To be proud of being and wife and to want to be acknowledged as such?

[WriterofDreams]

I've read quite a few posts on MN from people who are annoyed, and quite rightly so, at being called "Mrs" when they're actually a Ms or Dr or some other title. I've actually found I have the opposite problem, where companies send me correspondence with the title "Ms" even though I put Mrs on any forms or letters I send. It also quite annoys me when I introduce my DH as my husband and people persist in calling him my partner. I chose to get married and being a wife is an important part of my identity that I would like to have acknowledged. I like being "Mrs DH's name" although I do draw the line at being called "Mrs Dh's first name Dh's second name," as I haven't actually changed my first name at all.

AIBU to expect companies and professionals to use the title I've actually selected rather than the PC catch-all one?

White people are not allowed to use this term, quite rightly. It's up to them if they want to call each other the N word.
But in no way is Mrs an offensive or derogatory word.

WoD what do you think the reason it for its being acceptable only when used by one black person to another?

Lequeen-it's absolutely none of your business how long they've been together or how serious they are.
Why on earth should that matter??
Why do you need to know 'how serious' they are?Would you treat them any differently after finding out?And if not then why do you need to know?

I am a MRS, and yes i get annoyed when i get referred to as 'miss'. and i am also proud of being wife and yes it does partly define who i am as i made the decision to get married and become a mrs and a wife! i would have preferred to have the midwives etc referr to my husband as such.

being proud of being a mrs doesnt mean im proud of 'bagging a man' but of everything that being a wife encompasses.

(sorry but ive not had time to read all 27 pages, sorry if ive x posted)

There's an interesting article here www.emeraldinsight.com/books.htm?chapterid=1759625&show=pdf that I used in my study on the power of labels (although I was looking at the term "learning disabled") that talks quite a bit about the term nigger and how it has been reclaimed by the black community. The process is called reappropriation.

Yes because I would know she was married and there is no need whereas I would have no idea of his status if I met him and why should I?

Let's all go to the kitchen now!

Very very last attempt.

Ok, even if you want to think that language has evolved and moved on (ha ha), WHY SHOULD IT BE THE CASE THAT THERE IS A LABEL FOR A FEMALE'S MARITAL STATUS AND NOT A MALE'S?

WHAT EARTHLY FUCKING REASON IN THE NAME OF SWEET BABY HAY SOOS?

Look! It's fucking time to put the tea on NOW.

What are you having for tea, then?

LeQueen-I completely understand where you're coming from but it isn't realistic when you first meet people to say 'excuse me are you Ms/Mrs/Miss' etc etc.
Saying partner can surely apply to all of the above and not be too offensive?
Of course when you find out then use the correct term though.

Exactly, Hully

Have any of the Mrss attempted to answer that yet?

Come you lazy fuckers, dinner aint gonna make itself.

They're all too busy taking valium and adjusting their floral Stepford dresses, Meli.