in being cautious to chastise my friend's child

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When she is present? She is a rude and unlikeable child who speaks to adults in a terrible manner. I have to bite my tongue when she "orders" me to do things and addresses me by my christian name (HATE that but thats another thread) or a "hey".. DH reckons I should pull her up on it if thats the way I want to be treated/not treated but I am concerned I will offend. Its REALLY difficult not to snap. (child is 6)

or AS "hey" (correction)

adressing you by your christian name????isnt that normal

I hate it but thats not the main issue. Im a woman in my late 40's. I dont want a 6 year old calling me by my first name..im mrs redoneslast.

needafootmassage would you be offended if someone said that to your child? Im worried she would be.

you should pull her up on it

apart from the addressing by christian name because that's learned

Do you have children?

Just wondered if your expectations are ahem a little unrealistic.

I mean rudeness is one thing but honestly - you don't want to be called by your first name by a friend's child - I mean that makes you sound extremely old fashioned.

yeah, I agree activate that is more likely from the mother than the child.

Not wanting her to call you by your christian name is weird. Asking her to speak to you politely not weird at all.

yes I have 2 children and they call her mrs (her name). I dont think its old fashioned at all.

Do all of your friends do the same? Are you all Mrs ..... to each others children? (bar this family obv)

screw other parents who are offended by you telling their children how they should talk to you

or even telling them off for bad behaviour

it is pathetic to not allow another adult to admonish your child

if a child is rude to me they get a mother glare and an "excuse me, how would you say that politely"

then a "Please don't talk to me like that"

then if they can't manage it a word to the parent

Well we can agree to differ on that one.

But seriously unless the child is being totally vile I would leave the friend to discipline her own child. Or just try and avoid spending time with the child - I suspect your dislike of her is apparent anyway.

Some do but as I said, the main issue is her rudeness and the christian name is an aside pet hate (probably for a thread of its own).
Surely there must be someone else who dislikes this?

iTs a bit odd to expect to be called Mrs so and so by a friends child in my opinion - your their Mums friend - not their school teacher.

Are any of you older women?

YANBU... if a child is being rude or ordering you about then you should pick them up on it, whether the parent is there or not. If you do it in a pleasant/assertive manner & the parent takes offence, that's really not your fault.

I'm 46... wouldn't expect to be Mrs Chil to anyone except my bank manager, possibly. Have been 'Auntie Chil' occasionally!

Well I'm 38 so not terribly young but would be very surprised if a 6 year old called me Mrs Bath. And would actually say - please call me by my first name.

Ive always told my kids to address women by MRs whatever until they are told otherwise by the lady in question.