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AIBU?

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to REALLY hope this man's partner joins Mumnset

413 replies

MmeLindt · 03/02/2011 12:40

Why I hate Mumsnet

First, I would like to congratulate the blogger on the forthcoming happy event. I wish him and his partner all the best for the birth of their first child.

If his partner decides to join MN, she will learn:

The Vernacular
that we use abbreviations as a time-saving tool, so that we have more time for discussing banalities. These are not only common to Mumsnet (MN) but to almost all fora.

"My DH is working away tuesday til friday. DH rang PIL and asked them if they could come and mind DCs (x3)". Another example: "AIBU to be annoyed that PIL agreed to mind my DC and then went back on it??"

  • the first poster states that her husband (DarlingHusband = DH) is working away and that he asked Parents-In-Laws (PILS) if they could come and mind the three children (DarlingChildren = DC). She then asks if she is being unreasonable (AIBU = Am I being unreasonable) to be annoyed that my parents in laws agreed to mind my children then went back on it?

hth (Hope this Helps)

The Banality
If she looks a little further, she will certainly find posts about dishwashers, and pearl barley, but also intellectual discussions about feminism, foreign affairs, literature (and we are NOT talking chick lit here). Even the most highbrow of poster wants to slum it on AIBU sometimes though.

I would hope that blogger's partner never has problems with their children - since his response to a woman enquiring about her child's (DC) incontinence problems is to suggest that she spends less time on MN.

The Stupid Suggestions For Campaigns
she might wonder about the anti-JL MN campaign since most posters have never heard of it. Just because one poster has an idea, it does not mean that the whole board takes up the cry. There are always discussions about the merits of any campaigns, particularly the official ones.

Lack of Reply
If the blogger's DP (that is DarlingPartner, by the way) does post on MN she will hopefully be relieved that MN does not allow their posters to be spammed by companies. There have been a few instances where posters have complained about a product, and the company has posted a message apologising and requesting that the poster contact them. I have never seen these offers being deleted or discouraged by MNHQ (that is Mumsnet Headquarters)

The blogger's DP of course would never have to do this, as she has her DH available to ensure that she does not misunderstand the instructions of the product.

Lack of Moderation
The blogger's DP will hopefully enjoy the lack of moderation - or rather the advantages offered by self-moderation. There may be times when a poster gives out of date advice, but this is normally noticed by the other posters. And if not, anyone who relies on the advice of strangers on an internet forum in order to make decisions such as those posed by the nuchal fold test, they should not be in charge of a puppy, much less a child. Most posters will link to websites such as NHS24, or other sites that are checked for accuracy rather than spouting inaccurate advice.

I am very glad that he is not calling for the site to be closed down. His DP may well be in need of it in the not so distant future, when she starts a thread entitled,

"AIBU to think my DP is an idiot?"

OP posts:
Eleison · 03/02/2011 13:06

lolol at "I'm not saying Mumsnet should be closed down"

I'm not saying his blog should be closed down, ... but it is peppered with ethical inaccuracies.

caramelwaffle · 03/02/2011 13:06

Ahhhh something for Bloggerman to think about eh, Midnight.

P.s.

I heart MmeLindt Grin. Good thread. Good thread.

JamieLeeCurtis · 03/02/2011 13:07

never knew there was a word for that. I think we've all learned something today. Banal my arse!

AvaBanana · 03/02/2011 13:09

'We fix brand pain'

ROTFL!

howmuchyousay · 03/02/2011 13:10

Does the brand pain come from chelping?

I'm confused Confused

caramelwaffle · 03/02/2011 13:10

You would like us to banal your arse, JamieLee?

. Grin

I jest Smile

AMumInScotland · 03/02/2011 13:11

I'm at work - I don't dare google....

MmeLindt · 03/02/2011 13:12

I am NOT googling chelping.

OP posts:
JamieLeeCurtis · 03/02/2011 13:13

I would love my arse to be banaled (sp?)

jenroy29 · 03/02/2011 13:14

Not interested in his blog, need to know about chelping!

WinterLover · 03/02/2011 13:14

I love it...

My DP likes me being on here as 'it stops me talking crap to him' charming!!! Grin

Eleison · 03/02/2011 13:15

I'm not googling chelping either. I already feel dirty for having typed it. It sounds extremely rude.

I shouldn't have said brands could have a paid-for webchat, should I? I don't think brands should have that -- unless in a format that said PAID FOR! HELLOOO, THIS IS AN ADVERT; in flashy neon.

AvaBanana · 03/02/2011 13:16

at chelping.

How can I erase that knowledge from my brain? help!

jenroy29 · 03/02/2011 13:16

funny how the capital or lower case c makes all the difference.

MmeLindt · 03/02/2011 13:16

All webchats are more or less adverts, Eleison.

Either they are selling their latest book or business endeavour (Jamie Oliver) or their political views (every politician).

OP posts:
Eleison · 03/02/2011 13:18

true, mme.

OTheHugeManatee · 03/02/2011 13:20

I want the blogger to come on MN and respond.

BovrilonToast · 03/02/2011 13:21

Loving the comments on the actual blog page! Smile

HecateQueenOfWitches · 03/02/2011 13:25

Why on earth people care about sites they don't want to use is beyond me.

Whether it's someone 'out there' saying they don't like mumsnet, or it's someone on here saying they don't like netmums/bounty/whatever.

If you don't like a forum - don't use it. It's not rocket science.

Drives me bloody crazy.

I think it's the arrogance.

I don't like a place / see the point of it therefore such a place should not exist / all the people who do go there are stupid, wrong, idiots, etc

You don't like the look of something, big whoopdedoo. Tell me something I can give a flying fuck about.

Quenelle · 03/02/2011 13:27

I suspect he wouldn't be half as critical of MN if it were more useful to his agency as a PR tool. Definitely sour grapes. And possibly a bit of superiority complex because he thinks what we talk about is banal.

He might think it's banal, I think it's also known as chatting. People do it all over the world all the time.

FWIW I use MN because I need the chat. Apart from with DH I don't get much opportunity for it because I don't have many local friends.

PS: Have just googled chelping Confused

OTheHugeManatee · 03/02/2011 13:27

He essentially doesn't like MN because its rules don't permit him to do what he does for a living: charge money to 'influence' internet discussions in favour of his clients.

The rest of it is just sour grapes.

OTheHugeManatee · 03/02/2011 13:28

I also just googled 'chelping'.

BovrilonToast · 03/02/2011 13:29

Maybe he thinks we'll create a media storm and he'll get publicity for his agency?

Eleison · 03/02/2011 13:30

I'm amazed that someone doing his job has such a naive view of the matter. If you work in the arena of influencing real-life consumer conversations, you surely have a more nuanced view of brands' role in conversations than to think they can just act as simple participants in such conversations.

Surely the value of real conversation is precisely that it isn't an advertising space -- that it contains the risks and the rewards of authenticity.

cocoachannel · 03/02/2011 13:31

If the blogger is lurking, may I direct you to the Bambino Direct threads, which demonstrate MNHQ do allow companies the right to reply.

Oh, and excellent use of 'fora' MmeLindt.