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Original poster

Full school bus so DS sent in parent's car.

125 replies

Condensedmilkaddict · 15/02/2011 10:42

Would you care?

He is 13, and was at school sport training, but the bus was full, so had to go in a parent's car.

I have never met the other parent. And am obviously grateful he wasnt left there!

But a bit Hmm at school...Thought they would have had to get permission for that?

OP posts:
Ormirian · 15/02/2011 12:17

"I am very grateful to her, but also interested to know what would have happened if she wasn't there!"

I suspect they'd have called you. I very much doubt he'd have been left there on his own. As it was the found an acceptable and convenient alternative.

seeker · 15/02/2011 12:26

Don;t be such a scaremonger, bupcakes!

Acanthus · 15/02/2011 12:27

I really can't see the problem here.

bupcakesandcunting · 15/02/2011 12:31

I'm not scaremongering, it's true. There's a paedo lurking on every corner of every street. It will be more like 95.4% I think. There are very few of us who are NOT paedophiles.

This country is going to the dogs.

MoonUnitAlpha · 15/02/2011 12:33

Ormirian - If the school had called the OP to get her son that's even worse!

Ormirian · 15/02/2011 12:33

Don't forget the paedos that climb up lampposts and LURK, bupcakes. Or the ones down the drains and in the litter bins.

Ormirian · 15/02/2011 12:34

Why?

bupcakesandcunting · 15/02/2011 12:35

They not only LURK but PREY. They are PREYING right now. I hear they are preying in churches now the sick fucks.

MoonUnitAlpha · 15/02/2011 12:38

I'd be pretty pissed off if the school called me to say they'd fucked up transport, and I'd have to come and pick up my child.

amothersplaceisinthewrong · 15/02/2011 12:39

OP

If you had been the parent with the car, would you have offered the spare child a lift...... I do hope so.

Original poster
Condensedmilkaddict · 15/02/2011 12:44

Course I would Mothers.

Although, I probably would have called the parent first and explained the situation.

I am grateful to her.
Just irked at the school, and hope they get their act together. It's supposed to be a twice weekly thing.

OP posts:
Ormirian · 15/02/2011 12:45

Yes but better than leaving him there alone I think.

Mistake happen. Presumably it isn't a regular occurence and once it has happened the staff had to make the best decision in the circumstances.

ShirleyKnot · 15/02/2011 12:48

This isn't real is it?

exoticfruits · 15/02/2011 12:54

I can't see a problem, the school made a mistake in numbers and a parent kindly helped out.

pigletmania · 15/02/2011 13:04

Turkey burger and others with the same views how sad think like that. This person was a parent watching their cHild train, not a random dirty mack. That means they would have had their child in the car. The boy is 13 not 3, at that age and I am 33, I used to travel on my own b train from school in rickmansworth, to my home in canons park north west London. No wonder chldren have a lack of life skills now, cotton wooled too much.

pigletmania · 15/02/2011 13:12

As someone said on here they will soon be travelling around in each others cars with their dodgy driving

pigletmania · 15/02/2011 13:13

Showing off most probably once they passed their driving test

tabulahrasa · 15/02/2011 13:20

I wouldn't have an issue with him being brought back by a parent - I would be a bit Hmm at a school that didn't bother checking they had transport for everyone to get back to school

ChaoticAngelofAnarchy · 15/02/2011 13:52

The lift itself wouldn't bother me. My dd, in her final year at school, used to stay behind occasionally and some times got a lift off of a friend's dad (with friend of course).

I'm more Hmm at school's lack of planning.

ashamedandconfused · 15/02/2011 14:02

I would not be happy about this - and I have both driven a mini bus full of teens as a teacher, and taken children in my car to musical fixtures as a parent helper at DDs school

I would have at least expected a phone call to give verbal permission.

for EACH & EVERY trip i do in the car for school i am required to sign a declaration that the car is MOTd and my insurance covers use for such purposes, and state whether i have any points on my licence. I would NOT for eg be able to accept donations towards petrol from other parents, as this would constitute "hire & reward". Am also CRBd

Seriously, i would raise it with the school - imagine if that car had been involved in an accident, even if driver not at fault, and it transpired the childs parents thought he was in the school bus.

the age of 13 has nothing to do with it - i would still expect to know who my child was travelling with and that they were known to the member of staff dealing with the event.

ashamedandconfused · 15/02/2011 14:05

"This person was a parent watching their cHild train, not a random dirty mack"

yes, a large % of parents are as you say, genuine - however, some have been known to groom their kids friends over many years, weedling their way into a family's trust

as a parent, i expect to KNOW who my child is travelling with and to make decisons like that myself

gobehindabushfgs · 15/02/2011 14:12

I would be annoyed that the school failed to make sufficient arrangements for returning all of the children to schol. I was very nice of the other parent, and I wouldn't be worried for his safety in their car, but the fact is that the school failed to make proper arrangements and had to improvise. Which is not good enough.

I agree about the horny snake though. I'll do it if no-one else wants to :)

pigletmania · 15/02/2011 14:27

I do Agee that they should have phoned the parent first to check and giving them the opportunity to collect themselves, not the paedophile on every street corner attitude.

seeker · 15/02/2011 14:51

We're talking about a 13 year old, people!

13!

Not 3!

A 13 year old who is quite capable of accepting a lift from a mate's mum without ringing home first.

gobehindabushfgs · 15/02/2011 14:52

yes but seeker the school undertook to transport these children and failed to do so properly

that would annoy me - 13 isn't THAT old, it would have been awful if there hadn't been a parent willing to take him.