to REALLY hope this man's partner joins Mumnset

[MmeLindt]

Why I hate Mumsnet

First, I would like to congratulate the blogger on the forthcoming happy event. I wish him and his partner all the best for the birth of their first child.

If his partner decides to join MN, she will learn:

The Vernacular
that we use abbreviations as a time-saving tool, so that we have more time for discussing banalities. These are not only common to Mumsnet (MN) but to almost all fora.

"My DH is working away tuesday til friday. DH rang PIL and asked them if they could come and mind DCs (x3)". Another example: "AIBU to be annoyed that PIL agreed to mind my DC and then went back on it??"

• the first poster states that her husband (DarlingHusband = DH) is working away and that he asked Parents-In-Laws (PILS) if they could come and mind the three children (DarlingChildren = DC). She then asks if she is being unreasonable (AIBU = Am I being unreasonable) to be annoyed that my parents in laws agreed to mind my children then went back on it?

hth (Hope this Helps)

The Banality
If she looks a little further, she will certainly find posts about dishwashers, and pearl barley, but also intellectual discussions about feminism, foreign affairs, literature (and we are NOT talking chick lit here). Even the most highbrow of poster wants to slum it on AIBU sometimes though.

I would hope that blogger's partner never has problems with their children - since his response to a woman enquiring about her child's (DC) incontinence problems is to suggest that she spends less time on MN.

The Stupid Suggestions For Campaigns
she might wonder about the anti-JL MN campaign since most posters have never heard of it. Just because one poster has an idea, it does not mean that the whole board takes up the cry. There are always discussions about the merits of any campaigns, particularly the official ones.

Lack of Reply
If the blogger's DP (that is DarlingPartner, by the way) does post on MN she will hopefully be relieved that MN does not allow their posters to be spammed by companies. There have been a few instances where posters have complained about a product, and the company has posted a message apologising and requesting that the poster contact them. I have never seen these offers being deleted or discouraged by MNHQ (that is Mumsnet Headquarters)

The blogger's DP of course would never have to do this, as she has her DH available to ensure that she does not misunderstand the instructions of the product.

Lack of Moderation
The blogger's DP will hopefully enjoy the lack of moderation - or rather the advantages offered by self-moderation. There may be times when a poster gives out of date advice, but this is normally noticed by the other posters. And if not, anyone who relies on the advice of strangers on an internet forum in order to make decisions such as those posed by the nuchal fold test, they should not be in charge of a puppy, much less a child. Most posters will link to websites such as NHS24, or other sites that are checked for accuracy rather than spouting inaccurate advice.

I am very glad that he is not calling for the site to be closed down. His DP may well be in need of it in the not so distant future, when she starts a thread entitled,

"AIBU to think my DP is an idiot?"

well done Mme Lindt - great rebuttal, and loving the thread over all.

It's seems to be that his bigggest issue is the voice/opinions of the MN community is not edited/moderated to suit large companies trying to flog us stuff (via the bloggers power of direct marketing). boo bloody hoo!

JLC

How does that apply to large, non-cohesive groups? I suspect that groups within groups form. The size and relative anonymity of mumsnet is comparable to a large town. OK so when the town as a whole is threatened then we see cohesion. But normally, as on mumsnet, there is no one thing that we all have in common (having children comes close, but not all discussion is related to child-rearing).

This is what I mean - we're really not a group as such! We just share a website.

And I did respond to your other post, just not in writing. My response was ' how interesting'.

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Damn.

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He is too cunning.

Can't find him hully - disappointed :(

Hully.
Are you ok? Deep breath.

Got him

I heard about the brown eyes/blue eyes experiment from my DH - it was part of the curriculum in Germany to teach the children about racism.

link doesn't work for me hully, but that might be because I am in Australia and it has been filtered out - have just discovered on another thread that we are subject to involuntary internet filtering! Was

Isn't this just a whole lot more of 'Women! Know Your Limits! You can't possibly be allowed unmoderated free exchanges of views on the internet, or it might Damage the Patriarchy! And you said something negative about our product once, bwaaaaaaaaahhh!'

Psammead - I'm sure you are right. Thankyou for nodding .

I can see that we are really missing out on being "engaged with" by brand representatives who think we are all banal idiots who neglect our children. I can't imagine why MNHQ isn't beating his door down and begging him to please come and show us all the error of our ways.

damn. Obviously the filters aren't strong enough as that last link worked.

MmeL - I can't remember where I read about it but I do remember reading that it distressed some of the children quite a lot; iirc the age was around 9 or 10, does that tally with your DH's recollection? Obviously it's a good idea in principle but the distress caused wasn't necessarily.

He looks like a nice enough chap (I feel chap is appropriate here, Graeme).

Yes SGB, damn women and their pesky opinions!

SGB: nail on head

thumbdawitch - a lot of those experiments were done in the 60s when research ethics weren't quite what they are now - the Prison Expt for example

hmm.

but did he write this knowing that we would all talk about him, and that he would get extra publicity for his business in the twittersphere, FB, MN etc?

saying you hate MN is a great way to garner attention. (although his analysis is so poor that it's not a great advert. surely in his business he should be looking to infiltrate rather than excoriate?)

He must have spent a lot of time on here to hate it! In a round about way he loves mumsnet and is seeking publicity on here. For instance I wouldn't have known about his offensive blog if it was not for this thread. Now thanks to mumsnet I have seen his blog, his website on "brand pain" and I have even seen what he looks like (eeew)
Its a cliche but there is no such thing as negative publicity especially for a man whose business is built on influencing what people think.
In short by writing that blog he is using mumsnet to market the boring subject of brand pain and I by reacting to his blog and writing this post have just promoted him
the last bit is me thinking out loud)

Have a gander at these

Brand Pain - urgh. Have they actually trademarked that teeth-itchingly trite term?

Darn it, am simply not savvy enough

Excellent work MMe.

I shall share this as appropriate for the discussion

and our place is certainly not discussing banalities on the internet. Or comforting bereaved people.
Or, in my personal MN finest hour, some MNer's staying on a thread with me through the night while I waited to see if DH would make it to hospital to get to his seriously ill mother, and the support I got through her illness and eventual funeral.

and priate sex.

Parenting forums have stopped me from speaking crap to my DH too. Well, mostly. I still speak crap, but less crap, and less parenting crap. Trust me blogman will love this place when his partner has 101 questions about poo, behaviour, school reports, princess dresses, buggies, faddy eaters etc. Instead of getting home at 7pm and listening to her drivel, he'll be able to get on with his blogging :-)