To laugh at women that don't work but........

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To laugh at women that don't work but rush to the school gates 10 mins after the bell and usually rushing in at school finishing time rambling on about how busy they are and there is not enough time in the day.

I only work 16 hours a week and still manage to get everything done and a meal on the table.

So the question is ''Are people that work more organized?''

sending your child to school is not junking off........its the law.

It's all b.s. this sahm and wohm debate, yes it is true that some people are very lazy and some super efficent, but most people's work rate is roughly the same and most people will follow Parkinson's law.

ahhh - you have an OH

Tell me - what would you do if he buggered off and left you as a single parent??? (never say never - I'm sure most single parents would tell you they never imagined a day when they'd find themselves on their own........)

no - I don't currently have an 11yr old at home while I work - I will do by next (2011) summer - although by then he'll be closer to 12.

So I shall be forced to find part time work until he's a little older (probably 13/14) so that he's not at home 5 days a week in the holidays.

BTP - at least it was only floppiness of shortbread and not of someone's penis

baroque....see putting your child first just like i have been saying all along......

if oh left i would just get on with it.

can't see it though can you...I am perfect.

no - I'm not putting them first - He'll still be at home at least 16hr a week during the school holidays, and DS2 and 3 will be junked off to childcare......

Hope no one takes offence to my last post, I was just parrotting what I hear a lot on those sorts of threads.

matchbox. I don't get it. You're neither clever nor witty so what's your point?

And it's not like I'm choosing to work part time so that I'd have more time to spend with my children - I'd be choosing to work part time as it's really not acceptable to be leaving an 11yr old at home alone for 30hrs a week 13 weeks of the year..........

Not putting your child first...that is bad.

Do you feel it is ok to leave him on his own at 11.

actually I'm still confused about the benefits thing. If I'm fit and able to work I should...........BUT I should be at home with my children and not junking them off........

Start a thread on that one...

see the response.

''should i leave my 11 year old home alone for 16 hours a week while I work''

If that don't get a negative response no wonder the country is in such a state.

Och she hasn't a clue WHAT she's trying to say Baroque! She doesn't know what she's on about herself.

Leave her to her own random pish.

I already did - last year I started that exact same thread - it was (as I expected) a mixed response

Y'see Baroque there's the rub. You should've thought of that before you married a man who turned out to be a wrong 'un, shouldn't you?

I have a clue

kids should not be left home alone..

he is 11 for gods sake.

Could you find the thread for me?

Oh PM Beertricks! I have a suspicion too

It is, isn't it?

And actually the reason I'll be doing is because statistically speaking if my DS's spend 10+ yrs of their lives not seeing me working they're much more likely to end up in a workless lifestyle.

Ds1 is the only one that remembers me ever having worked, DS2 and 3 have never seen me to go out to work, and there's no way I want them growing up thinking that's "ok".

There's never going to be an "ideal" time. By the time DS1 is 13/14 (when more people concurred they'd be happier leaving their child for that length of time) - DS2 will be 11......

It sucks - but it's life. And when he's only just turned 12 he'll be getting across town, onto a train, and doing a 10 minute walk to secondary school, and the same back again - without me.

ahem - BTP......

matchbox - sadly I think I started it in chat - as it's not there now.