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about Valentine's cards for children?

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LifeIsButtercream · 13/02/2011 09:41

Ex-H has sent DD (21months) a Valentine's card.....

..... a special 'To My Daughter' Valentine's card.....

.....last time I checked Valentine's Day was for couples? I've found cards all over the place 'Happy Valentine's Day to my dog/cat/parents/left toe/nearby lamp post'

AIBU in thinking this is a little bit of commercial over-kill?

And for the record - I'm not just sulking because my toddler has more Valentines this year than I do (i.e. she has one)

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nappyaddict · 14/02/2011 16:47

I don't normally buy cards for anyone (apart from sympathy cards) but I found one with the perfect words so I did as a one off.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 14/02/2011 16:50

Well I just went out to pick up DH a valentine card. I don't really believe in them, I do nice stuff for him all thought the year, but he really, really wants one... oh well.

Romance is alive and well in my heart... but commercialism is dead (or it ought to be).

tomhardyismydh · 14/02/2011 16:52

my dd (5) made me one and a couple of her friends.

I then made an anonymous one for her, and lay it on the mat as if it had been posted.

she was a bit miffed and taken aback by this and didnt quite understand why someone would not say who it was from, so back fired a bit. maybe she is too young.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 14/02/2011 16:55

Does anybody else get one from their husbands where the card says "Wife" on the front... and then husband writes from "Guess Who"?... or just mine who does this?

overmydeadbody · 14/02/2011 16:57

It's only commercialised crap if you buy cards etc.

/if you make cards or lottle presents, or write a love etter, it's not commercialised crap, it is just a way to show someone else you love them.

overmydeadbody · 14/02/2011 17:00

poppydaisy it's just that the Brits are suckers for buying what Tesco tell them to buy.

tomhardyismydh · 14/02/2011 17:01

ha ha Lying thats very funny.

I think as a single parent its good for my dd to be involved in giving and reciving tokens of appretiation. as she does not normally see me reciving christmas or birthday gifts and to do special little things like a card on such occassions this helps her have a concept of giving.

I dont think valentines is just about sexual or romatic love. I think its about any form of Love. I always sent and recive valentines as a child. In fact I remember it being more common amongst class mates when I was a child as it seems these days.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 14/02/2011 17:03

overmydeadbody ... I agree with that. I think some of the things that the Mums here are doing with their children are really lovely. It's the cards I don't agree with.

I just don't like cards for Valentines at all... they're so pointless and expensive and really exploit what was a nice tradition into a money-making, almost 'bullying' venture.

I said to husband that I'd make him one... it was going to be fun, with little vouchers for various things in it... he said, "Can't you just nip out and buy one?". So I did.

lillybloom · 14/02/2011 17:28

I got one from moonpig for the dc. It has a picture of the dog on the front and has a poem inside. The dc thought it was hilarious as it was signed from mum, dad and dog.

kattyo · 14/02/2011 17:31

i sent them to my children, and gave them some fairy wings from poundland to go with it. they were really pleased. (We'd talked about valentine's day the day before).

kattyo · 14/02/2011 17:33

another single mum, by the way. so no partner to muddy the issue.

Lookydo · 14/02/2011 18:31

I received a card from my ex-husband addressed to 'Mummy' and signed from our boys. Thoughtful or wierd? We haven't been separated long so receiving it felt very strange - ie. a card from the man I've received cards from for the last 10 years but not actually from him. Not that I want it to be from him, but still a rather disturbing feeling. Oh, and he didn't put the right postage on so I owe the postie for it now!

FooffyShmoofer · 14/02/2011 18:35

Swallowed - I'm pathetic and easily swayed.

jugglingjo · 14/02/2011 18:46

Hi Lookydo - Perhaps that was quite a thoughtful gesture ?

othersideofchannel · 14/02/2011 18:50

Yes, it is the card (or other commercial crap) buying that I disapprove of. By all means spend a lovely evening with the person you love and yes, make a lovely meal together or write a love letter. But there is NO need to buy overpriced tacky shop bought tat to show your appreciation imo.

swallowedAfly · 14/02/2011 19:05

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Lookydo · 14/02/2011 19:07

Yeah, Jugglingjo, I think you're right. I think I'm probably at the 'Whatever he does is wrong' stage so good to get some perspective on it. I haven't shown the boys the card (they're only 3 and 18 months). I think I just decided I've got enough to deal with at the moment and I'll 'do' Valentine's Day for the boys next year when the eldest will have heard more about it at school etc. Love some of the mum to child ideas on here though. Especially the heart-shaped foodie things in the lunch box!

jugglingjo · 14/02/2011 19:18

Thanks for that Lookydo. I'm sure there's no need to go into it all with your little'uns.
Just a kiss as usual at bedtime should do !

Thanks for your thoughtfulness Foofy _ Even if I have blown you off course ??

The little gestures of affection we've shared have gone down well all round, and been gently reciprocated. Choccies turned out to be especially tasty !

We needed to remember and tell each other that there's a lot of love around really - Sometimes it just gets a bit buried in all the everyday hassles etc ?

So far Valentine's Day has been a positive experience for us. I hope it is for all of you too.

Love to all, Jo

witches · 14/02/2011 20:26

I love the stories of Jack Valentine and parents making cards and giving thier children little heart gifts in lunchboxes. I like anything that makes the day a little different there are plenty of boring ones. I have been with my partner a long time but would soooo not be impressed if he didn't give me a card, don't need big expensive gift but its nice to get a wee reminder and sometimes think couples who don't do Christmas, Valentines etc have lost a bit of spark, but then again I like ANY occassion and throw myself into it and would love my kids to be involved too.

allbie · 14/02/2011 20:57

What's the harm? I have always given my DC's some choccies for valentines as they're my little darlings! And they love it.

ReindeerBollocks · 14/02/2011 21:30

I made DS a valentines - only because he had a card making class in school today and he made lots of cards to give all the girls one (likes to play the numbers game does DS).

He didn't get one card back - I got a mountain of tears as soon as he got out of the playground. So DD and I made him a heart shaped card when he got home. Normally I wouldn't bother, but he was heartbroken poor little thing.

DS is 7.

swallowedAfly · 14/02/2011 22:00

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FooffyShmoofer · 14/02/2011 22:24

Swallowed

Wiggle. Swaying. Commercialism. Have a shag.
It's all just random words now.

You caved

onthepier · 14/02/2011 22:42

I didn't give cards to the kids but put a valentine cupcake in dd's packed lunch and a gingerbread man with red heart decoration in ds's. They were thrilled! Thought I'd do something as they complained of feeling left out last year when dp and I exchanged cards!

swallowedAfly · 14/02/2011 22:55

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