mn is a public website. We do not sign up to terms and conditions that say threads may not be discussed outside of mn, on twitter etc...

[wannaBe]

yep, thread about a thread... big deal.

so - thread started on mn. Another poster tweeted about said thread, came back to the thread and said she'd tweeted about it.

Subsequently posters called for her to be banned for tweeting about a sensitive thread, followed by lots of other nasty name-calling.

Thing is, the thread was public anyway. You don't have to be logged into mn to view it. You don't have to have a button next to each post to tweet about it - all you'd have to do is copy/paste the link into twitter. Once you put your private business on a public website you lose control over what happens to it/who talks about it/tweets about it/potentially writes about it in the press.

To suggest that a poster should be banned for talking about a thread that is on a public website, on another public website is ridiculous.

Mn has hundreds of thousands of hits a day. People are very naive if they think that their private, sensitive business is limited to the few people that post on the threads in question.

And people do discuss mn on twitter. Both in terms of threads/the potential genuineness of posters/the outcomes of threads. It's just that they don't come back on to mn to talk about having done so.

I'm not missing the point. SS has a real problem involving people she actually knows - lives with and loves no less - and she is being distracted by this crap.

I would imagine if SS reports this thread and tells MN it is distressing her, they would get rid. In fact they probably will in a minute anyway.

Very well. I am happy to preface all my posts with "I found this thread on Active Convos" if it makes you happy.

I saw this thread this morning and thought 'Yes, I agree with wannabe, this is a piblic forum'

How can a fairly sensible and rational OP turn into this massive bunfight? The thread was not mentioned, why do people have to go all Miss Marple and find out exactly what others are talking about.

It didn't matter what the 'other' thread was.

It was a good point which has now been lost forever in this bitter fighting.

So FWIW, and ignoring everything else, yes, this is a public forum, and epopel woudl do well to realise this is more easily accesible than twitter, or fb, or anything else it is linked to

actually I came onto it from Active Conversations - is that ok??

Can you imagine before I every post

"I came from netmums"

"I came from the UK feminists forum"

"I came from the daily mail"

"I came from newbiscuit"

"I came from x,y,z thread"

"I came to the Masterchef thread because someone kindly posted on my FB to remind me from FB because the OP/OP's friend posted a link"

"I came from The Register"

SS
I do understand your upset. I would be too.

I don't think there is anything that MNHQ can do that hasn't already been done, tbh. Yes, they could put a note at the top of Relationship topic asking that threads of a sensitive nature should not be posted on twitter for the amusement of others, but really is that not a matter of common decency and respect?

oh I forgot the

"I came from a link on MNHQ's Twitter/FB pages"

And to get back to Wannabe's OP.

Everyone who posts on MN should be aware that this is not a private website. It is open. Anyone can google.

I am sure that if someone were to search for me, they would find me within a matter of minutes. Like Wannabe, I am very identifiable. Which is why I post anything of a very sensitive nature in chat.

I've replied on Twitter Lenin, I don't think anyone has ever come onto a thread and said 'I've just tweeted your thread' but that doesn't mean it hasn't happened lots.

I've been on MN for about 9 years so I find all the threads though active convo's, just saying

It's probably a good thing that will make some people think twice before posting

wow - you've really got it in for WannaBe haven't you? Despite the fact that in her second post on the thread she said

"tbh what thread it was isn't really that relevant, although admittedly it was a fairly sensitive thread. However, I would say that the more sensitive the thread the more people should think before posting if they don't want others to talk about it. "

To me that reads a generic - yes a certain thread prompted me to start this thread - but it's not specifically about it.

Which with WannaBe wouldn't surprise me - as she's posted about similar issues before.

Dittany
I disagree. The point is a good one. Asking for a poster to be banned because she linked was an overreaction.

Posters need to be aware that their thoughts and problems are not anonymous.

And those on twitter should adhere to a code of decency when posting a thread on twitter.

"Interesting thread, what do you think?" - if it were linked like that then I suspect that SS would not have been so bothered.

We seem to be sailing into calmer waters

Which is good, but now can we think about whether or not we need to have a 'kindness and decency' reminder on the top of sensitive threads for those who have none (either kindness or decency)

How on earth can this be bad? It might just stop a careless gossip from sharpening a knife.

"Why should a woman who is facing a problem like that have to think twice before posting? "

Because it is a public forum, which will come up in search results (I know someone earlier said it was intelligent Google - but with safe search on strict, after clearing my entire history etc it still came up - and I've found threads on computers which I know don't use MN - like my best frends - via google very easily before.

It is public, it's searchable, the only thing someone can't do without registering is post.

SS - because quite often sensitive threads aren't posted in the "obvious" topics, and often there are quite light hearted threads which aren't of a particularly sensitive nature in the "sensitive" topic areas.

No - she didn't open her up - she refused to name the thread when asked - it was someone else which mentioned which thread it was on.

It could have happened on any thread really - even a light hearted one in "only joking" - and WannaBe could have started the exact same thread topic only not mentioning the fact it was a "sensitive post"

i think the eye roll was at me

i didn't put the name calling down to fgm
never occurred to me