bulling on mumsnet.

[threefeethighandrising]

Yes, this is a thread about a thread. Or lots of threads in fact. So shoot me.

I'm shocked saddened by the level of bullying that goes on, particularly in AIBU.

I'm not complaining about people speaking their minds. One of the things I love about mumsnet is frank exchanges, that people can say what they want.

What worries me is a nasty group mentality - people ganging up on a poster - usually a new one - and picking apart their story and being absolutely, unforgivably nasty to them.

We teach our DCs to stand up to bullies. Well, how do we stand up to these ones?

I've recommended mumsnet to many people over the years, as a place you can find fantastic support, frank and honest opinions. Those kinds of threads make me question whether this is a place I should be inviting any one other than those with a very think skin. Which is a real shame IMO.

I'm not really asking AIBU. I am asking how we can stand up to bullies on mumsnet. I've posted it here because it happens here a lot.

And I have to go out now, so don't think I don't want to engage, just gotta go.

It's nice here really, give us all a chance and chill.

Tis true!

I am pissed off now !

See?

Such a short fuse

Bibs - (or should it be ?)

"I genuinely thought the thread was made up, for a laugh, as happens a lot."

Thanks for your honesty hullygully.

The thing about that thread is that it could be made up, but I really don't think you can be sure. And what if it isn't made up? Isn't it better to err on the side of caution? Because if people get it wrong and call troll on someone like this when they are in fact genuine, then what you've got is a vulnerable woman who's been sexually assaulted being attacked (verbally) again by a bunch of strange women. Isn't it best to avoid that?

Truth is often stranger than fiction after all.

"It's nice here really, give us all a chance and chill."

I know. I've been here a few years and for the most part I think it's great.

That is true.

Listen, you'll love me when you get to know me, won't she ol Bibs? And mostly what I do is go about getting people to love each other and sprinkling glitter - so there you go, fact is indeed stranger!

Really gotta go now.

let us all love each other and sing.

I'll have the thanks and its a lovely day here so am going out to play in my garden. Have had my say on this subject.

Oh sorry - I must have you mixed up with the other one that didn't like bulling and was new

Not new, just don't like bullying. Or bulling - sounds painful!

threefeet, the way you seem to want to manipulate the way I/others post on a thread (whether it be mindless banter or not) is rather disturbing and actually quite rude IMO.

I do not wish to feel bullied into posting in a manner more suitable to you. Please stop asking me to change.

If any of my posts have offended you in any way, please report them and I'll take my punishment, however I do believe you won't find anything as such.

No loss rosie that was merely me offering a hand of friendship

Some grab the Baton of Banter
Others ram it up their arse.

at Bibs going to play in the garden... wish I didn't have to stay at work

Hullygully what made you think I'm new?
I'm interested.

That's nice of you SarahStrattonHasNiceBears

So was trying to be friendly with rosie threefeet. At least I tried. Imagine if it had been the other way round and I had been the doing the rejecting. I'd have been shouted down for bulling.

"That's nice of you SarahStrattonHasNiceBears"

threefeethighandrising - what exactly makes you think that your sarcastic comment is any different to the other sarcastic comments which you disapprove of?

the only one on this thread now doing any manipulation (dare I say the word bullying) is actually the you the OP.

Then again, I suppose your response will be "well sarahstratton seems to be tough so it's different etc etc ....."

I'm not really expecting an answer but you can see where I'm going with this can't you...??

Bullied ? They are not bullies, they are just blunt and rude , with no sensitivity to anyone elses situation.

While we're on this subject, what do people think of this thread? (current, not long)www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1157831-I-dont-want-to-dump-him-but-Im-going-to-have-to-arent-I-sad

I've got to go sorry, will come back later after some