to ask what YOU have done for people with disabilities and their families today?

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I know there are millions of threads going on at the moment.

So this one is just an AIBU reminder to keep up some positive action.

It might be money that you give to a charity or practical help you give someone you know who is struggling.

It might be a fact that you have learned that has changed your perception of how people with disabilities survive manage in this country.

If you know a bit about disability, maybe you can post to help inform others.

Let's get as many posts on this thread as on all the others combined. Then I shall eat my words about MN not being powerful and join in the backslapping

There is a more practical thread going on in Mumsnet campaigns but I am useless at linking, so if anyone can help please do.

PLEASE, if you can think of nothing (or even if you can think of loads) EMAIL THE DLA CONSULTATION and state that you want the government's assurances that any reforms will result in increased real-term support for people with disabilities and their carers: [email protected]

i gave my dh a kiss as he went off to work

Wow, another shining example of how people can make something out of nothing.

OP I understand where you were coming from. Maybe the thread title wsn't the best in the world, but it hardly deserves this much attack!

I would happily have told you what I've done, not to congratulate myself but to help show what amazing things disabled people can achieve with the right support. But as the thread has turned nasty, it's probably not worth risking a flaming.

OP I think some people have been willfully misinterpreting your post. I think it is abundantly clear what you meant, especially in light of the past two days events.

Oh for God's sake. I was asked what I did and why I didn't ask what else I could do.

I answered.

I am going to ask for the thread to be pulled. Yet another deleted thead, great!

The shame comment for TrillianAstra was related to the "So?" e.g. "who gives a fuck" element which was very TrillianAstra.

Some of you are so overwhelmingly negative and argumentative.

Oh for God's sake. I was asked what I did and why I didn't ask what else I could do.

I answered.

I am going to ask for the thread to be pulled. Yet another deleted thead, great!

The shame comment for TrillianAstra was related to the "So?" e.g. "who gives a fuck" element which was very TrillianAstra.

Some of you are so overwhelmingly negative and argumentative.

What a fucking patronising thread, (started by a charity no doubt) I agree with Pascoe.

You know, isn't it interesting how none of you even considered the fact that I might be disabled? Sigh. I don't consider myself to be.. though I do qualify to be included under the DDA.. but it's so easy to assume, isn't it?

Don't worry herbietea, I have reported and asked for the thread to be deleted. To be honest, I wanted the sort of thing you have said here.. it wasn't meant to stick in your throat, it was just hard to pitch. But I am done explaining.

Today, encouraged 3 lone mothers to claim DLA for their children, got forms, booked appontments at the rights office to help with completion.

Dealt with HMRC for DLA awards made to ensure Dis Child Elements are paid and assisted with completion of CA forms

I however, also get paid to do this and it's what I do every day.

My parents are both disabled and I am their carer so I did their weekly shop after work.

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I'm sorry, I don't know Trillian personally so obviously read that wrongly.

However, I think your OP comes across wrongly, and you've done nothing to soften the blow.

Loads of regular MNers are disabled. Loads of regular MNers have disabled family members. Your OP assumes that regular MNers should feel guilty for no doing enough for 'people with disabilities and their families'.

It would be only polite to accept that plenty of people are already doing all they can, and probably don't appreciate being implicitly excluded in your thread title.

It's all very well to say you accept your thread was badly worded, but it's not enough imo.

I have asked for it to be pulled, I have explained what I intended, I do not assume ANYONE should feel guilty.

Who makes you judge of what is "enough"?

Btw, I did assume you were disabled. So? It doesn't change the wording of your posts, does it?

Herbie, nobody would expect you to do anything else, by the sounds of it you already do more than enough.

You could look at it the other way, and if people felt able to post positive things that they have done you might end up thinking 'the world's not so bad, people do care and they give up their time and money to do things that make the lives of disabled people a little better'. You may even have got an idea of somewhere that you could access some help and support.

I do understand that it would stick in your throat to be asked a question as in the OP, but it could have been a lovely thread showing what a bunch of giving, caring people MNers are.

imo = in my opinion.

Sorry, should have written it out in full.

Again, you assume I am not disabled. You assume no one I care for is disabled. Stop talking shit.

"Btw, I did assume you were disabled. So? It doesn't change the wording of your posts, does it?"

Erm, you have a fantastic understanding of disabilities then. Why wouldn't it?

I'm sorry, I don't understand.

Can you explain?

You can't see why having a disability might impact on how you construct an argument or use words etc? It only happens to me when I'm tired and I don't want to advertise it.

If you are so bloody offended report my post and get it pulled faster.

Yes, I can understand a disability might impact on those things.

But what I said was, 'it doesn't change the wording of your posts'.

Oh well done you for pointing that out. You are so clever. I am thick. Well done. Have a clap.

It would have been much better to have asked what Riven's situation may have inspired people to do, or to ask if anyone has any links to organisations that people can speak to about getting involved with caring. Something POSITIVE.

Its not really fair to imply that those who don't do anything to help disabled people are not worthy in some way.

I help my mother who is disabled and in chronic pain. This is not because I am a wonderful worthy person, its because she's my mother. I also don't pay regularly to charity (only sporadic PTA things and the odd sponsorship thing), so arguably I am not a worthy person!!! Who's the judge? Not you OP!!!!

Look, all I have said is that I think you're written an OP that was badly judged and likely to upset people. I do believe you did it by accident.

I understand you're fired up about this issue: loads of us are.

I don't understand what you're now getting het up about. If there's a problem and you really want the post deleted, I can do it, but MNHQ will also do it if you ask them. There's a 'report' button in the top right, if you want. Otherwise, I don't know what you're hoping to get.