to think mumsnet is very aggressive.

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I am new here and have already been slammed down swore at etcetc just for having an opinion.

I have read through numerous threads and although they made me laugh some people are very aggressive to such simple questions.

Is this the norm?

Or are some people just naturally like this all the time, hope they are not like it in real life cause they will end up very lonely once they have scared everyone away.

I used to read another forum a lot and one of the threads on there was about how bitchy MNers were. Tbh I thought it sounded fun :o so came over to have a nosy and have been here (mostly lurking) ever since.

On that other forum one poster told another to 'go smash yourself round the head with a fire extinguisher' just because her post wasnt worded very well

I have been a bit shocked sometimes at how rude some people on here can be, but I have never seen anyone on MN go that far!

Stay out of AIBU, the rest of mumsnet is full of lovies.
The warning is not there for decoration.

I've just joined and I have a list of people to stay away from .

I'll PM you the list Matchbox.

I have found IME that people do just say what they want, but I reckon it's because we have the security of being behind a screen. Perhaps some people are more honest on here than what they would be face to face...but I suppose that's the beauty of it - good old fashioned honest opinions

And FWIW I don't actually have a list....

It's a fekkin book

Nother Newbie here, and in direct answer to your AIBU question, no. It is aggressive. So is the rest of the internet, sod parenting sites, have you ever read comments on YouTube?

I was on MN for two days and was told about the "scary but brilliant" women here. I went against my txt religion and did a lol. A rl one.

Srsly, aggressive, my arse. You want opinions by internet strangers you're going to get different opinions. People will argue because they can, people will write stuff they wouldn't ever say to your face, some of the scariest women on here are the type of girls you'd avoid in school because they really just weren't COOL. Who cares? Post if you want, read or delete if you don't like it. I was told about "hiding posts" which is great when the internet strangers start to get under your skin.

Me, I'm a lone wolf, I don't care for in-crowds and love-ins from the oh-so-aggressive posters, BUT in my few days experience I have also expressed and received a little kindness from AIBU alone. Haven't discovered the rest of it, seems to be too much Boden ads for my liking, but, you pays your money, you takes your chance. Right?

Right.

PS Shame you answered the user name comment Matchbox, I rolled my eyes and would have written "dur! It's a band" if you hadn't! Tsk. Some people eh?

anyone?

Oh dear, Matchbox, just read your other thread.

Now, I agree with your opinion that it's crazy how some women run around after their families, and then complain at being run ragged.

However, sod the Fruit Shoots and Greggs sausage rules, there are the real rules of MN (as decreed by AnnieLobesder).

1. Never, ever, express an opinion on the behaviour of a group of people and attempt to apply it to "all MNers".

That's it. The Rule.

Even if you're right about the group you're talking about, simply by implying that we're all like that will get everyone's back up and you will start a bun fight, whereas otherwise people would have agreed with you.

There are topics that come up again and again which horrify me, the situations that women put up with. But MN is HUGE, so you'll see a lot of everything.

Don't us in a box, we'll burst out fighting!

I still love your attitude though!

Please don't namechange and start again, as newbies often do after their first roasting. I like you! Tough this one out, it will win you loads of respect.

And now I'm going to hit 'post message' and wait for the wrath of MN to pour upon my head for daring to try to speak for all of us!

Agree with Annie

I have only once been rude on mn, when a bloke was being horribly troll-like on a serious relationships thread, where the poster was seriously upset by him.

Told him to fuck off and if I remember rightly he did

Where is the other thread and for the record this is the third thread in a row moaning talking about another thread.

Does this happen all the time???

Thanks Annie I ain't going anywhere or changing my name. lol.

Yes I realise not all are like ''headless chickens'' my title was flawed.

Although I did say 'some'.

he he

I am being pedantic now.

Yes it can be the norm but on the other hand I say things on here that I would never dare in rl. Also, when the chips have been down for people and they have really been in trouble I have seen the most heart warming waves of utter support and common sense being extended.

FreeBards if you scroll down to my previous post, I put the link on for the "other thread".