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To think that ALL state schools don't just produce teenage pregnancies, but valuable members of society?

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webbygeek91 · 20/02/2011 17:37

To think that ALL state schools don't just produce teenage pregnancies, but valuable members of society?

Funny seeing some threads, as I remember going to my godmothers DS picnic & nursery sports day, and this seemed to be the view of one parent.

It was in Hampshire though...

I just laughed.

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coccyx · 20/02/2011 17:39

just state schools???

Hammy02 · 20/02/2011 17:41

I went to a state school and not a single person got pregnant. Some people live such closed lifes that they have no idea. The same people that think there are no wealthy people 'up-North'!

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webbygeek91 · 20/02/2011 17:43

Hammy, that's exactly who I'm talking about :D

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LaWeasel · 20/02/2011 17:48

My mother informed me that DD will stick out at state school because she says please and thank you. Hmm

I have worked in state schools and know this not remotely true (why would it be?!) but my mum has too! So I have no explanation for anyone believing such bull shit.

Fwiw, I went to private school and a couple of girls got pg, but all but one had abortions. I think I heard that is true nationally? PG rates about equal for everywhere, but in less rich areas girls more likely to keep going with the PG than in wealthy ones.

create · 20/02/2011 17:50

The only teenage pregnancy I was aware of as a teenager was a girl who went to a very expensive fee paying convent school Shock

GMajor7 · 20/02/2011 17:58

Believe it or not there are state schoools in Hampshire as well. Hell....there are even poor people Hmm

A1980 · 20/02/2011 18:28

I'm state school educated all the way. I'd like to think I'm a valuable member of society.

I have a degree and a good job....

KnittingRocks · 20/02/2011 18:30

One friend told me that she thought she should send her 4 yr old DS to private school because he could already read and therefore would be streets ahead of all the state school kids Hmm.

I put her straight pretty quickly!

LadyOfTheManor · 20/02/2011 18:32

I was privately educated. With an excellent degree and MA. I don't know if I am a valued member of society, but I don't really care.

reelingintheyears · 20/02/2011 18:38

I suppose the question should be

'Am i a valuable member of society' as opposed to valued.

A degree in something or other doesn't make a person any better than anyone else.

LadyOfTheManor · 20/02/2011 18:41

I am a big believer in the theory that education differentiates the social classes.

Money helps that theory along too.

vj32 · 20/02/2011 18:43

A school I worked at received a congratulatory letter because they had no teen pregnancies in a year group of nearly 300.

Current school a girl in year 10 has just left on maternity leave. She did not want the baby, but did not tell anyone until it was too late to consider an abortion - just ignored it and hoped it would go away.

Of course all schools turn out fantastic young people. But that doesn't remove the fact that in some schools unfortunately it is relatively normal to be pregnant at 14 or 15. Doesn't make unwanted teen pregnancy any less tragic either.

reelingintheyears · 20/02/2011 18:49

But privately educated young ladies don't get up the duff do they?

And the Daddies don't get their GFs up the duff..

Nooo.

LadyOfTheManor · 20/02/2011 18:58

We didn't have any pregnancies when I was in school...and not in A level year either.

However, the local state school has a little rehab for the single teen mothers it is forever churning out.

create · 20/02/2011 19:00

Maybe all that superior education teaches you how to do these thing discretely though reeling Wink And to "deal with" the consequences Sad

As Laweasel says, the poorer girls are more likely to go on to have the babies.

echt · 20/02/2011 19:02

ladyofthemanor I doubt if the local state school is really churning out single mums. Not on the curriculum , you know. But then you don't know, do you?

Also, you do not know there were no pregnancies when you were at school. They could have had abortions.

Amieesmum · 20/02/2011 19:03

Not the state school i went too. They all got pregnant.

Okay not all, i can think of about 8 or 9 girls in my year who didn't. The school was closed a few years after i left thank goodness, one teacher used to actually let us nip out for a fag break with her half way though her double lesson.

I should add i actually went to a private school until i was 13/14, then went mad at state school because i was so bored, and teased for being "posh"

I don't think most state schools are like this & think parents & schools together should be more open in educating their kids about pregnancy, because as far as these girls see it, they are having a "baby" who is all cute and cuddly, they don't tend to think of them as small people.

I should add, i fell pregnant at 16, and have been a reasonably good parent brining my daughter up to be polite, respectful & confident. I haven't always been a drain on society either.
Not all teenage parents are the pram pushing hoodies you see outside macdonalds.

LadyOfTheManor · 20/02/2011 19:10

echt, I went to an all girls' boarding school. There weren't any pregnancies. Why can't people accept that some members of society have different values than others?

I value my parents' opinion of me and I wouldn't have jaded that by falling pregnant as a teenager.

Then again I wasn't aware that there were SO many benefits available to those that did...perhaps that's why they did it?

If we look at the majority it'll fall into a pattern of ill-educated parents, ill-educated children HAVING children.

There is some truth to the stereotyping.

create · 20/02/2011 19:17

Lady, what you say may well be true and obviously you know how you felt about it. FWIW that's exactly how I felt, so we share those values , you and I despite my education being gained in a sink comp, but how can you possibly know there were no pregancies at your school?

Diamondback · 20/02/2011 19:21

Erm, over 90% of the population attend state schools (not that you'd know it, looking at parliament and the media), so I don't think this is a big issue...

vj32 · 20/02/2011 19:21

It is often about lack of love and lack of ambition, not about wanting benefits. (Which, incidentally, you won't get much of at 16 anyway).

LadyOfTheManor · 20/02/2011 19:23

Well it was a boarding school in a remote village. We were "gated" and not given free time (after buggering about with a lacrosse stick in the rain for 2 hours every day after school). Plus none of the girls "disappeared". Abortions may have gone on, but there was no men to impregnate them...Unless if happened in the summer holidays. That could've been the possibility.

So while I was dragged off to bastard Disney World every year, they must have all been getting pregnant and getting un-pregnant in time for term start. Good theory.

LadyOfTheManor · 20/02/2011 19:24

VJ- I agree about the lack of ambition, but surely it softens the blow that you know you can be taken care of y tax payers' money? Especially if that's how the parents have survived (not all but some).

Monkey see, monkey do in a lot of cases.

vj32 · 20/02/2011 19:26

So, LadyOftheManor, what you are really saying is that you and your friends lacked the opportunity to get pregnant. Thats true. If you lock girls up they are very unlikely to get pregnant.

Wook · 20/02/2011 19:27

Ladyofthemanor there were no men to impregnate them. Couldn't they manage to teach you subject verb agreement at this posh boarding school?