to think mumsnet is very aggressive.

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I am new here and have already been slammed down swore at etcetc just for having an opinion.

I have read through numerous threads and although they made me laugh some people are very aggressive to such simple questions.

Is this the norm?

Or are some people just naturally like this all the time, hope they are not like it in real life cause they will end up very lonely once they have scared everyone away.

funnily enough i have never been in a wrangle or argument and ive been on mn for about 5 years on and off.
I kinda avoid it, some say in cowardice, i tend to think that im just too sensitive and would be bothered and upset for ages after the thread.
Im rubbish at arguing in real life though to be fair.

wow, I read the title and clicked - expecting WW3 to have erupted.

See OP - no uncalled for nastiness (so far anyway )

I've been here a couple of weeks and have read lots but only tend to post on the 'light' threads - I've dabbled in a few serious posts to.

At the moment I don't need any advice/reassurance as I'm quite settled in life, I do however need entertaining - hence I hang around Chat and AIBU mostly.

I think you get out of this place what you put in - if you are aggressive/rude etc you're likely to be pounced on and put in your place. If you 'join in' you may get the occasional flaming but mainly will find it an affable place.

(I've been here 2 weeks though - I may be wrong.....I'm not normally though, I'm bloody perfect me!)

I don't think brokeoven was trying to be offensive.

some people (probs myslef included) are too sensitive at times to deal with these virtual pitbulls. Its not a bad thing, shows your sensitive, but can add fuel to the fire of people who enjoy targeting people online.

thanks walkin, i defo didnt mean to be offensive, not at all. Hope cupcake wasnt upset.

Sorry brokeoven - I took it the wrong way then. God I do need to grow some, see!

When someone says something mean just think to yourself how sad && pathetic that person must be to A. take forums so seriously

B. make personal /low remarks to someone they'll never meet because there only fun in life is dribbling over the keyboard at their own E- wit.

well it calms me down lol, it might be wierd

Ahh cupcake you are back, thank goodness.
Please accept my appologies, didnt even see your post until you posted.

My little boy says to me "suck it up cupcake, i had chocolate at nanas today"
Its a funny thing in our house x

Sorry x

I have only occasionally started a new thread on AIBU - today being one of those occasions - and I always regret it immediately. I forget that it's not about reasonable debate most of the time, but about very forthright, sometimes aggressive opinions.

It is quite aggressive sometimes but that's not necessarily a bad thing.

I've noticed that people tend to think their opinion is always the right one as well & woe-betide anyone who differs, but then that makes for more interesting discussions!

If you post aggressive, rude, bitchy and ill-thought-out OPs then yes, people are going to be aggressive. Same in RL really.

I don't see the problem, surely if you give it, you've got to be able to take it?

lol at calling everyone whining 1950s housewives and then being all of a surprise that there are aggressive responses
well, i never.

deal

with

it

and stop eating goats !

I stand by what I said and some people agreed and some didnt and boy did they disagree think I touched a nerve !

[re 1950's housewife]

Perhaps, MB, when you settle in, you too will become one of the blunt/aggressive ones that all the newbies complain about...

it's a rite of passage innit

Maybe I will but I won't be swearing at people.

give it time...

< makes note on spreadsheet to pull up MB the very first time she swears on here >

I give you a week

Fuck off oops dont count

Aahhh!!! Ha ha ha! I didn't realise the phrase was 'suck it up cupcake'! That's hilarious - how unfortunate :)

that felt gooood didn't, come on admit it

a forum that doesn't censor swearing is liberating

sometimes a good swear word is the only thing that fits the bill

< amends spreadsheet >

Yes it's the norm and - I don't know what your opinions have been about OP, but when you're new, you don't realise that certain subjects crop up regularly e.g. children at weddings, cash for wedding presents, dog&cat poo, parking in disabled spaces, people on benefits having plasma TVs, oh I'm on a roll here, so if you venture an opinion on one of these topics, especially in AIBU, then a few f-offs tend to crop up, but all part of the rich entertaining allure of mumsnet.

lol

in a jokey sense....yes.

but in a serious arguement ...no....if I start swearing I think I have lost.

actually, you are right there

if I have a proper argument, I tend to be icily polite and not swear

that is when you know I am seriously pissed off

when I swear it is usually in a jokey or in a vaguely "oh don't be such a pillock" way

Dispite your name we may well just get on..

Depends where you hang out. If you're finding it a bit aggressive, maybe Am I Being Unreasonable isn't the best place for you?