Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

to think that Off The Beaten Track was a mistake

414 replies

rolandweary · 28/01/2011 19:48

this isn't a thread about a thread, it's a thread about a topic, and some of the threads in it

so hopefully not bad form

I think it was amistake - it seems to be used for all the wrong reasons. For example the shiney crew feeling they ought to post on there because people were complaining about them being a clique - that seems wrong to me, MN is public and nobody should feel they have to retire to a private area. And the BoM thread which is full of personal attacks and insults - people seem to retire onto that thread to make the sort of remarks they wouldn't make on the main boards

I think it should be got rid of. What does everyone else think?

OP posts:
bellavita · 28/01/2011 21:16

Call me bella please Grin

Flaming hell, I have just had a read Shock

penelopestitsdropped · 28/01/2011 21:16

Thats a bit silly then really.

You don't need your own forum. yo just need to remember not be bastards. It cant be that hard.

even i manage it most of teh time

mjovertherainbow · 28/01/2011 21:20

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn

mjovertherainbow · 28/01/2011 21:20

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn

LadyTremaine · 28/01/2011 21:23

HECTATEQUEENOFWITVHES Im flattered that you mentioned me. The person i slated is not a step parent and so if she managed to find herself all the way over on 'off the beaten track', and added to that has specifically sort out the thread for stepmums... and then waded through the 900 zillion messages to find the one that mentioned her... then she clearly wants to find something negqative and so I shan't feel guilty.

It would be like waiting until a colleague you didnt like left for lunch, then logging on to her computer and searching for emails between her and some else who you didn't get on with, then being all upset when so saw something slagging you off.

Victim mentality anyone..?

peppapighastakenovermylife · 28/01/2011 21:23

Please don't access for the whole topic to be shut down though - some of us really appreciate that section to hide out and chat without popping up in a google search engine.

peppapighastakenovermylife · 28/01/2011 21:23

Access? Ask for!

DirtyMartini · 28/01/2011 21:24

:(

I hate the idea of a rift between Mners based on step-parents v other parents.

I have a good friend who I've been trying to persuade to try MN; she is newly a stepmum, no kids of her own yet. It sounds like this would be the wrong time based on the above.

DirtyMartini · 28/01/2011 21:25
RumourOfAHurricane · 28/01/2011 21:26

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn

penelopestitsdropped · 28/01/2011 21:27

Ladytremaine - it wouldn't be like that at all.
It would be like standing in teh corner of the office that person works in, whilst she was there and started imitating her and then insulting her.

I don't think anyone is acting like a victim. Some of the posts on that thread were beyond acceptable and you should at least have the good grace to appreciate that as MJ has.

I have step children. no one has ever dismissed what i have said because of it. well not just cos of that anyway

LadyTremaine · 28/01/2011 21:27

Sadly though shiney (and ive lurked on lots of your posts and respect you greatly) everyone doesnt feel like that.

HecateQueenOfWitches · 28/01/2011 21:28

I didn't mention you, I was talking to you. Directly replying to you.

in reply to your post
LadyTremaine Fri 28-Jan-11 20:47:17
"Oh for god sake, just don't look!!!!

I have needed to vent n the 'company' of people in a similar predicament to myself and when i have done so been judged by people who have no concept of my predicament and so it's good for venting with likemindd people. What's your problem?"

LadyTremaine · 28/01/2011 21:29

Really?? I don't think any of my posts were.. I really don't.

mjovertherainbow · 28/01/2011 21:29

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn

ShirleyKnot · 28/01/2011 21:31

LadyTremaine. I feel bound to tell you that OTBT is not some kind of completely hidden secret hidey holey place where no one goes and people don't lurk.

You can say what you like, obviously, but when you get called on it (and I'm speaking specifically here about the stuff about other MN Members) then you should use that as a "heads up"

IIRC OTBT threads even appear in advanced searches of MN user names.

And before I get leapt on as some kind of step-parent hater, I am one; but I must confess that the stuff on that thread was...well, a bit...woah! and a bit..hang on!..and then a bit..you can't say that...and then a bit...fuuuuuck.

penelopestitsdropped · 28/01/2011 21:33

oh i haven't read your thread in enough detail to know who said what Ladytreamine.

when i say "you" i mean the contirbutors to your thread.

when you came onto this thread you were a bit aggressive and your attitude towards the whole situation was a little less than gracious

ShirleyKnot · 28/01/2011 21:34

whoops x posted with you there MJ - I'm not getting at you all, just saying that shit over there, it isn't as private as you think...be careful.

I think most on this thread are concerned for the same reasons as I am to be honest.

RumourOfAHurricane · 28/01/2011 21:34

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn

LadyTremaine · 28/01/2011 21:37

OK, i'm off mumsnet. I've only been here a couple of weeks and I honestly can't beleive what I've become. I spent a vast amount of my day today being wound up but nasty damaged little freaks and am ashamed to have been in the company of them.

What a bunch of nutters. Never in my 42 years have I ever come across anyone so pedantic/pathetic/nit picking/anal and down right disturbed.

I thought I might be able to get some support from people in a similar situation to me who might understand how hard it is to love and raise another woman's child when that woman makes it her lifes mission to be a shit mother and to make your life hell.

I found that in a few, namely those on the BOM OTBT thread. But as for most others, get over yourself for crying out loud. I can't even remember writing half the stuff I have been accussed of. I was simutaneously arguing with DSDs mother over who would have DSD tonight as she was supposed to have her and as much as I was happy to have her, I knew DSD would be upset to be rejected by her mother for the third weekend in a row... oh and holding down a high stress job.. and running errands for my own DD. What a waste of energy getting involved in this bollocks as well.

I am actually ashamed of myself.

RumourOfAHurricane · 28/01/2011 21:40

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn

LadyTremaine · 28/01/2011 21:40

and shirleyknot, please don't feel bound to tell me anything, I'm not a complete cretinious moron, I know it's not secret. I just can't beleive that anyone who isn't looking for a fight and to be a victim would deliberately go on that thread.

I respect women and it is outside of my mind feild that any self respecting woman would do this.

tralalala · 28/01/2011 21:41

Lady - it is a total waste of time, and some people spend years wasted on here, it's a bit sad really.

bellavita · 28/01/2011 21:42

Lady, listen to Shiney Grin she is right...

JaneS · 28/01/2011 21:42

I haven't read the thread fully yet, but please don't get OTBT shut down! Some of us post there because we're talking about things that make us pretty identifiable, but we're not bitching at all.