To think swinging is URRGH!?

[TurkeyBurgerThing]

There is are two couples on This Morning just now talking about their love for swinging. They're just your normal looking every day couples. One couple own a swinging hotel and they do to clubs.

I find this really sleazy and just plain weird. She's saying that it's really common amongst primary school teachers too!!

Eeeew I bet they'll be swapping after the show.

AIBU to think this is a very strange thing to do and be so open about?

Alright then ill have a go,is there a prize if you get it right,sgt crier? or reg hollis?

Wow, some amazingly small minded people on this thread. I do find the idea of telling people what they "should" or shouldn't be doing in their spare time a bit odd. And I'm not into swinging at all, but I've always quite liked the idea of letting others enjoy their own private lives without me worrying about it.

Wow, some amazingly small minded people on this thread. I do find the idea of telling people what they "should" or shouldn't be doing in their spare time a bit odd. And I'm not into swinging at all, but I've always quite liked the idea of letting others enjoy their own private lives without me worrying about it.

Hullygully Thu 13-Jan-11 14:16:29

I think the Christmas MN meet up should be at the Atlantis.

Hully, have you ever been to Stoke-on-Trent and seen the sort of people that live there? I think you would find the club a teeny weeny bit of a disappointment.....

Well, yes, obviously doing it in the middle of waitrose is a bit off, but I think the majority of swingers do it in private houses and places like that? I suppose dogging in car parks is pretty rubbish as anyone could just walk by, but I suppose that's why dogging in public is illegal and general swinging isn't.

LeQ, after your last post, I am a bit confused about your unashamed support of lapdancing clubs < shrug >

You show anything to anyone, and do anything to anyone.

no parallels there then , the only difference is that the men pay for it

in a swingers club, at least no money changes hands and unless someone has been coerced by the risk of their partner fucking off, there is no power imbalance

anyway, this ain't about LDC's, but I couldn't resist posting my face about that

don't mean to derail, so carry on, it is cheering me up no end

I got the idea from your posts on threads about them

FWIW, I agree with LeQueen. For me, privacy and exclusivity are really important. Since DP and I got engaged sex has got immeasurably better, because we've agreed that we're going to commit to one another for life.

I didn't always know that. Because I didn't know that, I used to be a lot more 'experimental' in my sexual life than I am now. I think I was looking for kicks, rather than intimacy, because I didn't know how much better it is when you look for - and get - intimacy.

Perhaps some people get on better than I did with sex-for-kicks. For me, the fact that sex-for-kicks can be hollow, saddening or even downright damaging is the one thing I wish I'd been taught properly by my parents, and that I vow to teach my own children.

(Sorry, that was a bit serious, wasn't it?)

I'll lighten the mood slightly then OTheHugeManatee... Yes ledkr it was sleazy ole Reg Hollis. You receive as a prize a year's pass to The Atlantis. Don't forget your lube.

sex-for-kicks is perfectly ok

when you are young, free and single (and they are too)

the challenging part is still finding "kicks" in your sex life when you have been married for 17 years

I think we can rise to the challenge of that though without involving Sandra and Brian from Stoke-on-Trent with their bad hair and worse fashion sense

Peering - are you serious? Reg Hollis is a swinger?

No wonder I used to have nightmares about him.

PITWV...you were dying to disclose that, you minx

God im so proud,dh and i can hardly wait.I am 9 months pregnant so am looking good im sure some old pervert someone will get off on that.Not sure about bending over a table tho,maybe a birthing ball

ledkr...there is a niche market you know for men who like to shag pregnant ladies

and those men's partners like to watch

I learned that on MN

I found swingers clubs were a great way to get laid when I was pregnant, as it happens.
And as to the people who think that only heteromonogamous committed sex is 'special' enough for them, well, good luck, no one is going to force you to do anything you don't want to do - so why the obsession with slagging off what other people want to do when they are not bothering you?
Do bera in mind that just because your heteromonogamous sex life is great, doesn't mean that every other heteromonogamous couple are having great sex. There are enough threads on here about relationships where one partner has no libido, or is basically rubbish in bed, yet women (in particular) are supposed to put up with crappy sex as long as the man lurves them. It's Not Done to tell Mr KindRomanticMonogamous that two pumps and a squirt doesn't really do it for you, and the only reason it did at the beginning was because you were young and horny.

see ?

at AnyFucker

Yes OTheHugeManatee - he didn't look as greased back sleazy as he did in The Bill, but was obviously living up to that impression in other ways.

I understand that not everyone has the balance right in their sex life. But surely the idea is to sort your own sex life out first, and have some understanding of each others needs, before suggesting that the best way would be to traipse down to the "Crystal Grotto" and get banged every which way by a bunch of strangers while you're impotent husband weeps into a flat generic cola in a quiet corner of the bar.

For better or for worse....in sickness and in health?

It isn't a private life when you come on to "this Morning" to tell the world about your swinging hobby is it? As you sit there you know the whole nation is imagining you rutting, and that is basically what you are doing, nothing intimate and loving, you are just rutting in front of strangers. It is the inability to keep things private.

I find it mundane too like a few other posters on here. I think it would be like watching a nature video of two lions mating, but more contrived and dettoly.

Stuffing I never said I was judgy about people who take other approaches to hetero monogamy.

Again FWIW besides the heteronorm I've played in fetish clubs, had same-sex relationships, non-monogamous relationships, long and short relationships with trans/genderqueer people of all identifications etc etc. Eventually I figured out what (or rather, one specific who) worked for me.

That's me, not 'all you lot as well'.

I remember spending time on a lesbian forum some years ago, where there were endless debates about whether polyamory was or wasn't more 'evolved' than monogamy. This thread seems to be going in the same direction.

Having said all of which, lots of things about fetish and swingers clubs are very funny. Especially the po-facedness of lots of the types you meet there

po-faced ?

I expect that's the expression they have to cultivate whilst Brian from Stoke on Trent, Gerald from Basingstoke, Keith from Hull and George from Hartlepool queue up to poke them from behind

like this