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AIBU?

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to REALLY hope this man's partner joins Mumnset

413 replies

MmeLindt · 03/02/2011 12:40

Why I hate Mumsnet

First, I would like to congratulate the blogger on the forthcoming happy event. I wish him and his partner all the best for the birth of their first child.

If his partner decides to join MN, she will learn:

The Vernacular
that we use abbreviations as a time-saving tool, so that we have more time for discussing banalities. These are not only common to Mumsnet (MN) but to almost all fora.

"My DH is working away tuesday til friday. DH rang PIL and asked them if they could come and mind DCs (x3)". Another example: "AIBU to be annoyed that PIL agreed to mind my DC and then went back on it??"

  • the first poster states that her husband (DarlingHusband = DH) is working away and that he asked Parents-In-Laws (PILS) if they could come and mind the three children (DarlingChildren = DC). She then asks if she is being unreasonable (AIBU = Am I being unreasonable) to be annoyed that my parents in laws agreed to mind my children then went back on it?

hth (Hope this Helps)

The Banality
If she looks a little further, she will certainly find posts about dishwashers, and pearl barley, but also intellectual discussions about feminism, foreign affairs, literature (and we are NOT talking chick lit here). Even the most highbrow of poster wants to slum it on AIBU sometimes though.

I would hope that blogger's partner never has problems with their children - since his response to a woman enquiring about her child's (DC) incontinence problems is to suggest that she spends less time on MN.

The Stupid Suggestions For Campaigns
she might wonder about the anti-JL MN campaign since most posters have never heard of it. Just because one poster has an idea, it does not mean that the whole board takes up the cry. There are always discussions about the merits of any campaigns, particularly the official ones.

Lack of Reply
If the blogger's DP (that is DarlingPartner, by the way) does post on MN she will hopefully be relieved that MN does not allow their posters to be spammed by companies. There have been a few instances where posters have complained about a product, and the company has posted a message apologising and requesting that the poster contact them. I have never seen these offers being deleted or discouraged by MNHQ (that is Mumsnet Headquarters)

The blogger's DP of course would never have to do this, as she has her DH available to ensure that she does not misunderstand the instructions of the product.

Lack of Moderation
The blogger's DP will hopefully enjoy the lack of moderation - or rather the advantages offered by self-moderation. There may be times when a poster gives out of date advice, but this is normally noticed by the other posters. And if not, anyone who relies on the advice of strangers on an internet forum in order to make decisions such as those posed by the nuchal fold test, they should not be in charge of a puppy, much less a child. Most posters will link to websites such as NHS24, or other sites that are checked for accuracy rather than spouting inaccurate advice.

I am very glad that he is not calling for the site to be closed down. His DP may well be in need of it in the not so distant future, when she starts a thread entitled,

"AIBU to think my DP is an idiot?"

OP posts:
Aitch · 03/02/2011 14:20
MmeLindt · 03/02/2011 14:21

If it was a way of publicising his blog and his company, then he might at least have found a more intelligent and reasonable objection the website.

In dumbing it down to "they are not bright enough to assemble the products they buy nor recognise outdated advice" shows how little he has actually looked at MN.

OP posts:
HeroShrew · 03/02/2011 14:21

primate..? Shock

HeroShrew · 03/02/2011 14:22

oh. As you were Grin

stillfrazzled · 03/02/2011 14:22

For a professional PR/brand bod, he seems to have a remarkably poor grasp of how internet interactions actually work.

ilythia · 03/02/2011 14:22

wtf is priate sex?

Aitch · 03/02/2011 14:23

oh yes, fo' sho, mme lindt.

MmeLindt · 03/02/2011 14:25

Jane Elliot, the developer of the Blue eyes/Brown eyes experiment. I think the children were pre-teens.

OP posts:
ilythia · 03/02/2011 14:25

Not only little grasp of how interent fora work but also of The Power Of Mumsnet

MmeLindt · 03/02/2011 14:27

Ilythia
Great video. Thanks.

It seems that Jane Elliot still teaches. She would great for a webchat.

OP posts:
thumbdabwitch · 03/02/2011 14:29

Thanks JLC - yes, that prison one was pretty disturbing too.

Needanewname · 03/02/2011 14:29

Is this like when little Johnny pulls your pigtails cos really he likes you but doesn;t know how to say it?

Rhadegunde · 03/02/2011 14:30

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

jenroy29 · 03/02/2011 14:32

There was a BBC program a couple of years ago "Are we all really racists" or something similar where they did that experiment with adults.
I'd like to think that these group pschycology things don't affect/change my behaviour as I don't like to think of myself as part of a group.

Lottiegal · 03/02/2011 14:32

I wouldn't worry too much, you just don't 'get it' until you have kids yourself! I probably thought the same until about 6 months after my first, then the veneer started to crack and I realise I wasn't going to be this supermum and the unreal expectations on myself began to slip. Now with no.3 on the way, MN and other online blogs/diaries etc are always my first port of call for any problem! Give them time!!

caramelwaffle · 03/02/2011 14:33

He Markets, among other things, Britax wotsits.

I shall go out hence and buy one.

Tomorrow I shall come back and give you my opinion on the thing Wink

Oh wait. My friend has one....Tis crap. Just giving my opinion....

WorkingItOutAsIGo · 03/02/2011 14:34

YANBU. What a silly little man.

Valpollicella · 03/02/2011 14:39

Ah...and another reason why I love MN.

A thread wittily analysing a blog post descends into another brain bleaching 'DO NOT google...!' thread

Blatherskite · 03/02/2011 14:39

You nest of vipers have had me googling chelping now Shock!

Still, more interesting than that 'chaps' blog Grin

caramelwaffle · 03/02/2011 14:40

Re: the above PsyBlog link-
The "Obediance to Authority experiment..."

Absolutely eye opening.

ilythia · 03/02/2011 14:41

britax wotsits? wotsits are vile, I don't care who makes themGrin

MmeLindt · 03/02/2011 14:45

I have read the about the obedience experiment before. I seem to remember it was linked to on MN. In between debating about whether the black shoes were a no no with the brown handbag.

OP posts:
JamieLeeCurtis · 03/02/2011 14:46
Grin
Capreece · 03/02/2011 14:49

Oh dear lord - ChinaCup - why did I have to follow your example instead of heeding your warning - bleurk.

Bogeyface · 03/02/2011 14:50

What worries me is how he will support wife and child on no income when he gets sacked!

He has absolutely NO imagination, just churning out almost word for word what other people (DM readers mainly!) have said about the site at various times.

For a man working in marketing, he really should be able to think up his own ideas!

Silly arse man, can't wait to welcome his wife with open arms!

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