In wanting to sing hymms at a civil wedding ceremony?

[MrsHenryWood]

And possibly have religious readings too? I see these things as lovely parts of my cultural heritage, and don't see why I shouldn't be able to have access to them, just because I'm not getting married in a church.

AIBU? Or is it time that the law changed?

purplehaze - Have you ever thought about looking in to the Quaker faith ?

There are lots of gay people amongst Friends (Quakers)

And we are moving towards treating same sex and opposite sex relationships equally, with equal marriage services, which can be quite individual, depending on who stands to speak (or minister) and on what they say.

Not necessarily so good for hymns though, as there is usually a lot of silence in meetings

The rule when I got married (8 years ago) was thus :-
You can get married in a church - as many hymns etc as they will let you have.
You can get married in a registry office - no religious elements AT ALL
You can get married in an 'approved venue' e.g. hotel, local football ground etc, in which case you cannot sing hymns, have religious readings etc, while the registrar is present. Afterwards, it's up to you. So in othger words, not as part of the non-relligious ceremony but as a seperate part of the wedding. That could be a compromise for you?

Simply not allowed! Shame - but impossible to get round!

get married in Scotland....we had a minister marry us, but in a "civil" venue.

I wasn't allowed John Donne's 'The Canonization' because it begins:

'For God's sake hold your tongue, and let me love'.

I did offer to change it to 'For fuck's sake...' but they were having none of it.

It's a silly rule, & totally outdated - it hurts no-one, surely, to belt out a nice rugby hymn/Jerusalem/Little Donkey if that's what floats your boat.

LOL raven at your suggested compromise

Time for a revolution ? ...

The brides of England are revolting ?!