AIBU to be annoyed with mothers who can't be bothered to work?

[HellaH]

Went to a baby playgroup the other day and met yet another mother who has handed in her notice just because she has had a baby.

Thanks a lot! Now when I will go looking for a job employers will think that I too will hand in my notice if I fall pregnant again and will probably take on a man instead of me.

Can't wait for men to get more parental leave, maybe it will equal things out a bit!

And surely with the flexible working hours law and such a woman CAN go back to work without silly excuses.

Ooh the flames on here are giving my bacon sarnie flavour, thanks. Hehehe

You have the honour of my first ever .

What exactly do you think SAHM do all day? sit and drink tea and eat hobnobs? let me tell you, if that was the case, I would be the first to give up my part-time job. However, I find the days I'm at home with my dd harder than the days I'm at work, so in fact working is more of a rest than being at home is.

I have the utmost respect for women who chose to be a sahm and think that it should be far more respected in society than it is, I don't think for a minute that sahm just "can't be bothered to work"

here have another

I think you are right about shared parental leave being a way to even things up a bit.

As for the rest of your post, it's deliberately inflammatory and quite ridiculous.

If I went back to work despite not wanting to & being just about able to manage not to surely I would be taking a job away from someone who truly wants or needs it?

Instead of your bizarre supposition about the opinions of employers there would be less jobs available - how would that help??

'm a troll foll-de-roll, and I eat you for my SUPPER!!

Mucho respect for working mum's- I really struggled with juggling, and was rubbish at work and rubbish at home! Fortunately we are lucky to be in the position where I can stay at home with my 3 DC (6,4 and 2) so now can do my one job to best of ability-not paid but work none the less. Have a well baked biscuit OP!

Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaawn

The bloody WOHM/SAHM debate, how original

And there was me under the illusion that bringing up children was hard work. This is the problem with wrongly interpreted feminism, just because we can work doesn't mean we have to. Looking after children is no longer seen as worthwhile work and that is bollocks. Instead we are expected to do it all, looking after children and working.

the fact they've previouslt worked shows they can 'be bothered to work'

but when you have a child your priorities change. your carrer prospects don't come anywhere near im afraid

Hella - with an attitude problem like that, your biggest obstacle to getting a job is not going to be the fact that some mothers give up work. Unless you are hoping for a position as a Daily Fail columnist.

HellaH - mind your own you silly cow!

YABU

Am on mat leave at the moment with DC2 and contractually have to go back for 12 weeks but I can't wait to hand in my notice. This is because:
a) I don't really like it anymore and I can't be arsed dealing with knobheads all day.
and
b)the pitifully small amount I have left after childcare coupled with point a makes it soul destroying.

It was only meant to be a stop gap before I went freelance. Four years and two children later I'm still there so it's time to bite the bullet and quit. My priorities have changed now I'm a parent and I want to spend more time with the girls. And with a bit of The Fear under me I will get working on bringing in some freelance work.

Tsk, no, it's all those over-ambitious, over-acheivers leaving for a promotion at a different company every couple years that are the real problem. How are you supposed to get a job when there are all these folk around who just aren't prepared to work for the same company in the same role for their entire careers?

After all, no employer is ever happy when a colleague (and freind) moves on to a new stage of their lives (whatever that may be), and they in turn have to bring in new talent .

Good for her. I think you're more than a little ous of her ability to chuck it in for a baby.

Thanks a lot! Now when I will go looking for a job employers will think that I too will hand in my notice if I fall pregnant again and will probably take on a man instead of me.

what are you doing now?

actually, dont know why I bothered asking.

Jealous!!

Everybody is in a different position. Some people don't have many childcare options, no relatives nearby, or they work in a childunfriendly industry.
I worked in the media which was very child friendly if you were earning a helluva lot. i.e. if you could afford a nanny or you had a live in au pair (ie a big house) or you have parent living with you or a house husband. But for the rest of us this career was impossible. Run home to collect child from school who's feeling ill? You wouldn't get another contract! But it's true there are jobs you can do which are more child friendly but many of them pay the same as the childcare you'd pay someone to care for your child while you work. Hmm.
Lucky, clever, genius, brilliant, clever, able you if you can do it but not all of us have the right combination of circumstances to go back to work.

How is it any of your business OP?

Best decision I ever made was to stay at home and look after my children when they were pre-school(I worked part time nights when they were in asleep occasionally). Full time motherhood is greatly underestimated. I didn't even send them to nursery. I used to get the odd jibe about how I was neglecting them as they would be lonely at school as they hadn't made friends at nursery, etc., but I couldn't have cared less what they thought. And now many years on, I have 4 fine grown ups and many happy memories of all the days out we spent in the 6 weeks holidays, the school plays, sledging with them in the snow, the cookery days, etc.. It makes for some fabulous evenings in when we get back together and laugh about all the wonderful times we've spent together.

Incidentally Hella OP if you'd have wanted a job or shown any desire to wanting one,in the Victorian times you would've been locked up in an asylum and considered mentally unstable.
Bet you're mighty glad you weren't around then eh. Blimey, you'd have been very frustrated.

Oh what a load of old trolling nonsense. Nobody gets that worked up about what some random mum at playrgroup decides to do with her life. No sane person, anyway.

And what jobs will you be applying for?

Bridge attendant? Will your main tasks be catching those three pesky billy goats?

What a strange OP.

Presumably you already have a baby, and work (at least part time, otherwise why and how would you be at a parent and baby group? )

So why on earth are you worried that your employer might assume you would jack in your job if you get pregnant again? Why would they? You already do work and have a baby!

Some parents resign from their jobs when they have a baby, but plenty don't.

Don't know what you're worked up about tbh

Read the first and last page. I don't recall seeing biscuits on both before! OP, do you have green eyes? Providing it's legal other people can do whatever they like.