bulling on mumsnet.

[threefeethighandrising]

Yes, this is a thread about a thread. Or lots of threads in fact. So shoot me.

I'm shocked saddened by the level of bullying that goes on, particularly in AIBU.

I'm not complaining about people speaking their minds. One of the things I love about mumsnet is frank exchanges, that people can say what they want.

What worries me is a nasty group mentality - people ganging up on a poster - usually a new one - and picking apart their story and being absolutely, unforgivably nasty to them.

We teach our DCs to stand up to bullies. Well, how do we stand up to these ones?

I've recommended mumsnet to many people over the years, as a place you can find fantastic support, frank and honest opinions. Those kinds of threads make me question whether this is a place I should be inviting any one other than those with a very think skin. Which is a real shame IMO.

I'm not really asking AIBU. I am asking how we can stand up to bullies on mumsnet. I've posted it here because it happens here a lot.

Last word goes to.....

LAST POST!!

Im relatively new to mumsnet and have found most posters to be very helpful and charming. However, after reading some people's posts I did feel bullying was going on, i also thought what chance do our kids have when parents are shouting(typing) abuse at each other, no wonder bullying is alive and well. I also don't think its a matter of being oversensitive, is this what you tell a child who feels this way? Yes we are not children but feeling singled out and ridiculed is not nice no matter what age. It's a forum and people have different opinions - do not put people down for differing from your own.

Oh good gawd!

The thing is, the thread has moved on. Or should it now be reserved only for people who think there is bullying on Mumsnet.

I don't think anyone has disagreed that there can be hateful stuff posted here.

The so-called anti bullies mainly seem to be saing that they don't agree there is systematic bullying of specific posters or groups of posters by individual posters or groups of posters. Or that there is so little as to be negligible anyway.

The one poster who I think has been treated poorly on a couple of occasions does not seem in the least bit cowed by the experience!

I am not sure what grace, lysithia and and Gmajor7 want on this thread. Do you want everyone else to go away and leave you to it?

Doesn't that feel like ganging up and herding people with an opposing pov off the board?