I’m skint and think this is a good way to pay off some debts – AIBU?

[WhereTheresAWill]

I?m a single parent and although I have a day job it?s minimum wage, so like most people money is tight. I have debts to pay off and anything extra is very much needed so I can get back on an even keel. I started doing webcam work a few months ago after a suggestion from a friend who?s in a similar industry (she?s an escort), and it?s helping me to pay off my debts and give me a bit of extra cash to treat my DC. I can?t do a second job outside the house as I have no evening childcare for my DC, so in that respect it?s ideal. At present I only work on the cams for approx. 3 hours on Friday and Saturday nights when DCs in bed and although there are some time wasters on the site I work from, most of the blokes are fine (with some interesting requests!) and I have a few regulars, one of which spends approx £40-50 a time when he has a show with me.

I know the moral majority won?t approve and will say that I?m being exploited, used, abused etc. but they are the ones paying a lot of money to see me put on a show, so surely it's the other way around! I just dress up, watch TV until a show is requested then do a bit of a dance and a strip tease and watch the money to stack up as the minutes pass - so who?s the fool?! I?m not a victim, as I choose to do this and actually enjoy the fact that these men are paying me to put on a show for them. They can?t touch me, have no idea where I live or even what my real name is, so it?s safe from that point of view, and if I don?t like them for any reason I can kick them out of my ?room?. Obviously I?ve only been doing it a few months and the novelty may wear off, but if things go well, my friend has suggested I could branch out into the odd bit of escorting as well to up my income a bit more.

AIBU doing this to make a bit of much-needed extra cash?

thingumy, my love, I think you have just hit the nail on the head.

This is all just so filthy and bad.

god some childish little girls out today. does your mummy and daddy know you are not in school?

I know Queen

It's vile.

You're just a randy twat MrSpoc.

It's not childish to make a judgement.

YANBU to "cam".

YABU to consider escorting, as it seems your children are not starving and you are not all on the streets. It is not safe nor responsible behavior for a mother.

MrSpoc are you a regular user of webcam ladies? Methinks you protesteth too much.........

MrSpoc is a new poster who delights is winding people up on threads.

So when all these silly men have been brainwashed into believing that webcam Wanda likes the kind of sex he likes, we will all have gone to hell.

Bills unpaid, trust in marriage gone, single parenthood awaits and wondering how to find the money to feed the kids.

It is not a huge leap to realise that porn and webcamming is a huge business that makes grown men waste their money and risk their relationships. It makes victims of all women, both those who are paid a pittance to perform and those who lose their man to his sordid secret life.

JimmyChoo she wasn't a friend, she was an aquaintance I made years ago when I was living in the city. I met quite a few girls who did this line of work through being a bit of a party girl and on the 'club scene' (cringing using that term).

I am 24, so to do it I would have had to have started at 14, even before I lost my V lol. Unfortunately I rent a shared property at the moment and am only now looking for a place to move into with my DP as we are expecting our first. So no, not me lol, but I love the way you jumped to that conclusion. It is not all of a sudden BTW, I never said whether I did or didn't know anyone straight away as it didn't seem necessary. Why would I, to brag on my inside knowledge? hardly.

And why shouldn't someone have an education because they are an escort? What about having an education for the sake of wanting one. And actually, a lot of research has been done into this industry and whether regulation would make it safer etc... Many studies show it would have a lot of benefits not just to the prostitutes but for the general public too. Not stupid, there is substantial research to back it up. Organizations who work with prostitutes even campaign for this regulation to come into place.

im not a new poster and have been here for a while. it just ceases to amaze me how judmental some small minded idiots are because someone deares to disagree with you.

THink either mrspoc is on here to wind up women or he is on here on the pull.

I had a poster PM me yesterday(man), like it was a kind of dating site.

I am so glad that I haven't put any personal stuff on here like photo's on a profile.

OP, having read only a few pages, I agree with Muminscotland (page 1). I'll just add, it's a means to an end, make it temporary or it will be a slippery slope that will bite you back in your future life; do not take up invitations to widen your contacts. Stay safe.

I'm appalled by the "good for you - better than going on benefits" responses. As a tax payer, I would like to register that I fully support our national benefits system so that those who cannot practically work can have material support for their children. This is a far preferable situation than a society in which women sell their bodies for cash. I cannot understand someone who has values that think prostitution is preferable to benefits. For any of us.
Other posters have said: what about ironing, childminding, transcribing, etc. These all look like good ideas to me but if they don't work for you, as far as I am concerned, take the benefits. You and your children are welcome to them.

LDNmummy-Congrats on expecting your first DC!
Although when he/she is born I do think you won't be as relaxed in your attitudes.

Im not here to wind up anyone but to offer advice to the op. Is that hard to belive.

And carmenelectra i think you are lying, why would a man come on here to pull, nearly everyone is anti men .

Carmen, can you report it to MN, I'd be very angry.

Mr Spoc does yor wife know that you would encourage your daughter to sell her soul for money.

That just shows what an idiot you are mrspoc. 'Everyone on here is anti men'.

Why do you make such a ridiculous statement? Anti-men, why do you think that?Just because most women on here have an opinion and won't put up with crap from men, i.e. lying and cheating?

The poster who messaged me yesterday obviusly didn't think that I was anti- men, or he wouldn't have gone to the trouble of sending me a private message. About nothing to do with mumsnet.

BTW,I most definitely am not anti-men, just anti 'not very nice men'

Still think this is a Norse mythological creature thread, if you get my meaning, but last time I said this my post was deleted.

Queen bathsheba, he wasn't innapropriate so I didn't report it, but I now know that he has meSSAGED other female posters.

I just replied to him that I guessed that he was a married man so it was innapropriate and even if he wasn't, then I am a married(practically!) woman and was not interested.

Thank you for the congrats, very excited!

As for my attitude, It is not relaxed, I just don't see this as a cut and dry topic.

What does the OP think?

I take it the OP is at her day job at the moment, seeing as she's not here. Oooh I just answered my own question [snigger]

Bravo vezzie eloquently put and I wholeheartedly agree I would rather this lady look into what benefits or extra help she can received from the state than ever do anything like this.