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AIBU?

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Original poster

to give DH's dinner to the kids....

108 replies

crappyspammyname · 15/02/2011 19:02

.......and tell him to sort himself out.

Dinner already to go, he likes to eat dinner with us all after work so I always have the dinner done for when he gets in.

He phoned me just now, when I was expecting him to walk in the door, saying he won't be home for another 2 hours, a late stay in the office. Not a problem, but a phonecall maybe earlier, so I can sort his out too. He'll get in and moan how hungry he is and expect me to have his dinner ready. Well tough, I have to put the kids to bed.

The dinner will spoil so I'm going to give his share to the kids and not leave him cold left overs.

So with such a trivial matter AIBU?

OP posts:
pjmama · 15/02/2011 19:05

Why can't you just plate it up and let him reheat it when he gets home? He did ring you to say he was going to be late.

compo · 15/02/2011 19:07

Yabu
he's been at work all day and will be home late
provide him some food fgs Grin

squeakytoy · 15/02/2011 19:07

It doesnt take two hour to put the kids to bed and make him something quick to eat.

Poor sod has been at work all day, does he not deserve a bloody meal?

Aims80 · 15/02/2011 19:07

It's not like he's out having fun, he's at work. Yabu. If you've made it anyway just leave it to heat up later.

AlaskaHQ · 15/02/2011 19:07

I do sympathise - this happens in our household from time to time.

I'd give it to the kids, and we generally have some easy to microwave in 5 minutes spare meals somewhere in the freezer.

sunndydays · 15/02/2011 19:08

Yabu but yes, he could have phoned you earlier, however it might have been out of his hands

slartybartfast · 15/02/2011 19:08

he's working not down the pub.
havent you cooked enough for everyone?

whydobirdssuddenlyappear · 15/02/2011 19:09

What have you made? Can't you put some on a plate, cover it with a bowl and put it in a low oven (about 70 degrees)? Is what I do with DH's dinner if he's going to be late.

fluffles · 15/02/2011 19:09

i agree that he should have called when he knew he wasn't leaving at his normal time.
no real excuse not to. any parent on pick up duty would have found the 30seconds to make that call.

dilbertina · 15/02/2011 19:09

YABU.

Don't suppose he is preferring to stay in office. Don't be a meanie!

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 15/02/2011 19:10

Why would you give it to the kids? Haven't they eaten already?

whydobirdssuddenlyappear · 15/02/2011 19:11

But perhaps he didn't know he was leaving late until last thing. Happens to my DH sometimes.
Seems a bit unkind not to leave him anything. He'll probably be so hungry by the time he gets in that he won't care if it's a bit carbonised Grin

spidookly · 15/02/2011 19:12

"He'll get in and moan how hungry he is and expect me to have his dinner ready."

Really?

Wow.

I would never expect my dinner on the table if I was coming home late.

You've made the family meal, he's missed it.

It's hardly some major imposition for a grown man to fix himself something to eat when he gets in.

gobbledegoop · 15/02/2011 19:12

I would say just leave him some and watch him eat it, however manky it tastes reheated!

That will teach him for not phoning sooner Wink

GabySolis · 15/02/2011 19:13

YABU. If you've made it already, why can't you just plate it up and then he can reheat it when he gets in?

FabbyChic · 15/02/2011 19:14

I agree with the majority that you should plate him some up and nuke it/reheat it later.

It doesn't take 2 hours to get kids to bed.

Alternatively make him a fresh dinner before he comes home.

It could have been last minute, or he might not have been able to call. Some people do work when they are at work.

GloriaSmut · 15/02/2011 19:14

You don't always get much warning of the need to stay late - everything is running nearly 2 hours late here since dp has unexpectedly found himself stuck at work waiting for a member of his staff who appears to have de-materialised. I'm not thrilled either but that's the way it goes sometimes.

So I think YABU by deliberating getting rid of your husband's supper. After all, if it is cooked anyway, it isn't the hardest job in the world to put his share to one side. To do otherwise is petty and spiteful. No matter how irritating the situation.

spidookly · 15/02/2011 19:18

No, I think she's only thinking of giving it to the kids because it won't keep, not to be spiteful.

Some dinners just don't reheat - e.g. spaghetti carbonara, the kids could have a bit extra and then the DH could find something else not completely gross when he gets in.

whydobirdssuddenlyappear · 15/02/2011 19:30

Spidookly, hence my asking what it was. Lots of things that wouldn't survive reheating have survived my bunging them in the oven on low with a pasta bowl over the top to keep them moist. Carbonara would, however, be a notable exception...

spidookly · 15/02/2011 19:33

gobble:
"I would say just leave him"

Whoa, MN is harsh! Wink

whydo I am filing your reheating method away for future use on non-carbonara meals :)

squeakytoy · 15/02/2011 19:35

carbonara reheats.. thats why you can buy it ready chilled to be nuked in every supermarket.. :)

spidookly · 15/02/2011 19:37

supermarket "carbonara" has cream in it usually

proper carbonara can't be reheated, it would be utterly boaksome

So OP, you must come back.

We can't say whether YABU until we know what kind of carbonara you're eating

midori1999 · 15/02/2011 19:38

I am always suprised by the amount of MN'ers who have such saint like patience this sort of thing doesn't annoy them.

He is BU by expecting you to do anything. That said, I would just leave his dinner for him to reheat when he gets in.

squeakytoy · 15/02/2011 19:39

lol... well she could make him a creamy carbonara and nuke it... or make him one from scratch in under ten mins Wink

whydobirdssuddenlyappear · 15/02/2011 19:42

yy supermarket carbonara is just white sauce with ham and mushrooms.
Try reheating real carbonara and you end up with spaghetti alla scrambled eggs. Not nice.

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