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Full school bus so DS sent in parent's car.

125 replies

Condensedmilkaddict · 15/02/2011 10:42

Would you care?

He is 13, and was at school sport training, but the bus was full, so had to go in a parent's car.

I have never met the other parent. And am obviously grateful he wasnt left there!

But a bit Hmm at school...Thought they would have had to get permission for that?

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AgentProvocateur · 15/02/2011 10:46

At three, I might have been a bit pissed off, but not at 13.

ZZMum · 15/02/2011 10:46

how nice of other parent to come to your son's rescue..

bupcakesandcunting · 15/02/2011 10:46

I would be a bit pissed off, yes.

bupcakesandcunting · 15/02/2011 10:47

P.S Not pissed off at the parent,was kind of them, but pissed of at the school.

PandaG · 15/02/2011 10:48

permission, CRB check, and correct car insurance I would have thought.

Very surprised school would sanction this. Better than him being left of course, but shouldn't the numbers have been checked to ensure places for everyone?

Personally I probably wouldn't mind if my child had a lift with a couple of others with a parent - regularly organise lift shares for scouts, and sometines give lifts to children I don't really know, but all parents are aware of the situation. Scouts won't organise lift shares though, so they are not liable.

MoonUnitAlpha · 15/02/2011 10:49

Sounds like very poor planning by the school - why wasn't there enough space on the bus?

Bramshott · 15/02/2011 10:49

I thought you meant as in, the bus to school in the morning, in which case you would NBU. However, in this scenario, at age 13, I wouldn't be that upset.

bubbleymummy · 15/02/2011 10:50

I wouldn't have been happy about it. You don't know if they're a good driver or anything.

Ormirian · 15/02/2011 10:50

Wouldn't bother me as long as the parent was well-known to the teacher.

ChaoticAngelofAnarchy · 15/02/2011 10:51

Yes, very nice of the parent but I'd have been a bit Hmm at the school too. Surely they knew how many children were doing this training so would have booked a bus that was big enough.

caughtinanet · 15/02/2011 10:53

At my DCs school parents who might be called upon to give lifts fill in a form to confirm they have roadworthy car, insurance etc before they help out.

CRB check definitely not needed for a one off lift.

I wouldn't be too worried as a one off - do you know if it was planned in advance or was the wrong bus sent i.e. one without enough seats.

AKMD · 15/02/2011 10:56

As long as it wasn't just him and the parent, I wouldn't be bothered.

bigTillyMint · 15/02/2011 10:57

I would be very grateful that they had not been left behind. Presumably the teacher knows the child even if they didn't know the parent, and made a judgement that that was the best option.

I often pick up DD's friends after she has training if we see them along the road - they'd much rather get a ride than trek off for public transport.

You say he is 13. How does he normally get to/from school?

Tabliope · 15/02/2011 10:58

I wouldn't be that happy. I know 13 is not like 3 but it happened to my son when he was 8 and I know one of the seats in the back didn't have a working seatbelt (they'd offered us a lift previously in the car to a party which we'd taken). I've accepted lifts from some parents as well over the years and their driving was crap and I wouldn't want my child in a car with them again. If you send your child to school you want to know they're safe. So at 13 I wouldn't be worrying about them being abused but unless I knew how good the driver was I wouldn't be happy. Saying that, he's home safe so I'd let it go.

seeker · 15/02/2011 10:58

Why would this worry anyone? No need for car seats or anything for a 13 year old - even for the 13 year old of a mumsnetter!

pigletmania · 15/02/2011 11:00

Would not bother me one bit, as long as the parent has a proper driving licence and insured. It's rather like a friends parent dropping him home, would you object to that. I would wonder why they dud not do their maths re the mini bus numbers though

mrsscoob · 15/02/2011 11:02

YABU its reactions like this that make people scared to look out for each other and help other peoples children. Can't believe people would really think someone needs a CRB check to give someone a lift pmsl Imagine you had given a child a lift then hear later loads of people discussing it on the internet..... seriously!

BeribbonedGibbon · 15/02/2011 11:04

oh ffs, really?

bigTillyMint · 15/02/2011 11:05

mrsscoob just what I was thinking!

pagwatch · 15/02/2011 11:05

I wouldn't be worried at all. Not at 13. ds1 was often left at the ground at that age and either walked home (40 mins) or called me.

pagwatch · 15/02/2011 11:06

What would you be worried about?

squeakytoy · 15/02/2011 11:06

blimey.. I would just be happy my kid got home... I wouldnt even think of being snotty about it...

meditrina · 15/02/2011 11:08

I think it's worth raising with the school - something has clearly gone wrong with their planning (I hope as a one-off). But you don't want them making the same mistake again - what if next time there isn't someone to help out with a lift?

jeee · 15/02/2011 11:10

Why has something gone wrong with their planning? School bus takes X number of kids, and Mrs Y (CRB checked) will take the two children left over. All children safely returned.

meditrina · 15/02/2011 11:13

Sorry - didn't realise it was pre-planned to use lifts. I thought it was exigencies of the day.