AIBU to think perhaps people should be looking after their children instead of arguing with strangers on the internet?

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Firstly, I fully expect you all to flame me - feel free.
Secondly, I am aware of the obvious contradiction in suggesting that people should have better things to do than be on MN, when I am clearly on MN in order to type this, so please try to resist the urge to endlessly point this out.

I am name changing for this, but this is the second time I have been on MN since my daughter was born 5 months ago.

I used to come on MN quite a lot. It was helpful when I was pregnant and constantly obsessing about childbirth and pregnancy in general. I also think it is probably a really useful source of support for things like feeding, sleeping, special needs etc.

However, now that my baby is here, I find that I have more than enough to do looking after her and trying to keep up with everything else in my life.

I am amazed at the number of people who seem to have a number of children, and yet have time to argue prolifically with total strangers over the internet about their useless husbands/annoying children/vile mother in law/tedious customer service complaints at the supermarket, etc etc etc.

Seriously? Have you nothing better to do?If you have children, I find it hard to believe that you don't!!

How does OP know who is on the internet all day if she is so rarely on it herself?

my 3 wk old has reflux so has to remain upright for at least 30 mins after feeds.She is now a right little mumsnetter propped up in the crook of my arm perusing the aibu threads of a night.

Mine are at school during the day, and when they get home they all refuse point blank to do any gluing and sticking, or to play with lovely home-made playdough, or join in with any of the lovely, educational board games that the ELC sell, or read aloud with me - so I mumsnet instead.

BTW - did I mention that they are 13, 15 and 17!

OP, YANBU, the first couple of pages confirms this imo, I was impressed by the Velociraptor(ish) way in which you were ganged up on. MNet is getting a bit of a reputation for this methinks. But to be fair, they have been at home on a Saturday night so must be feeling a bit

mn bit of a reputation.hark at you grandma.oh'err a reputation

lol as bombastic words on a screen?aye that's about right,and mn all about the aggro.thats the point,the prodding and posturing with strangers

what exactly is a velociraptor(ish) way?

sounds like summat you stick doon yer pants

Booy - she is saying we all have disproportionately small arms in comparison to our bodies

Frankly, I take umbridge to that.

AIBU to be sick of MN bashing? There have been quite a few of these lately. Fair enough if you don't like the site, don't type in the URL/click the link etc. Complaining about what posters are or arent like is a bit pathetic really. Plus assuming the entire site is a certain way based on one small part of it (usually AIBU) because you can't be arsed to look further than Active threads is just lazy.

There are many parts of MN (the vast majority in fact) where people take the time to give advice to people who genuinely need it.

OP, it would seem you took advantage of that when you first found MN. If you can only find time in your busy schedule for one post then maybe is would have been more productively spent finding a thread about an issue or problem someone has that your recent experiences could have helped with instead of starting a thread that only encourages more of the behaviour you are complaining about? Not 'flaming' but a genuine suggestion.

her opinion is as valid -up to her how she feels about mn,and naturally others can
a) agree
b) contest

the joy is light moderation and range of posters.

Christ I can't believe I actually bothered to type all that out on my phone. Shoot me now. :o

Yes true SM I just get a bit bored of these sorts of threads. In which case I should take my own advice and ignore it.

You do have to be careful with talking to random strangers on the interweb though.

I mean - one minute there I was having a chat with a random stranger online. And a year later we were planning our wedding!

I am what you call "free parenting". There is probably a book on it.

Its amazing how much free time one gets.

Well its 8am and I'm back. Have made DS breakfast and put some washing on. He is playing Wii Mario Karts whilst I sit next to him having a coffee and MN.

OP what should I be doing?

Oh and I'm not ignoring him or I would have missed his comment 'there should be a law about the cars knocking me of the road' I am ignoring him now though as when I laughed he told me to 'shut up, it isn't funny'

OP - Surely you're doing something wrong then ?

My 12 week old DD sleeps through the night ( for now] so I have all the time in the world to MN or do whatever at from 8.30 pm till 12ish when I go to bed. Knowing that I in fact I don't neglect my daughther but she sleeps blissfully, do you feel better?

Now, you must have one of those "high-need" babies that at 5 months does not allow you to scratch your arse, never mind touch the computer.

You see, other people can be smug too. Helpful

YABU. not everyone has pre-school aged children on here. And mine both slept for hours as babies and I was bored silly stuck indoors. I would have chewed my right arm off for Mumsnet when mine were little.

If those people you criticise hadn't posted, you would not find all that valid info about pregnancy and babies when you were bored and pregnant. You're not king any sense.

making not king

surely op when you were pregnant you had less time on your hands,i had my dd 3wks ago and have more time free now than then, were you not working,attending appointments,shopping and getting things ready for the new baby?tsk tsk

look at us all up early with our chidren,where is the op?