to think mumsnet is very aggressive.

[matchbox20]

I am new here and have already been slammed down swore at etcetc just for having an opinion.

I have read through numerous threads and although they made me laugh some people are very aggressive to such simple questions.

Is this the norm?

Or are some people just naturally like this all the time, hope they are not like it in real life cause they will end up very lonely once they have scared everyone away.

Yes it's the norm. Get stuck in!

It's aggressive to start threads like this... if you have an issue with posters who've sworn /made personal attacks to you, report to MNHQ or take it up on the thread

if you are new, you won't have experienced the wealth of kindness that MN offers

some people are rude, aggressive and nasty
the vast majority are not

but this is a place of love & knuckles !If you only want, 'yeah, what ever you think is best, hun', you're in the wrong place

if you want strong forthright opinions, then stay

You have to have quite a thick skin here, I think. It's not very nicey-nicey like some forums are. There aren't many nasty people, though. And AIBU is the meanest :o

I think so.
Its happened to me a few times.

But then i couldn't really care less about lonely, bitchy, common, aggressive people on here as no one knows who i am

If it is the norm I will get stuck in then lol.

It depends where you go on here. AIBU can get quite nasty, and definately threads about BF/FF or SAHM/WOHM.

I don't have experience of them but i've heard that the bereavement/miscarriage/special needs threads are lovely places

yep, the norm.

Stand your ground or just slope off and leave them to argue between themselves

Yes it's the norm. I've been here for about 5 years and most of the time I'm still shocked at the general aggressive, nasty, bitchy-ness of it all.

There are acts of kindness on here and if anyone seems to be in serious need/trouble then people do tend to rally round but these things are not the 'norm' on here.

There are a lot of people on here who come across as smug, self-righteous and think their opinion is right on just about everything. I read a lot but rarely comment anymore.

I think that if people genuinely want help, and listen to it,they get it. If they think they are right, and want everyone to say so, they will find it aggressive.There is no point in having an opinion unless it is honest.

Don't worry about it, it's mostly just to a writing style. People write things like 'unmumsnet hugs' all the time - we just like pretending we're all cutting and witty when we're really a bunch of soft nellies.

IM(humble)O.

You will get used to MN ... some posters are lovely & sweet,some are opinionated & blunt,some funny,some rude..positve or negative.. some are all of the above and more...essentially we're all different...and wonderfully weird...or maybe that's just me

plus you can always do a silent or full-on flounce when it all gets too much for you!

AIBU is aggressive but other talk sections are not. I like the sharp humour.....well I like being a ring side observer to it.

don't agree that it is predominantly aggressive. some bits are (here eg) but most are surprisingly kind and supportive. it is lively though!

it can be

Only AIBU. It should me renamed "I am pissed off and fancy a big row, care to join me?". Elsewhere it is amazingly supportive and informative. It's also seems to be the busiest board on MN as well so people are obviously getting something out of it.

Does it depend what thread you are on?
The thread I follow has been a lifesaver and never aggressive.Don't join in if it's like that.

i think it is just with the heightened emotions of the past few days peole seem a bit more...fighty.

it will past and settle down to the more typical bitchyness rather than out and out aggression.

I like it matchbox..you get to argue debate with some really bright people and I have actually been taught a lot since comin on here. I'm not as judgemental as I was.

I reckon a load of us are on our period...PMT over-load..cyber correlation

Sounds like a fun place to be.

Take part or don't take part, I shall be reading and following a lot of threads.

Matchbox20- you wouldn't be complaining now, would you?

Good attitude Matchbox, glad you're not frightened off!!

I don't think MN is aggressive so much as just incredibly honest and blunt. Sometimes it can be a bit tricky to tell the difference.

You do need a bit of a rhino-like hide here, but as others have said, I've learned so much, about people with wildly different lives to me, about myself, about not judging too quickly.

I love MN. So hugs to all you aggro bitches!

Imo it just tends to be the AIBU forum which tends to be regularly argumentative, rather than aggressive. I gather the feminist forum can also get quite heated but I never venture in there. Some posters would fight with their own shadow but then there are people like that everywhere. I don't get involved and just stick to the threads and forums that I like.