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Benefit Bashing

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Kendodd · 18/02/2011 16:40

A mum I know and her DP with two children live in a two bed (nice) HA house. Neither of them work and have not worked for as long as I've known them (two years) I don't know about before then. She has told me they are trying for another baby, not to get a bigger house or anything, just because they want four children eventally. I would love four children but can't have that many because for one we just can't afford four.

AIBU to feel a bit pissed off that they can have more children and I can't or am I just a jealous benefit basher.

ps They are both nice and don't have a flatscreen TV.

OP posts:
BooyFuckingHoo · 19/02/2011 00:01

oh i was making a joke. are benefit claimants not allowed to do that either? can someone pleeeease tell me what i am allowed to do?

sheesh, and to listen to some you would think claiming is just one big barrel of laughs!!

anythingwithagiraffeonit · 19/02/2011 00:03

Popcrackle - married to a hard working husband? True, yes, but I also work hard. It's not 1950 for gods sake.

CrispyCakeHead · 19/02/2011 00:04

Booy, I've looked back and can't figure out what that post means either...can you clarify giraffeonit?

and there was me thinking that all the years you were a taxpayer counted for something Booy? I didn't realise it was a "now" priveledge to get state help. What are all those idle pensioners on, come to think of it?

popcrackle · 19/02/2011 00:05

Boo I'm not sure if you should be allowed to laugh. I mean someone working might get a bit upset with you and think that being on benefits gives you time to laugh while they are busy working, or claiming statutory maternity pay or whatever else they are doing..... Grin

anythingwithagiraffeonit · 19/02/2011 00:07

Boofuckinghoo or whatever... I already posted you why I wrote it. Scroll back. You decided to pick up on me writing 'benefit seekers' rather than responding to the point I was actually making. I would have thought it was quite obvious.

Jesus Christ - would you like it in paint by numbers as well?

No wonder you can't get a freaking job.

BooyFuckingHoo · 19/02/2011 00:08

all those years paying tax was to fund my membership of the "I'm entitled to an opinion, you are not you feckless lazy scrounger" smug twat club. i never went to the meetings though. maybe i should have, i would understand what giraffes and the like are on about.

anythingwithagiraffeonit · 19/02/2011 00:08

My company pays me maternity pay privately due to length of service....

I assume that was a dig at me? Yawn.

CrispyCakeHead · 19/02/2011 00:09

Oh yes, TV, because society would crumble without it? wtf?

I was merely pointing out that your uppityness about a degree (in film studies) and your assumption that myself and others were social leeches scrounging from the state was a bit misguided and that not all people who are pro-welfare state are benefactors of that state Hmm.....it's the philanthropistic nature of our society that makes it great imo.

BooyFuckingHoo · 19/02/2011 00:09

actually giraffes, that wasn't me who asked you to clarify again. i have already replied to say that i was making a joke. university educated you say? Hmm

popcrackle · 19/02/2011 00:11

Oh Giraffe you really do make me laugh. I can't resist posting. It was you who brought up your DH and your rosy situation. I guess you are unaware of how tough it is out there for others.

Anyhow I thought you were on maternity leave?? Do you mean working hard bringing up a child then?? Gosh you might have more in common with people on benefits than you think...

BooyFuckingHoo · 19/02/2011 00:13

and not that i need to justify my employment status to you (although to read this thread you would be forgiven for thinking i did have to) but i am in the middle of becoming registered for CMing. if you had read the thread you will have seen that it was what i left my job to do in May, 3 months before my partner left, meaning i had to claim income support.

anythingwithagiraffeonit · 19/02/2011 00:14

Crispy, close dictionary.com and actually read the thread? I never volunteered information that wasn't asked for... I didnt brag about my degree, I offered it as an answer to someone who said I was uneducated.

And would you prefer I quit my job because it doesn't meet with your socially aware criteria? And what? Join you on benefits?

I would like to assume that you would be of the mind that people should take any job they can get their hands on? Suddenly understanding a bit mire if why you're all claiming. You're only willing to accept a position as a.... What was it? Nurse or social worker?

This is hilarious.

CrispyCakeHead · 19/02/2011 00:15

but they also claim a portion of that back from the govt....the "statutory" part of your maternity pay. I would be VERY surprised if they didn't so you are, in effect, a recipient of state benefits; much as it may gall you to admit it.

lovely though this wee chat has been....needs must go to bed as the monsters are up at 5.30!

lovely to "meet" you TSC, Booy, popcrackle and theusualsuspects Smile

anythingwithagiraffeonit · 19/02/2011 00:16

Popcrackle I am on maternity leave, you are correct. My baby is 4 months old and yes, sometimes she is hard work.

However, the hard work I was referring to was my job, who are providing me with maternity pay.

BooyFuckingHoo · 19/02/2011 00:16

night crispy.

BooyFuckingHoo · 19/02/2011 00:17

in which of those posts is my apology hidden?

popcrackle · 19/02/2011 00:17

Now now Giraffe. You are being nasty, with your spectacular mis-post.

And let's go back to your Maternity Pay. Yes your company pays you an enhanced maternity pay, lucky you, but we, yes we, the tax payer, pay your Statutory Maternity Pay.

So you might actually want to thank Boo, who has contributed to you getting your statutory maternity pay, instead of your lowlife comment about not getting a job.

anythingwithagiraffeonit · 19/02/2011 00:22

My company pays my maternity pay.

Should I learn from Boofuckinghoo and keep reposting my last comment so as someone can respond to it?

And there will be no apologies made. You can bury this thread in goodnight kisses and enquiries about my life but the fact remains that the heart of this thread was based on the idea of having a child while on benefits, and the answer is don't do it.

Done.

Do you all really think, without trying to muster up an argument... That people with no income should TTC?? It's a joke.

popcrackle · 19/02/2011 00:23

Giraffe - You certainly do need an education, but more importantly you need a big massive dose of reality and humility.

CrispyCakeHead · 19/02/2011 00:24

what are you on about giraffes? Confused I'm not claiming anything and am not on benefits, never said I was, although I have claimed in the past. I never mentioned a career as a nurse or social worker? You mentioned your degree ain the context of it making you a more worthwhile member of society....I merely pointed out that there are better degrees out there.

I don't give a flying fuck what you do for a living tbh or how rosy and cosy your life is. I do give a fuck about swathes of society being written off by people too far up their own (nicely feathered) backsides to appreciate that for some people life is hard, through no fault of their own. People just like you and SP and others on this thread.

nighty night

BooyFuckingHoo · 19/02/2011 00:24

i didn't ask the last time. it was someone else you tit!!!

i am really starting to doubt this story about the university degree.

HHLimbo · 19/02/2011 00:26

Blimey is this thread for real? [yawn Shock]

my 2p worth;
OP those kids are going to be paying your bloody pension you bigot!

anythingwithagiraffeonit · 19/02/2011 00:26

I have reality.

Getting up at 5am to start a 10 hour shift at 7, essentially only seeing my husband at weekends, having to pay inflated prices on everything because of benefit scroungers... Paying a mortgage. Taking on overtime and freelance work on all days off to save so we can have a baby.

That's a reality and a half.

CrispyCakeHead · 19/02/2011 00:26

your company tops up your state maternity pay. they will claim the statuatory part from the govt. twas always thus and always will be.

MATB1 sound familiar? your company needed it so they could claim from the govt.

anythingwithagiraffeonit · 19/02/2011 00:32

Right, it's been lovely putting you all in your place but my phone is about to die and I have to go feed the baby!

And on that note - get a fucking job! Lol

Kisses!

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