel's back, I got up, walked out, and have never been back since. And never will)

-dd, to my knowledge has received one "present" in 7 and a half years....when she was 2, a pair of shoes that were too small....(bought in sale) I sent them back with dp, respectfully asking if they could be changed...she sent them back saying I knew nothing at all about children, they "had" to wear tight shoes.

-dd's first birthday, worst day of my life. I had spent a week fielding phone calls from dp's sisters who are her henchmen as to the "rights" of their mother to come to our house. (dp had already arranged to take dd to their house, with a cake the day after) They told him not to bother.

When her time comes, I'll dance on her grave. That doesn't make me a very nice person, possibly, but sometimes you react to how you've been treated.

Oops, was this supposed to be a fun thread?

My MIL ignores my children, and the few times we do visit she always has some nasty comment ready and waiting for them. she thinks she's being funny and ignores the upset she causes them. We stay away now and only DH visits when he really really has to.

My MIL regularly tells me that DH was out of nappies at 9 months. She holds DD (days off being 9 months now herself) and stage-whispers to her, 'oooh, you won't be in nappies for long'.

I have to sit on my hands to stop myself poking her in the eye.

Wow Bucharest, I really can't follow that. Mine is PITA but I feel quite fortunate having read that.

Sent my 13 year old nephew to 'help' me for two weeks, just after I gave birth to our second child.

It almost led to divorce between DH and I.

kreecher - my DP remembers all the absolutely horrible things his mother said about me... and also about his exW... and all his previous GFs. She is beyond vile.

Fortunately for me, I was old and wise when I met her, never had any expectations of being liked by her and have never been remotely bothered by any of it. Which of course riles her hugely!

Is it bad that, while i obviously love my own mother more, my MIL is actually much nicer to me and a lot more pleasant to spend time with?

purplepidjin - that's how my DP feels about my mother - he can spend several days pleasantly co-habiting with my parents, in their house or in ours, but cannot spend more than about an hour with his own mother before his patience wears thin!

My MIL is lovely and we have no problems. But, she did visit once and moved my 3 cannisters of Coffee, Tea and Sugar apart so there were gaps between. I was a bit and pushed them together as always. Few days later , a spaced them out again - it did look much better!

MIL told my husband that I am just like his first wife after I was too angry to speak to her when she upset my DH..............that wasn't a compliment at all as ex is an evil, nasty woman and our relationship will never be the same.
They have also only visited me for 2 2 hour visits in the 5 months my husband has been in Afghanistan. She wouldn't even change DS nappy despite always wanting to do it when he was first born and it pretty bloody obvious I was shattered and tired of the wrestling involved in changing DS nappy. Then she moans to DH that she rarely sees her grandson. Not my problem as I have offered them to come down for weekend but they choose not to and I have no money to drive to theirs as only on half pay at moment.

She also thinks it's me stopping him from seeing his daughter more often..it's not....he doesn't have the money to and although I have paid for flights for him in the past and paid of his debts on more than one occasion I can't carry on doing it as funnily enough we have to pay our mortgage first.

Where are the FIL's in all this?

Why does the blame always fall on to MIL?