to ask you to tell me the annoying things your MILs do/ have done? (just for fun)

[IHaveAPainINMyNeck]

to make me feel more benevolent towards mine??

begonyabampot Sounds just like the sort of toxic controlling thing my MIL would do.

She likes to meet me in town for a coffee, and always insists on paying for it. And cake. Witch.

My FIL is an utter shit DoingTheBestICan.

My (step)fil turned up at my wedding despite knowing that noone wanted him there (even MIL) got pissed, kept trying to chat up my sister (she was 18, he's in his 40's) by asking her if she was courting yet and explaining how big she's gotten since he last saw her (when she was 14) and by "big" he meant her boobs, if the direction of his eyes was anything to go by.

He then tried to make out that my mum was sloshed (she has a history of alcohol abuse) despite the fact she had had 1 glass of wine but he couldn't even walk straight, just to try and start a fight with her. My mum fortunately rose above it. He then tried to drive home with his dcs aged 4, 6 and 10 in the car until MIL told him where to go and that if he wanted to drive drunk he didn't take her children with him.

Luckily he ignores me and ds when we are there but I'm always happy to let ds have a good old tantrum while FIL is trying to watch tv. It usually results in him leaving the house which makes everyone else happy.

Both my inlaws were a pain in the arse at times,showing favouritism & various other things but MIL died just before Christmas & FIL is now the best Grandad ever.

I just dont get these sort of threads where its all Tell me your best MIL horror stories

Where are the father in laws? My father in law is lovely, so he was probably telling her to butt out and mind her own business. It was nothing to do with him, so its not fair to lump him in with it.

My MIL (now deceased) was most odd

• she told me at 17 I wasnt very funky and at 17 should be wearing leggings like her (i wore plain black she wore ones that made her legs look exploded) *referred to me as a dog from the dogs home who didnt know how to be treated *continually called me every gfs name H had had and then by his ex wifes name and the dogs name. *she lived next door and continually knocked on the wall so dh would go and have a pow wow with her *had dh miss ds1s forst scan because she wanted to leave her holiday early and demanded he pick her up- when he got there she asked him to stay the rest of the week. *referred to me as lolita *took h shopping and told him id be ok at the hospital with ds1 (who was having a brain scan). *when we came home she took ds out for a walk up the street in his new pram ....she actually took him everywhere and showed him off . *told me i looked like a gypsy then like Elvis.

Theres lots my father in law however is fab .

because DoingTheBestICan the MIL vs DIL relationship is a very specific one, often fraught with irritations - it's different than the relationship you have with your own family or friends, you can't always speak out about your issues for fear of upsetting the applecart.

Not all MILs are annoying, or mean to be annoying, but sometime it is fun just to share those annoying things with others who understand so you know you aren't alone.

Can I ask, how come your FIL is only now the best Grandad ever now MIL has died??

I love these!
I hate my MIL and she hates me and hearing other dreadful stories make me feel 'normal'.

My MIL physically threw me out the house and I landed on my hands and knees in the garden.
Then wondered why she wasnt invited to our wedding. (DH was under pressure from family friends so she was invited against my wishes and sadly came) Then completely ignored me and has never apologised.
DH takes the Dc to visit and I was stupid enough to allow her to come for Xmas lunch.

I was foolish enough to marry her beloved only son.

Forgot to add that when my MIL visited at Christmas she POSTED HER BEDDING TO DUBAI ahead of her. I received the parcel about a week before she arrived. In her suitcase she had:

• a rug
• a bedside lamp
• a bath mat
• a vase and dried flowers
• one of those twee little "welcome" signs
• two framed prints to hang on the wall
• some candles

She brought these things to DUBAI from MANCHESTER. She is a lunatic.

Yes, the room she was staying in was unfurnished for a while but we had planned to make it lovely for her and had bought pretty much all of the above list (not her colours apparently).

Mine was looking after our 3 children and left them home alone while she "nipped to the shop" 10 mins away (they were 5, 7, 9 at the time) and left the cooker on with full Sunday lunch, potatoes boiling etc.

We arrived before she got back and she cried when dh pulled her up on it, said she "didn't think she'd done anything wrong".

She was the child protection officer at her school before she retired, too!

dubaipieeye your MIL sounds truly mental!!

Ihaveapain, thank you - see that lovely feeling when someone agreed with me is what these threads are all about!

Because he calls round & actually spends time playing with our ds,this was an unheard off before.

