Don't so many of these choices go hand in hand? I am with you a bit, Connie, in that I know a lot of people in RL who all have hard and fast expectations on themselves to HB, BF for years, use terries, a sling, knit yoghurt out of bits of their husband's beard, etc. And either beat themselves up somehow for not doing it all, or make their judgements plain for those who don't do it all. I really do know a few of these.
I could go on about them more, but I won't..
love this thread!