to give DH's dinner to the kids....

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.......and tell him to sort himself out.

Dinner already to go, he likes to eat dinner with us all after work so I always have the dinner done for when he gets in.

He phoned me just now, when I was expecting him to walk in the door, saying he won't be home for another 2 hours, a late stay in the office. Not a problem, but a phonecall maybe earlier, so I can sort his out too. He'll get in and moan how hungry he is and expect me to have his dinner ready. Well tough, I have to put the kids to bed.

The dinner will spoil so I'm going to give his share to the kids and not leave him cold left overs.

So with such a trivial matter AIBU?

am loving the fact that we're still banging on about this a good 14 hours later.

We don't even know what he had/didn't have in the first place!

As for is the OP BU, unless he's taking from the partnership more than he's giving, then yes YABU

I think thta the people who think that cooking supper being seen as the OP's job is sexist, are missing the point.

For me, the reason that cooking dinner is seen mainly as her job is because she is the stay-at-home parent, not because of her gender.

If a woman asked if she were being unreasonable to be upset that her dh (who is a sahp) expected her to come home and cook dinner after a full day's work, I suspect she would get a lot of pretty supportive responses, and he would be called lazy.

As a sahm, I do think that the cooking is more my job than dh's. I am lucky that he is willing to cook after a full day's work, because I suffer from depression, and sometimes struggle with even simple everyday jobs like this - but it is me who is responsible for planning the menu, doing the shopping, and doing most of the cooking - because I am in the home, and am therefore better placed to do these jobs.

I must have missed where the OP said she was a stay-at-home parent

YABU - my DH will sometimes call last minute because he's waiting on someone or a piece of work he thought he could finish on time hasn't finished or a meeting has overrun. He re-heats his meal when he finally gets in. No biggie. Work can be unpredictable and I am sure my DH doesn't want to stay late by choice!

BTW, I am not a SAHM, I work too (albeit from my home office) - as I clock off from work earlier than my DH it's easier for me to cook dinner. However, my DH enjoys cooking and will often ask me to hold off cooking until he gets home (around 8 or 8.30 on a good day) so he can have a turn :-)

Trifle I agree with you "I cant think of a single meal that wont 'keep'" either!!

I cook for all 5 of us every morning. I work afternoons and DH works full time getting in at 7.30pm. I microwave whatever I have cooked in the morning for the three kids at 6 pm, then microwave ours at about 8pm.

Somethings reheat better than others BUT apart from a souffle what else doesn't keep???

If you are the SAH parent then surely cooking is usually part of that role.

I suspect OP is just miffed that she's stuck at home and wants to make him suffer because he's not!

reheat it?