bulling on mumsnet.

[threefeethighandrising]

Yes, this is a thread about a thread. Or lots of threads in fact. So shoot me.

I'm shocked saddened by the level of bullying that goes on, particularly in AIBU.

I'm not complaining about people speaking their minds. One of the things I love about mumsnet is frank exchanges, that people can say what they want.

What worries me is a nasty group mentality - people ganging up on a poster - usually a new one - and picking apart their story and being absolutely, unforgivably nasty to them.

We teach our DCs to stand up to bullies. Well, how do we stand up to these ones?

I've recommended mumsnet to many people over the years, as a place you can find fantastic support, frank and honest opinions. Those kinds of threads make me question whether this is a place I should be inviting any one other than those with a very think skin. Which is a real shame IMO.

I'm not really asking AIBU. I am asking how we can stand up to bullies on mumsnet. I've posted it here because it happens here a lot.

rosability and GMajor I agree.

All too often people come on and tell posters 'if you don't like it fuck off'.

I tend not to converse with people of that mentality and have found some lovely people on MN so I certainly shall not be leaving.

One can have an opinion that there is bullying on MN without needing to leave. It is simply that - an opinion.

No Kaz. Why?

Me either

No reason Sarah, it's just me, I seem to take all the things surrounded by < > as a joke, I didn't think you were joking is all....sorry for the confusion.

LeQueen - you don't remember throwing a textbook at me? Or eyeing me up like a limping zebra...

Maybe I've got you mixed up with someone else...sorry...

I am not sure about bullying but I know that people can say things that can actually hurt someone and spill over to RL

at boobjob

I think there are loads of bullies on MN

Who?

Not one person has managed to say even one.

I might as well say there are loads of wimpy moany old minnies, or raging psychopaths, or indeed - anything. Just because you say something doesn't make it so.

I think there are loads of celebrities on Mumsnet

< taps nose >

If we say we get banned don't we? We will become trolls

Oh dearie dearie me

you mean Peter Andre is really here?

< rubs six pack suggestively >

of course loads of celebs on here!

Lick - that is not what a troll is.

A troll makes up stuff to get reactions, either funny (rare these days) or emotionally manipulative, or downright barking.

Roseability

I am NOT saying that if you cant stand the heat get out the kitchen , no , that would suggest I am saying if you cant stand up to the bullies then leave and I am not saying that as I do not believe I have seen bullying on here and YES I DO KNOW what bullying is and have been bullied so I am quite capable of identifying the difference between sarcasm, wit, adult speak and bullying thank you very much.

I would say for them that dont like it here /or parts of it then dont visit the bits ya dont like or dont visit at all.
Its the difference between a "cocktail bar yah" or a bloody good "lets get leathered" pub crawl.

Me?? I prefer the pub crawl, a lot les phony and a lot more fun type people to mix with.

What I do not understand is why if you (thats the collective you btw) perceive it as bullying you keep coming back, Report it to whoever it is you report offensive posts to MNHQ I think and be done with it...
This place is far to big and well known within the media to allow the sort of bullying of which you speak, the publicity of bullying would do more harm then good so I am sure HQ would deal with it pretty pronto if they saw any bullying.....they want good publicity , not to be known as a bullying site as some sites have had in the past when the media got hold of it and the sites get closed down..

OMG Imagine if MN got closed down , zillions of mums and babies up and down the country suffering from MN withdrawal... there would be anarchy , I say anarchy (said in Fred Elliot voice)

Hullygully I gave two examples of what I call bullying. Follow the links and you'll see what I mean.

At the end of the day it doesn't matter what you call it. I quite like aggressive sheep as was suggested earlier. Let's call it that instead.

So, when the aggressive sheep attack a poster I think that kind of behavior is something that they should be pulled up on.

I don't understand how people can think that kind of treatment of another person is OK. Would you do it in RL?

And no I won't fuck off to netmums, thank you very much. I like it here.

The vast majority of threads don't have bullying on them. Why should we let a few spiteful cows ruin it for the rest of us?

Who are the spiteful cows? I was on one of the threads you referred to. Am I one of them? I think I should be told if I am.