To be proud of being and wife and to want to be acknowledged as such?

[WriterofDreams]

I've read quite a few posts on MN from people who are annoyed, and quite rightly so, at being called "Mrs" when they're actually a Ms or Dr or some other title. I've actually found I have the opposite problem, where companies send me correspondence with the title "Ms" even though I put Mrs on any forms or letters I send. It also quite annoys me when I introduce my DH as my husband and people persist in calling him my partner. I chose to get married and being a wife is an important part of my identity that I would like to have acknowledged. I like being "Mrs DH's name" although I do draw the line at being called "Mrs Dh's first name Dh's second name," as I haven't actually changed my first name at all.

AIBU to expect companies and professionals to use the title I've actually selected rather than the PC catch-all one?

It doesn't matter because women tend to get custody...?

Those that bleat on about being a mans possession because someone is a Mrs are jealous. I am no less of a person because i am a Mrs. I am proud to be married and have all my children in wedlock. Unusual these days but we don't all sleep with anyone on offer and then ooops i am pregnant.

I think it is only polite for people to use your correct name and title, as you tell it to them whatever it is.

You tell the filthy unwed scumbag baby carrying slappers

Actually, I do think being married is superior to being unmarried in one area- and that is that is recognised as being a financial/legal arrangement that cohabitees do not have.
So do I think that a married woman who has been a sahp for 10 years not earning any money (and has no money of her own) while husband works is in a better position than a woman in exactly same position but is unmarried should her 'partner' run off with someone else? Yes. Absolutely.
That's not being politically incorrect that is a statement of how things are in the UK.

coccyx I think you need 1950s MN

Le Q - I have to say that I am beginning to admire your unerring ability to entirely miss the point. It really is a gift.

Financially and legally you are much better off if you are married and your spouse dies.

At last coccyx .. Someone brave enough to say what they REALLY think.

Do you allow your children to play with those bastard ones born out of wedlock?

PMSL

Oh come on, let's be sensible here!! The reason midwives always default to partner is because they see a zillion women a day and cannot be expected to remember the marital status of each and every one.

There is too much going on, especially in a delivery suite, for them to recall, 'oh yes, this one is precious married', and so they just use 'partner' instead of risking getting it wrong.

Partner is simply more encompassing than husband, for the slow ones at the back. Nothing more; nothing less.

Coccyx - I am married and had my children in wedlock, as mentioned earlier, and I still understand the Mrs as possession thing. How can I possibly be jealous?

That's another thing I've noticed here; anyone who points out that it is better for a woman who has no income of her own (which she may not have as a sahp) is better off being wed to the father of her children is accused of being from the '1950's'.
Why, for heaven's sake, is this good piece of advice derided? It's just common sense.
Cohabiting does not confer any rights/responsibilities are regards mother/father of a person's child(ren), marriage does.
I wouldn't want cohabitation to have rights attached to it, as I believe a person should have the right to live with another adult in a relationship without being quasi-married to them.

Coccyx-People are jealous?What planet are you from?

30 years ago when I had my first dd ..midwives referred to all pregnant women as Mrs regardless of marital status ...how times change

and here was me thinking people got married for love .....

There is no excuse at all in 21st century Britain for ANYONE to use the word "wedlock"

I am fascinated by this thread, I was only dimly aware such people still existed (well there's my Irish great-aunt, but she thinks computers are evil)

I have my status as a person in my own right ...The house is in my name actually

What's the point of cohabiting? (Me asking Ed Milliband here too!)

It's not the same as marriage (eg legal status/ wills). The only difference is it allows a massive get out clause/no commitment.

Dominatrix, I agree. I think it's because we live in a fundamentally fair society that respects that people have a right to a private relationship without it involving the legal system should things go sour (although, obviously, explicit financial agreements have to be dealt with e.g. if a cohabiting couple own a property jointly, they have sort this out) I know a lot of people may feel this is morally wrong if the couple have been together a long time, but I have to say I think it is fair as there is a straight choice:

marry-which means accepting that you have certain rights/responsibilities towards your spouse OR don't but be prepared that there may be consequences because of your failure to marry.