to think that Off The Beaten Track was a mistake

[rolandweary]

this isn't a thread about a thread, it's a thread about a topic, and some of the threads in it

so hopefully not bad form

I think it was amistake - it seems to be used for all the wrong reasons. For example the shiney crew feeling they ought to post on there because people were complaining about them being a clique - that seems wrong to me, MN is public and nobody should feel they have to retire to a private area. And the BoM thread which is full of personal attacks and insults - people seem to retire onto that thread to make the sort of remarks they wouldn't make on the main boards

I think it should be got rid of. What does everyone else think?

LT, don't flounce. I don't know you, but it sounds like you find your preferred section of MN to be a good outlet. And you sound, er, a bit tense ...

It's a big site with an enormous quantity of members. There is room for everyone. The flip side of that is obviously there will be people on here who don't share your views, and we all have to try and rub along together and take the bits we like.

Or I'm wrong, and we're all nasty damaged freaks

Really? You're coming across as a bit of a one.

I was trying to help you see that the shit you write there can be seen by everyone - but hey, you want to get at me, have at it. FFS. None of us have any idea who is reading what on here - just because people ain't posting, doesn't mean they ain't watching and my point about advanced searching was valid. Furthermore...meh, I can't be arsed to talk to you.

Jesus.

Good luck mj

Shirleys a fucking moron not a cretinious moron if you don't mind

I didnt call shirley a cretious moron.. I said I wasn't one. See, nutters.

the whole thread is confusing me,and like shiney,i would welcome a step parent into my dc life!!!

god help the poor woman tho. she's need more than a mumsnet thread to run to

"I just can't beleive that anyone who isn't looking for a fight and to be a victim would deliberately go on that thread."

But people might well accidentally find it, perfectly innocently, if they were searching their own name to find something completely unrelated. It would come up in a search and then I don't think it would be at all weird for natural curiosity to make a person think "hang on, why am I mentioned on this random thread I've never heard of?"

Ladytremaine - if that is how you describe people then you are right to be ashamed of yourself.

I don't doubt that you have a strained relationship with your step daughters mother but if you speak so agressivly about her then it is no wonder people say "woah. hold on i wouldn't want my x's new girlfriend talking about me like that"

discuss a situation by all means but there is no need to absue the person. IYSWIM

i only wanted to know what BOM stood for and i still dont know!!!

Yep nutsnet

This is absurd.

someone said something about it being bonus mums?

I suggested bitches of mumsnet which seems apt

bonus mum, I think, ILT.

I like bonus daugher / son. I know some don't, I've read the threads But I think it speaks of the child with great affection and shows that the child is someone important to the step parent. I don't think any parent would be unhappy to know that their child was loved by the step parent and seen as a bonus in their life.

But I don't speak about her like that in RL obviously

And if you don't want your ex's girlfriend alking about you like that then don't behave badly and they wont...! You can't behave like a bitch and then say people can't call you a bitch.

Heh heh heh at all this. Thanks for bringing it to light op.

Possibly you are right to be a little bit ashamed of yourself LadyT. Mebbe go off and have a think about what you have done?

There's a slightly confusing MacGuffin in there re. it all being about "the shiney crew", but, anyway, we've eventually uncovered what you were on about.

I love you usualsuspect.

op didnt really come back to her thread either!!

lol bib

Ha bloody ha.. I am soooo ashamed that I have typed unconsequential bollocks on an anoymous forum. shame on me.

Oh honestly. Well, stop it then.

See ya!

well to post anonymously on a forum about someone that will probably never see it is fine.

but to bitch about another poster the way some on that thread have, on a forum used frequently by that person...can you not see why that is different?

I dont' think anyone really minds you venting about the "birth mother" (i dislike this term i msut admit) so long as it is just that, a bit of a vent and you don't identify her.

but if you then cross the line and start discussing people from the forum on the forum, well thats just plain taking the piss.

tarra honerable women who are raising other women's children and tarrah to those who are so shit scared that one day your husband will leave you and another woman will be looking after your children, and tarrah to those of you who have no affinity with either group but who got involved anyway for reasons I will never fathom.

Oooooh, fancy you having been thought of as a bitch LT. Just fancy