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about Valentine's cards for children?

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LifeIsButtercream · 13/02/2011 09:41

Ex-H has sent DD (21months) a Valentine's card.....

..... a special 'To My Daughter' Valentine's card.....

.....last time I checked Valentine's Day was for couples? I've found cards all over the place 'Happy Valentine's Day to my dog/cat/parents/left toe/nearby lamp post'

AIBU in thinking this is a little bit of commercial over-kill?

And for the record - I'm not just sulking because my toddler has more Valentines this year than I do (i.e. she has one) Sad

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onehotmomma · 13/02/2011 09:45

I think it's really sweet he sent your DD a valentines card but yes I agree it is a bit of a commercial over kill :)

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kreecherlivesupstairs · 13/02/2011 09:46

I'm astonished by this. TBH, I haven't noticed any valentines day cards, but I haven't been looking for them.
I think it is completely ridiculous that you can buy the sort of cards that you've posted.

thrifty · 13/02/2011 09:49

erm, i'm on the fence with this one. before i had ds i would have said the same, but the year before last i made him an 'i love you day' card, as he made me one. this has now continued. so for ds its 'i love you day' not valentines day.
i was in the card shop last week and a couple of young men were dissing the valntines to kids. i thought, well if you had a child you might be a bit more understanding. to me, its about the sentiment of cheering someone up and letting them know that you love them. after all dp and i have been together for years, sometimes we need a little reminding to make it a bit special.

Cadders1 · 13/02/2011 09:51

Jack valentine - used to leave me and my siblings valentines present on the doorstep and we received an anonymour valentines card (from my mum). Lovely childhood memory, was always a real surprise as we never expected it.

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LifeIsButtercream · 13/02/2011 09:52

I think part of my gag-reflex response to it was partly due to my ex-h tendancy to substitute gifts and cards for parenting - he hardly visits, but sends 'extra presents' all the time with notes saying how much he loves/misses her......

....... but when he has time off work he always manages to have car trouble/illness/appointments or something (anything) to avoid having to make the effort to visit.

Oops - rant over!

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MoonGirl1981 · 13/02/2011 09:54

I agree that it's a nice way of reminding people you love them.

I haven't got my son a card but bought him a heart shaped lolly which I'll leave beside his bed.

Last year it was heart shaped marshmallows.

He'll be chuffed.

:)

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KenDoddsDadsDog · 13/02/2011 09:57

My dad used to leave us chocolate or heart pencils or something. He's the least 'lil princess' person in the world so I remember it fondly.

Curlybrunette · 13/02/2011 09:57

Ds got a card from his little friend when he was a baby and it was lovely as the mum had popped it through the door without us knowing so it was a really cute surprise.

I personally don't get the sending a card to your child thing. Valentines is about love and romance so why would a parent send a card? I realise this contradicts being happy about ds getting a card at all when he was little though

I think it was a sweet gesture on your exH's part. Just not one I would get into personally.

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kreecherlivesupstairs · 13/02/2011 10:03

My DD was very upset to find out that they wouldn't be allowed to give out valentines cards at school. She'd raised it especially with the student council. She is 9 FFS.
I don't know where she gets these ideas from. We are not in the UK, so far from the corrupting ideas of Ms or just 17 (if they even still exist).

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Curlybrunette · 13/02/2011 12:53

Lol swallowedAfly Grin

BluddyMoFo · 13/02/2011 12:55

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FooffyShmoofer · 13/02/2011 13:01

My DDad always sent one to me and DSis. Put them under the letter box as if they'd been posted and signed them ?.

Obviously we knew it was him and we knew it was because me, her and Mum were his girls.

There was never a Daddy's little princess vibe going on. He wasn't like that.

I've missed it these past two years.

However, I may have issue with them actually selling Valentine Cards specifically for DD/DS. Not sure why.

strandedpolarbear · 13/02/2011 13:03

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DrNortherner · 13/02/2011 13:11

My lovely dad used to buy me chocs for valentines and he was so not a daddy's little princess kind of guy.

scottishmummy · 13/02/2011 13:15

mum used to send me one when i was a geeky munter teen

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Deaddei · 13/02/2011 14:43

It's all a load of bollocks.

MorticiaAddams · 13/02/2011 14:46

That's weird for a 21 month old.

One year when Wednesday was about 6 and into Valentines, we all had to make and send cards to each other, even Pugsley, but that's the only time the kids have had one from us.

Gomez and I don't buy cards, just have a nice meal at home together.