now seriously, I want you to consider....

[justanotherbloke]

this question....

as a woman, what is it that makes you think that you are by right a better parent than a man?

I don't. My husband would do a better job as main carer than me.

it is always me the dcs turn to when they are hurt and unwell...

Errr... I don't?....

a mothers instinct

nothing

dh and I are both good parents

all my brothers have been as involved in raising their children as their partners

I don't. My husband is far more patient than me. I have my strengths, he has his. We are equal.

Now have a .

Any man? Can I pick a man or did you have one in mind? Because Joseph Fritzl and I'm winning.

I always wonder, in this day and age of equality, why main custoday seems to automatically go to the mother when parents separate? Unless I am wrong?

I don't. We're both better at differing aspects of parenting.

I don't.

He is better at some aspects of parenting and I'm better at others.

Hopefully we compliment each other.

Our children seem happy enough most of the time so we seem to be doing ok.

lol @ SoH

I don't for a second - that is why my DP is the SAHP, and I am the breadwinner

My patience and tendency to be more consistent (allows me to look after them day in day out). Please note this does NOT make me better than a man, but the attributes that are better than my DH. He is better at other things (taking swimming, music, inventive) and is a super parent too. Also I am far better at making DC look (vaguely) presentable and remember important things like remembering to take medicine and to remind them to pee before bed. If he did it every day, he'd soon learn (changing the sheets in the middle of the night would soon learn 'im but gets away with it because I am there to remember instead.

I think it's about the individual, not about whether male of female.

Hammy I think it's the parent with the most input into the child's life - the main carer.
In the early years, it's generally the mother that takes a career break or stays at home with the child.

I don't.
I'm better at some aspects of parenting than my DH, he's better at others.

Why do you ask?

I hadn't thought I was.

I don't, and don't know anyone who does. If main custody normally goes to the mother, that's likely because she is the 'primary carer' i.e. the one who stays home and/or does the majority of the childcare, and that way the disruption to the child is minimised as much as possible.

I should really have just said ...

The tits.

as a woman, what is it that makes you think that you are by right a better parent than a man?

Surely the question should be: As a woman, DO you think that you are a better parent than a man?

I think lots of women who consider themselves the most needed parent have brought it on themselves. (Not all, lots of)

I am a better parent than lots of men. I am inferior to lots of women.

as a man, I want you to consider what is it that makes you think that women think they are by right a better parent than a man?

SoH

I don't - I'm different and bring complementary skills and attributes to the parenting of our children.

The recent Panorama programme on 3rd generation families growing up without dads made me very angry (these were women who cultivated the mindset that dads had no role in family life).

I don't consider myself a better parent than my man.

I consider myself a better parent than some men. And some women. and a worse one than some men. and some women.

So?

Er
Do people still think this?

I am def better at bf though.

Nature has it's ways and so I think in most cases mothers are naturally better at interpreting what is best for their children. Though their are exceptions to any rule.

i like your responses... apart from the mothers instinct thing, it seems to say that fathers dont have instincts... and the joseph fritzl thing worried me a bit lol.
it is very much the case that guys have to fight for every minute of their time with their little ones, the courts do tend to give residence automatically to the mother for some reason. my experience of mothers is generally not a good one, i work with parents that want to see their kids and are prevented from doing so by malicious ex partners... and no, not just dads...
so if i may, can i ask another question... if, as it seems to be, that there are obvious benefits from having both parents in the littles life, why is it that some mothers behave the way they do in respect of preventing contact until the relationship is destroyed? any thoughts?