I have never in my life experienced someone in a restaurant refusing to pay their fair share

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it was so embarrassing ended up with me and Friend B paying over the odds to make up for it

Chinese so all sharing all dishes, china tea, prawn crackers etc

Family A - Mum (not eating but drinks tea), Dad (only ordered soup, but gorged on everything else on table)and 18 year old

Family B - 2 adults

and US - 2 adults, 2 kids (one a 6 year old who barely eats)

Family A mum said he only ordered soup so we're only paying for one adult

divided by 8 (there were 9 of us but she didn't eat) bill was just under £20 each

she said we only pay for what we ordered
she repeated it despite minor protestations that he'd eaten everything - her 18 year old was mortified

I ended up paying £80, Family B paid £50 and Family A £20

am still aghast

would you do it? would you say anything after the fact? am so tempted to email and say wtf were you thinking you fucking freak (she a relative not a friend)

The bloke was greedy, but if he had only eaten the soup he had ordered the bill would still have been as big for the other 2 families. It sounds as though you ordered too much food for the 7 of you who were eating the full meal.
I would have challenged him at the bill stage more assertively saying that he ate the rest of the food so ordering only soup was irrelevent, or when he started eating the food asked if he was now joining in the banquet eaters and sharing the cost of that. If there was food left at the end though he could argue that he hadn't deprived you of any food and wouldn't have eaten the food if there hadn't been so much of it and he didn't like to waste it.
I wouldn't eat out with them again though and don't understand why they came if neither of the parents wanted to eat.

I'd have challenged him the second he starting eating food he didn't order!

'Sorry, but you'll be paying for that as well as your soup, surely?'

HHLimbo I did share my bottle of wine
I am very generous with whatever I have

My strategy for going out in a group back when I couldn't afford much to drink was to get tanked at home before going. :o

All hail to Suda's hubby. Total hero!

I have the same problem with my MIL. The advantage you have here, is that you can simply not go out with them again.

Ahh thank you GAY he is my hero too. If a little pigheaded at times. I even said its my car DH please dont abandon her at the airport and he said only way was if I syphoned the petrol off and put some more in as he'd paid for it so she still wasnt getting home out of his pocket - my car or not.

Actually - I find him strangely attractive when he's 'on one' - all magnificent and an awkward fucker strong.

Suda... Your DH seems to have a fan club here, does't he? He did exactly the right thing, anything else would have given you cringeworthy moments to dwell on... he's FAB!

You rock, Mr Suda!

Not really about a meal but funny anyway.Agirl i briefly lived with who owned the flat was so tight I could tell you a hundred stories but this is the best...
One month when I was paying her her rent, she told me it was a five week month so added on another weeks rent to the monthly figure!!! bloody cheek

Expat is my hero on threads like these.

I don't understand how someone who is a friend can just treat another person who's supposed to be a friend like a mug.

Oh you are LeQ, on milli
ons of things.

But hell expat batters you on threads where she tells freeloaders to fuck off.

I must say apropos the thread, I have never known such wankers as this. People I go out with we generally just split the bill, and everyone generally orders stuff which costs roughly the same, and discuss the cost of the wine we are ordering.

But I would have NO hesitation in telling tight twats where to go if they tried to pull stunts like this.

This sounds shallow, but when people tried to pull stunts like this on me, I'd see them as trying to rob me of something I enjoy - a coffee in a cafe, a bottle of wine, some makeup or a yoga class - not out of need but out of greed.

And again, it wasn't ever anyone I knew to be skint or poor. If I knew people who earned even less than I did (LOL), I'd always arrange to do something low cost or say it was my treat.

So that made it easier for me to say, 'Hey, what's up with this? You ordered soup and then went and chowed down at the buffet, stump up!'

Don't suffer in silence! Speak up, and feel how liberating it is!

My sister is the classic, doesn't understand the concept of contributing. So she'll come to stay for a few days with nothing bar some cookies and a sickly bottle of rose wine...for her. If they're unfinished she'll take them home.

we went to a bbq once where the host bought some rose along with the usual, my sis and her best mate (who is worse) drank that all night, ate loads then took the rose they had brought for themselves home, along with the pudding that hadn't yet been eaten. I tried to reason with her but she genuinely couldn't grasp that you don't bring stuff just for you, it is a contribution. And that she had drunk, it just want the exact bottle she brought.

If she comes to stay I will specifically ask her to bring something specified cause it annoys me and we're a bit skin at the mo...she agrees then turns up without cause 'we're family and family don't have to contribute.'

Needless to day dh isn't her greatest fan.

Years ago 4 of us went to a late night wine bar...one of these where you had to pay ?20 for four people and you got a bottle of wine free. The mate's girlfriend refused to pay so we split the ?20 between three of us to pay in. When we were handed the bottle of wine, the scabby cow took a glass and proceeded to fill it up to the top
I took it out of her hand and told her she hadn't paid so wasn't getting any....she ran out crying that I was bullying her

Even her boyfriend had no time for her that night!

If she comes to stay I will specifically ask her to bring something specified cause it annoys me and we're a bit skin at the mo...she agrees then turns up without cause 'we're family and family don't have to contribute.'

So why don't you kick her out? If my own sister turned up like that, I'd tell her to get out and come back with what I asked her to bring.

Seriously.

And remind her the only reason I had to ask is because she's so disgustingly cheap.

If she came back with the stuff, I'd let her back in, otherwise, she could hit the road.

I went out for a date once - he asked me out, he chose the restaurant. I said it was maybe a bit fancy for me and he said "my treat" and that they knew him there so not to worry about my clothes etc (I was coming straight from work). He suggested we order the chateubriand to share, he chose the wine etc etc.

Towards the end of the evening called for the bill. Then he asked if I'd like to come home with him. I said no.

He said that I had to split the bill and GOT MY COAT FROM THE CLOAKROOM (it had my purse in it). I said "but you said it was your treat", and he said "you got me here under false pretenses".

!!!!!

Wanker. I DID pay half just so I could get out of there but wish I hadn't.

I'd have thrown a drink in his face, told him next to time to pick up a whore in the street, and left.

If he made a fuss, I'd have shouted, 'Everyone! This bloke thinks taking a woman out to dinner means she has to go home and shag him! Can you believe it?'