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to refuse....

227 replies

thenightwalker · 10/02/2011 13:58

To let my child eat fast food!

My daugter has a party this week and the mother has decided to get all the kids there amcdonalds happy meal.

All the other mums have agreed.

My daugter is just about to turn 2 and i think this is just unacceptable food fo a child that ytoung.

I wont let her be having it.

I dont feel like im being unreasonable.

Would you let yours? Even if it is just a one off?

OP posts:
AgentZigzag · 10/02/2011 15:02

I know, I know.

I didn't want to share them!

But DD2 was pointing and saying 'peas', and I'm a sucker for big blue eyes Grin

I realise now I was in the wrong and should have scoffed the lot myself

BusyMissIzzy · 10/02/2011 15:04

You asked if you were being unreasonable to refuse the McD's. If you're not prepared to accept people's opinions, why ask on AIBU?

LizaTarbucksAuntie · 10/02/2011 15:04

let that be your lesson for the future,
you save DD2 from certain diet related illness in the future and get to eat the whole tasty snackage yourself

win/win

TheSecondComing · 10/02/2011 15:06

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pointissima · 10/02/2011 15:07

It's one meal. You are being precious and rude to the mother hosting the party

coldtits · 10/02/2011 15:09

Why ask?

Why fucking ask?

You clearly do not believe yourself to be unreasonable, so surely the only reaosn for you to even raise this topic is to have yourself a private smugaboo about how your daughter will not be participating in party food.

Do you actually not realise that the only person who genuinely gives a curly crap about what you put on your two year old's menu is you?

nobody else here give a flying duck. They are feeling bored, or tetchy, which is why they answered. We worked out by the time we'd read your OP that there was not a chance of you budging on this, and you must surely know that about yourself so I'll say again - why ask?

TrillianAstra · 10/02/2011 15:12

Quick typing is a good excuse for typing 'teh' instead of 'the', it is no reason to type 'your' when you mean 'you're'.

Have you listened at all, in your rants about nuggets, to everyone saying that the chicken nuggets are a significantly healthier choice than the fish fingers?

LizaTarbucksAuntie · 10/02/2011 15:13

coldtits I think I you

ReturnOfTheBoomBap · 10/02/2011 15:15
Ryoko · 10/02/2011 15:15

When I was a kid, I drank SMA and Gripe water (when it was booze) I lived off Heinz spaghetti, chocolate spread sandwiches and loads of happy meal type stuff.

didn't do me any harm, such alarmist bullshit, cheese is worse for you then chips, do you have any idea how much salt is in a carton of soup?

why is fast food a dirty word? what makes fish and chips worse in your mind then a frozen ready meal from Sainsbury?.

Do some research and stop getting all your information in life from alarmist headlines and the second hand dribble of idiots.

ReturnOfTheBoomBap · 10/02/2011 15:15

p.s. I am this fucking ridiculous Dukan bullshit diet and now all I can think about is greasy, salty, lovely McDs fries.

BlooferLady · 10/02/2011 15:18

Thanks for spelling 'tetchy' right, Coldtits. For ages and ages I couldn't udnerstand why people on MN were accusing each other of being techy. I thought, what, technologically equipped to like, do emoticons and stuff? I was very confused.

OP I maintain (nicely) that you are maybe not awfully well and might benefit from talking to someone. You say you're only a loon about your daughter, but it strikes me that it's about your daughter that you might like to be as sane as possible...

GMajor7 · 10/02/2011 15:20

L M F A O Grin

Does this mean MN is returning to 'normal' after all the recent crazyness?

LizaTarbucksAuntie · 10/02/2011 15:22

Can I suggest also (also nicely) that you have a peek at one of the other topics where you might get a more measured response, AIBU is a bear pit, you seem to have posted mostly in here, you must think it's a nest of vipers.

I'm in a particualrly capricious mood this afternoon and that's why I'm over here instead of one of the nice snuggly topics.

GMajor7 · 10/02/2011 15:22

secondcoming can i just say it's likely that 'sausages' at softplay\pub type meals (unless it's a 'nice' one) are probably the cheapest of cheap and made of mechanically reclaimed bits of arsehole and eyelids. HTH.

Love it...especially the cursory 'HTH'

Memoo · 10/02/2011 15:23

I have a 17 mo dd and she has had chicken nuggets from mcdonalds on 3 occasions, is that really bad???

izzywizzywoowooo · 10/02/2011 15:24

I thought we were supposed ot be giving them everything in moderation? That's what I do anyway.

One happy Mean will not hurt her, To send your own food would be rude, There are alternatives like carrot sticks etc. Food shouldn't be restricted, just limited.

The other day I gave my 15 month old DD her first taste of a Fruit Shoot, I felt like it was a right of passage as a parent. Grin

As it happen she had one taste and then proceeded to shake it so it went all over her white coat. Sad

izzywizzywoowooo · 10/02/2011 15:25

Blush Major typo's in my post. Apologies. Blush

GypsyMoth · 10/02/2011 15:30

what is so magical about the age of 22 months???

why can't she have it at this age but a little older you would let 'slide'???

please explain......

woahwoah · 10/02/2011 15:31

Have a lovely, unhealthy Biscuit

Zippylovesgeorge · 10/02/2011 15:41

If you go down the carrot stick route be prepared for you PFB to only want the food her friends are having ;)

A friends child was only ever allowed 'healthy' food - no biscuits etc etc - he was the worst lunchbox snatcher I've ever met - the teachers eventually had to talk to the mother as this child was raiding lunchboxes at break times!!

roadbackhome · 10/02/2011 15:44

One mcdonald's isn't really going to make much difference one way or another if the rest of her diet is healthy. Although I've never eaten a MD burger and I wouldn't take DS there myself I do agree it's no worse than any other party food.

The trick is to make friends with mothers who have the same anal retentativeness standards as you so it doesn't become an issue.

I do find it funny though the number of people who think one meal will not be permanently damaging to a 22 month old but think irreparable social damage can be done that early. A 2 yo is not going to be aware of whether they've been invited to parties or not, by the time they're 4 or 5 they'll be making their own friends at school and will have a lot more choice of their own over food and social life!

chaya5738 · 10/02/2011 15:47

I don't think that irreparable social damage will be done by not going to one party (or taking own food to said party) but one happy meal every now and then versus always declining party invitations is a different story.

mrsbacchus · 10/02/2011 15:51

I think that you do need to talk to somebody in general about your anxieties. It will be far more detrimental to your daughter in the long run picking up on these than the occassional happy meal. The best thing you can do for your daughter is give her a happy, relaxed childhood with everything in moderation.

camdancer · 10/02/2011 15:52

You have nothing to worry about. The food is so nasty at McDonalds that all she will be interested in is the box and the toy. That is what you'll really be depriving her of if you say no. The crappy cardboard food is bad enough when you eat it at the restaurant, but after it has had a nice long drive back to the party it'll be basically inedible!

Burger King is the way to go. At least the food tastes nice. The toys aren't as good though.

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