We enjoy spending time in each others company now & he eats with us quite a few times in the week now.

I think he is not stressing over mil anymore,as she had various medical conditions,& thus he is enjoying his family now.

I accept the relationship between MIL/DIL is a unique one & takes time & effort on each others part to make it work,it just saddens me when i read threads about moaning dils for no real reason. (I agree though that the MIls on this thread are very strange)

My MIL told me I was fat 3 months after losing a baby daughter & when we went to visit them a few months later my DH made me go on a night out with his mum & sister and they were talking about dead babies all night with no consideration to my feelings at all - Needless to say I cannot stand my MIL because after 14 years with DH I have had enough of her attitude.

Oh and after she left she sent me 163 pictures of the room she had decorated . 163.

Breathe?!

dubai I'd gladly swap MILs yours sounds a right laugh!

My MIL likes to be "helpful" in ways that get under my skin.

My house is immaculate but when left alone in our house she will do things like:

• clean the washing machine powder drawer (seriously, life is too short!)
• rearrange the cupboards
• pull out-of-date items from the backs of the fridge/cupboards

And then point this all out to me in front of anyone who's there, especially DH.

DH doesn't give a stuff about anything behind cupboard doors that he can't see!

But the most annoying thing she's ever done is to get DH accustomed to a spotlessly-clean sterile and lifeless clutter-free existence without him having to lift a finger to make it so (she had domestic help her whole life) so that DH notices and complains whenever our house is a tiny bit untidy or DD leaves her toys out (she's 2).

My mother in law is generally great. However, she has one habit which drives me bonkers....or did, until DH had a word. She would call at the house unnanounced. Now, often she didn't want to stay-it might be a flying call to drop something off, but it really irked that she wouldn't think to call ahead to say "I'm popping/can I pop over". It's just so alien to me. Especially as I rarely answer the door unless I am expecting someone. DH used to think I was making too much of it-"She leads such a busy life, she just doesn't think" until two recentish occasions when she called when we had just finished having a row and another, when we had had a lazy morning, were in our PJ's and settling down for a late brunch. So, he bit the bullet and said "Mum, can you call ahead before coming over please". So far, she has.

Mil is a difficult and selfish woman. She was an only child and very spoilt, FIL has spoilt her too. She had 2 DCs and even though they are now 36 and 39 she still wants to be the centre of their world.

Everything has to be on her terms, when we see her, where we see her. However, as a newlywed I let her get away with too much really. Now I am older and wiser I am not a pushover. DDs are not small anymore and I make the rules over visiting. I only wish that I had learnt to do this sooner.

Luckily for me sil moved closer to her last year and she now has access to be involved more in her life combined with me not having babies anymore means she leaves us alone. We have the occasional duty visit. The DDs are not interesting to her as she loves babies and toddlers. If I was to have another we would be back to square one and I would be fending her off with a big stick again!

My sister has a lovely mil who she is very close too. Lucky her.

My MIL could not be more wonderful. Unfortunately her own daughter takes her completely for granted, and walks all over her. I am sure she would happily adopt any disatisfied DILs out there!

The most annoying thing my MIL has ever done is to be a really wonderful woman and make me realise how shit my own mother was!

Mine's generally wonderful.

However, she does try to comfort ds if he throws a tantrum and she knows that we deliberately ignore.

She also overcooks everything, but that's more of a charming quirk than something annoying.

I secretly cannot stand my mil(wish I was brave enough to tell her!). A few things she has done-
Came over the day I got out of hosp(after c section) and sat on her arse for hours while I entertained them(this happened twice-more fool me!).
Phones dh in tears that she is bored because fil is ill and she has noone to entertain her(tough!-you a grown women and got cash and a car!).
Called dh and I weirdos because we refused to go a ny eve party(the year we lost our first son-the darkest part of both our lives).
The biggie that has pissed me off the most.Chose to sell fil business to bil(even though dh wanted them both to buy it as a partnership) and then when bil changed his mind at the very last minute,sold it to a friend instead!.
Also goes on and on about how much she loves her gc but babysits them once a year!(no exaggerating). Makes snide comments about me being a sahm(well offer to help with childcare then you old moo!).
Goes on and on about how her and fil are poor pensioners(no your not-you own two properties and have thousands in the bank!).
Is a complete hypochrondiac and is always moaning about her many ailments(in great detail).
My worst nightmare is fil dying first as think she would want to live with us!!. Neve,never,never!!!.