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Original poster

to refuse....

227 replies

thenightwalker · 10/02/2011 13:58

To let my child eat fast food!

My daugter has a party this week and the mother has decided to get all the kids there amcdonalds happy meal.

All the other mums have agreed.

My daugter is just about to turn 2 and i think this is just unacceptable food fo a child that ytoung.

I wont let her be having it.

I dont feel like im being unreasonable.

Would you let yours? Even if it is just a one off?

OP posts:
Itsjustafleshwound · 10/02/2011 14:46

Posting in AIBU about something you are clearly quite clear on, sets of the nutter alarm PDQ !!

winnybella · 10/02/2011 14:46

Of course food with very high salt content is not good for young children-as a regular part of their diet.

But as a one-off it will not harm her. It really will not.

McDonalds-is the brand that bothers you? Your daughter is likely to encounter crisps at future parties and play dates-are you going to forbid her to eat them?

DCs don't eat McDo or crisps etc, but wouldn't care if they were offered it at a party-it's not poison-once in a while won't do any damage.

lazylula · 10/02/2011 14:46

Op, if the parent of the birthday child arranged for the party to be at a soft play area (not an uncommon thing for that age I believe), they would be offered nuggets, sausages or fish fingers with chips. You have to ask yourself how you would react to that? I think maybe you are putting too much emphasis on the name 'MacDonalds'. The mother could have decided to do the same meal but cooked at home as well. I am unsure of the salt contents of these alternatives but would guess that depending on the make of nuggets ect she chose to use then they could have had the same salt content as a Macdonalds. I do think this has been blown out of all proportion, and by you especially!
As a side, I worked with someone who proudly boasted about the fact that her children NEVER had a Macdonalds while she was 'in control' of what they had. She then added that at 18 her ds ate MacDonalds everyday for a year! I think I would prefer the everything in moderation approach.

BlooferLady · 10/02/2011 14:47

Oh dear OP - Having looked at your posting history you do seem very, very anxious about almost everything Sad.

Can I ask - have you asked a GP (or similar) for advice? You might have an anxiety disorder (am being nice btw!).

coatgate · 10/02/2011 14:47

I don't eat meat and would rather poke my own eyes out than eat in a burger bar, consequently DD has never been to one with me. DD is now 11 and announced in the car the other day that she likes McDonalds. She has been with various friends over the past few years. She has not turned green or grown an extra toe. I have no idea what is in a happy meal, but you would be extraordinarily rude to send your own food to a party. It will not harm your DD and I am sure the excellent start you have given her will stand in her good stead in the future.

MrsAlanKey · 10/02/2011 14:48

You can only control what she eats when you cook for her. If she is a guest in someone else home then she should eat what she is given. The damage done socially by not going to parties or other peoples houses for tea is greater than the damage done physically by having a high salt meal occasionally.

Why not just feed her before she goes so she will just be eating a token amount, the same way as a adult might eat before going to a buffet at a bad pub. The primary purpose of party food is to be hospitable and share a 'breaking bread' experience. It shouldn't be judged purely for its nutritional value.

And its not literally salt filled shite, its just food that you wouldn't want to have too often.

Original poster
thenightwalker · 10/02/2011 14:48

you got me having issues with food from me not wanting a 22 month old to have a macdonalds?

I did ask for your opinions on wehter you would give it to your child and wether i was being unreasonable to take her something.

Not on wether im a freak or a nutter. If you ask me thats definately judging and not just aswering wheat i asked.

If your really not arsed get out of the thread your boring me

OP posts:
Itsjustafleshwound · 10/02/2011 14:50

your - possesive
you're - you are

boring you and correcting you!!

Original poster
thenightwalker · 10/02/2011 14:51

thanks bloofer, i know im abit over protective but i dont have an anxiety disorder lol.

I am just abit of a loon when it comes to my daugter (except this occasion im not budging on that)

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TheSecondComing · 10/02/2011 14:51

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Original poster
thenightwalker · 10/02/2011 14:51

oh get a life! im quick typing on a laptop!

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HecateQueenOfWitches · 10/02/2011 14:52

Actually no. Now I'm going to stay here all day laughing at you.

You silly, silly little woman.

And after I maintained - quite reasonably and supportively I think - that we may give our opinions since you asked for them but it doesn't matter what we think, it's your daughter and your choice, too.

fuck you then.

GiveMeStrength2day · 10/02/2011 14:52

For what it's worth, whenever (which is rarely) I've gone to McDs with DD, I've ALWAYS got them to do her a separate portion of fries without salt - they never have a problem with doing that and will even bring them over to the table if they don't have any ready when I order

JimmyChooChoo · 10/02/2011 14:53

You sound like you need to get a life OP!
As for telling other posters that they're boring you-you sound like the most boring woman in the world.

QuickLookBusy · 10/02/2011 14:55

I personally wouldn't want my 2 year old eating a McDonalds.

I think it smells shite, looks shite and tastes shite....however, I wouldn't want to appear a lunatic at a party, so I would let your DD have a McDonalds, and just make sure she eats lots of healthy stuff for the rest of the day.

chaya5738 · 10/02/2011 14:55

"The damage done socially by not going to parties or other peoples houses for tea is greater than the damage done physically by having a high salt meal occasionally."

Well said!

AgentZigzag · 10/02/2011 14:55

I think you really ought to take your own lentil soup and organic home made bread with fruit for pudding for your DD OP.

That way your hosts will be able to see exactly what kind of a person you are, and you'll be pointing out the error of their ways at the same time.

It's a win/win situation Smile

altinkum · 10/02/2011 14:56

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BreconBeBuggered · 10/02/2011 14:57

I hate MacDonalds. I can see why you don't want to let your DD eat that shit. But it's not for life. It's a party. Parties are for being sociable and eating unwisely and having fun, not sitting in a corner with a cat's-bum mouth. And you have to be polite about the food the host is offering, even if you think it's utterly rank.

AgentZigzag · 10/02/2011 14:57

I gave my 13 month old some pom bears last night Shock

I'm ashamed now.

LizaTarbucksAuntie · 10/02/2011 14:59

so you shuld be agent....good god woman, what WERE you thinking?

Greenshadow · 10/02/2011 14:59

With you on this thenightwalker.

22 months is far too young for a traditional McDonalds type meal. Does seem a strange choice by the host, especially when there will be even younger children there.

Having said that, would still probably have let the DSs have it as a one off, but I would have been very uneasy about it.

chaya5738 · 10/02/2011 14:59

Heh, so did I agent - do you mean those chicken (and I use chicken in the loosest sense of the word) things from M&S?

ReturnOfTheBoomBap · 10/02/2011 15:01

If you want to teach your child that it is better to be inflexibe in social situations and rude to your friends than to let a morsel of junk pass your lips, then by all means - go with your gut on this one, OP Hmm

FreddyTeddy · 10/02/2011 15:01

Nightwalker Because I'm a nosey so-and-so I've also had a look at your other posts, this one makes me think that you ought to talk to a GP about your anxiety level. I know you just told Bloofer that you think you are ok but really give it some thought.

I've suffered with anxiety and sometimes I don't think I can see it in myself, I only see it when others see it, but later after getting help I can look back and see all the classic signs.

I know you said you are fine, but when you search your name 3 out of the top 5 threads mention paranoia/being worried sick.