to think mumsnet is very aggressive.

[matchbox20]

I am new here and have already been slammed down swore at etcetc just for having an opinion.

I have read through numerous threads and although they made me laugh some people are very aggressive to such simple questions.

Is this the norm?

Or are some people just naturally like this all the time, hope they are not like it in real life cause they will end up very lonely once they have scared everyone away.

despite my name ?

don't be such a soft-arse

where are these threads? this is the second such i've seen in two days and i 'm not seing them and im bored

Spikeycow is fab! She has got it quite right!

Honest, Frank and blunt is fine! Being downright rude, arsey and nasty is just pathetic though! If you ask aibu it doesn't give someone the right to call you names and insult you for having a different opinion!

I can vouch for that.. AF has a soft arse, bit like mine but more cellulite

< kicks mcp right up her arse >

< runs away, cheeks wobbling madly >

MN can be rude and aggressive. i also think, at times, that it has a bit of a mob mentality, especially if a particularly popular poster is being disagreed with.
BUT, I've also seen numerous threads offering support and kindness, often by the same people who have been aggressive in another thread!
I guess we all have kind and mean sides to our personalities, and they come out when we're discussing so many different topics.
I can be sweetness and light on one thread, whilst swearing at someone on another! Depends whats being discussed!
Stick with it, I have a feeling you'll hold your own!
Looove your username BTW

see that's what OP means aggressive behaviour I tells ya!

< points at own eyes >

< points at mcp's eyes >

Here is the 1950s post, Custardo

OP's first post

SMC...whose name do you love ? matchbox's ? yes it has a certain ring to it, a certain fieriness a certain frisson...

< dries up >

aggressive and threatening behaviour

Matchbox20 is the name of my most fave band in the whole wide world.

I think its the norm.
I often avoid certain topics, the more hotly debated - often in relationships, or breast / bottle feeding - as you're likely to get a slam in those threads.
There are also poster names that I see and I go to myself "hum, think that one is a shouter / swearer, not 100% sure, but will avoid posting, just in case"

I often imagine that the biggest and loudest shouters / slammers are the most passive aggressive in real life, who might sit on a chintz sofa with a cup of tea smiling and saying nothing - and then their alter ego is released in cyber space. But I expect that's wrong and there may well be just the same amount of shouting in reality. But it helps sometimes, to get your head around extreme displays of aggression. The aggressor is never a completely happy bunny.

AnyFucker, yeah i love OPs name, for the reason she's just said. Although maybe the band chose that name for the 'frisson'

Did you want some real aggression?

What's wrong with a bit of a ruck now and then?

I would rather be told to fuck the fuck off a thousand times on MN than spend a single moment playing nicey nice with the shiny ticker brigade.

On that note: fuck off.

And everyone here, hates everyone here for doing just like
They do
It's best if we all keep this quiet instead
And I couldn't tell, why everyone here was doing me like
They do
But I'm sorry now, and I don't know how
To get it back to good

Sorry, what was the question?

Well said Cockney!

show I couldn't decide if I was to read that as a poem or as a song...! (until the hum bit kicked in)

anonymisty - couldn't agree more.

Ispired to get the ipod out and listen to the smooth sound of Rob thomas

ooo, sorry, realise this thread has come to an end BUT - I lurve Matchbox20, Rob Thomas is a legend! They are my "get me through this crap" band, whenever I'm down I get the CD's out and croon along!

It's so rare to find another fan, we are few and far between (in the UK anyway!)

It can be but tbh I have seen a couple of your comments over the last couple of days and you came across as quite judgey -(thinking particularly of the tidying room thread). I don't think people react very well to that kind of thing.

Judgey or honest.

On that thread I honestly find a 9 year old child who will not tidy her room when told quite astonishing, I feel who is the adult in that relationship.

BUT as the answers prove an awful lot of children were the same and the mums just seem to accept it.

BodyofEyore - can I just say that I love and adore your user name. You're not a newb though, are you?