motherinlaw that posts pics on facebook

[nowonthepill]

Hi there, just need to vent some anger! My motherinlaw is a total facebook addict. She plays farmville 24/7 and is friends with loads of people she barely knows as it benefits her farm or something...Anyway she puts loads of photos of my kids on, often using one as her profile pic. She knows I'm not keen but it doesn't seem to stop her. Am I being unreasonable to not want my kids shown off to a load of complete strangers? I really hate that I feel I've no control over this and worry that it's a little dangerous to provide so much info on three little kids. What does everyone else think? Feel free to tell me I'm being paranoid!

I thought "making indecent photos" just meant taking the photos yourself or downloading them from the internet? I may be wrong, though?

OP, yanbu. Fact is, this is your child, you asked her not to post pics of your child on the internet and she disrespected you.

Yanbu

If you don't want the whole world to see photos of your dcs, just tell her.

I don't have pics on facebook and wouldn't allow any of my child cos you lose the right to the photos. That means they can be screen scrapped or FB can sell them for anyone to use. As the child can't give consent for their photo to be available to the whole world I think it is the parent's responsibility to, at least until the kid can decide.

*"It is true that internet photos are taken and used by paedophiles for abuse photographs - making indecent images of children it's called."

can you show a case where this has been found to be happening? A link to the case would be good"

www.tes.co.uk/article.aspx?storycode=6033403

Tanith, thanks for posting the link. However, looking at it, there's nothing to suggest the person was making indecent pics from people's personal pics on Facebook - it just says they were taken from the internet so presumably they could have been taken from clothes modelling sites, advertisements, anything really.

OP, the easiest and simplest suggestion is to ask your MIL to have a folder of pics of your DC that is limited in who can view - then she can carry on playing farming games with the world and its wife, with no hassle.

I am really not convinced that we all have acquaintances on FB who are secretly planning to do unspeakable things to occasional family snaps.

Scuttle....isn't it the same thing though? Chldren modelling...children on facebook..they're all kids!

Scuttle, I was asked to justify my comments. I've done so. Moving the goal posts is disingenuous.

However, I can tell you where he could well have got them. Concern was first raised because he was encouraging teachers to post photos of their classes to his site.

thank you tanith

Thanks Tanith, interesting read and it does give food for thought.

YANBU although I agree that in all honesty it is unlikely that any perv is actually going to be able to harm your children it's more the thought isn't it? I had a 'friend' on fb who I had known for a number of years and it turned out he had been abusing boys for years. None of us suspected. I expect as the police had his computer they checked us all out as his friends to ensure that we weren't involved. That makes me feel a bit weird.