in wanting to save my marriage?

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Regular who has namechanged.

DH and I have been together 5 years, married for 3 years. We have a 2 year old DS.

Last month, DH confessed to a one night stand with an old acquaintance. He confessed a week after because he said 'it was eating him up'. I asked him to leave and he booked into a hotel for the night but has been crashing at his friends house since then.

We had, what I thought to be a good marriage. He was a great husband, a great dad, a good listener and my best friend. We argued about normal stuff and I actually thought, life was rosy. So you can imagine what this bombshell did to me,to my son and to our family unit.

I have always said that I would leave a cheating partner but now that I am in this position, I don't want to give up. My friends are saying I should file for divorce especially since I have always had this belief. (I even offered the same advice to one of my friends who did divorce)

DH has apologised, even I can see that he is sorry. He has given me space to think and I want to give it a try?

AIBU?

Brian- didn't think of that. Or he could have had the snip.

i never said anything about sleeping with him tonight but even I know that that i dont want to live a lie.

i did say we are taking things slow.

thank you so much for takin time to read and respond.

Sounds like you just want to forget all about it and go back to where you left off. I'm sure he's eager for that to happen, too.

Best of luck in that case.

Just wanted to wish you all the best op. I hope your friend will be happy for you in the end, I think you're right not to throw everything away because of one mistake.

That is why you should never say what you would do in any situation as a fact.

There are an infinite number of variables for every situation. So why a ONS with a stranger may be forgivable, one with someone known even slightly may not be.

I think OP's friend probably thinks she made a value judgment that her marriage is worth more than her friends so must be saved.