Random old ladies touching my baby's hands!

[MsKLo]

AGHHHHHH

So this happened again...

In Tesco's the other day and my baby is in the trolley and I am shopping away when an old lady (I only put old as it has always been old ladies who have done this!) comes up to us and takes my baby's hand in hers...

I really really hate this! Why do people I do not know insist on touching my baby's hands? She puts them in her mouth still, I don't want random strangers who I don't know touching her hands.

Get orrrrfffff! I don't want people touching my baby's hands! One time, this other old lady who was coughing and sniffing came up and went to touch my baby's hand and was offended when I moved my baby away!

Do any of you ladies get annoyed by this or does it not bother you?!

Yes my second youngest likes to kiss all the cats goodnight

Strawberries .... I grew up in a world where "Old Ladies" cooed over babies. That was how it worked. It was normal FFS!!
It brightened their day and brightened the Mum's day.
Bloody hell .... what is the matter with people nowadays. Babies used to be part of the community .... but going by the OP (and some others) they are now "untouchable".

Sorry ..... don't mean to be snappy but I find this utterly ridiculous that old people can't touch a baby's hands because Mum is a bit anal.

Thank you Pat!

yeah what she said!

I wasn't referring to some geezer coming up to cop a feel of your tit for fuck's sake!

Ha ha

Pat

Oh here we go! Just because I don't like strangers touching my baby's hands doesn't mean I'm anal! Why do so many people here insist on insulting a person for having a difference of opinion?!

I agree with twirly - far more likely to get all manner of grot off the trolley.
I lived in darkest Northumberland when I was preggers/with small baby and was constantly accosted by women (my mummy's age and up generally) who wanted to touch my tummy or my DS when he came along. They also gave me "silver" for the baby's luck. It was a little unnerving to begin with but really lovely once I was used to it.

Lest we forget even now, in some parts of the community, people actually talk to eachother and interact in ways outside the customer/vendor relationship. The day this country turns entirely London (where eye contact is forbidden in public places and people are regarded as clinically insane if they strike up a conversaition with a stranger) is the day that I move to a lovely Mediterranean village where everyone grabs my DS's cheeks and remarks on how adorable he is....

so patpending do you also think rubbing her nose against my kids nose is normal??
What is wrong with just talking to the mum and cooing over the baby!

Do you all touch anyone you want to whenever you want? I doubt it! So why do it to babies? I don't go up to strangers babies and stroke them! When did any of you really do this yourselves?

I don't think most people would go up to someone else's dog and stroke it without first checking that that was ok with the owner...

I don't really get why it's not ok for the op, myself and presumably a few other people out there to have a different opinion to the rest of you!!!

And by the way Strawberries - my three kids are utterly delicious!
Yum yum!

I dislike babies. Would not touch them if I could help it, not because of germs, but they don't hold any attraction for me.

If you think old ladies are germy, babies are far worse. Because their immune system is not as developed, they are a hotbed of the funkiest types of bacteria and viruses.

If I came across a mad non-touching mother, I might just take pleasure in touching that baby's hands, just to make her cringe.

MsKLo - "people on here" all have fabulously varied opinions, it's part of what makes MN so entertaining and informative. Don't post on AIBU if you aren't prepared to get conflicting opinions and possibly a light slating - it goes with the turf!

Methinks freebards has her own troll like tendencies and has made herself right at home in her new MN home...

Strawberries - I have a labrador puppy and she is constantly being mauled by EVERYONE who we meet. Completely random people on the beach, walking in the woods, sitting at a cafe - people can't walk past her without cooing at the very least... I'm considering leaving her in the car next time - can't be doing with a fucking puppy stealing my thunder!!!

You think rubbing noses is disgusting??

You are a very weird person. I've had pensioners kiss my babies hands, skooch their cheeks and pretend to steal their nose, and couldn't give a toss. i think it's nice they want to admire my obviously delicious children.

Rubbing noses wouldn't bother me other than thinking it was possibly a bit desperate!

I wouldn't consider it 'disgusting' though.

But then, I'm not all weird and uptight that way.

Asteria

I have NO problem with fabulous and varied opinions

But to be rude when offering your opinion is just silly and cheapens said opinion

MsKlo and strawberries - I had allowed all sorts of people to pick up/paw/cuddle/kiss my DCs when they were young. As long as they were clean-looking, not obviously septic and generally respectable it didn't worry me.
I should say I have a working knowledge of immunology (I say "working" because it's not my speciality)
I have two healthy grown up people (kids) and we are now on to the next generation.
But what the hell would I know eh???
As you were....

Yep, I'm with you, I hate it, I'm afraid. I know they aren't necessarily creepy, but I just hate this thing where random members of the public feel a desire to touch or pick up babies. The younger the better.. wtf.

I found my DD1 in the arms of a stranger once at 2 weeks old when I came back to where my mum had her in a shop. I nearly killed my mum. And the woman. Apparently she just said to my mum, 'oooh, a newborn. Can I pick her up?' Again I say, wtf. The random must have seen the look on my face when I came back, because DD1 was returned pretty quickly.

Would be intersting to know how many people don't mind random people touching ther pregnant bellies...

McHobbes did you actually manage to read my post. Why bother eh?

Maybe you just don't understand what 'objectifies' means...

And when you talked about 'community' did you mean one where we all have to think the same or face being ridiculed? I don't really get this thread i have loads of friends in real life who don't like strangers touching their kids...

Again - why can't people just smile and say hello or make some nice general comment - what's with the touching???

Just because you think an opinion is silly doesn't mean it is. Do you see that? Just because people are pointing out that you are being, amongst other things, precious and horribly judgemental - well, that doesn't mean they're trolls. And anyway don't you have a bit of form round here yourself?

Should have deleted had in the first sentence!!
OMG - perhaps I'll be flamed!!!

MsKLo - I already said that I had half of Northumberland prodding my belly when I was preggers - they generally asked first. The witch predicting his future was a little unnerving (especially as so far she has got it spot on...) but even then I didn't really mind.

So that's one person who is ok with it...

Patpending

That is great - you think differently and that is no problem at all but my issue here is the fact that some people are so dismissive and rude about an opinion that is different to theirs! I have no problem that you think differently to me and don't judge it or think you are wrong or I am right etc but some people here are so bloody rude and think they have a right to judge me and call me anal etc

How very mature (not)

hands off my belly is what i will say msklo,my body? do i ever go and rub a random person's belly? no,then why should they do that to me?

I understood perfectly well what you meant by objectify.

I was being flippant in response, sort of like flicking the proverbial vees at your silly earnestness - which you obviously didn't get. Never mind.

Labrador puppies are just asking for snuggles, cute little puppies, who sometimes grow up to be guide dogs, what's not to love?