motherinlaw that posts pics on facebook

[nowonthepill]

Hi there, just need to vent some anger! My motherinlaw is a total facebook addict. She plays farmville 24/7 and is friends with loads of people she barely knows as it benefits her farm or something...Anyway she puts loads of photos of my kids on, often using one as her profile pic. She knows I'm not keen but it doesn't seem to stop her. Am I being unreasonable to not want my kids shown off to a load of complete strangers? I really hate that I feel I've no control over this and worry that it's a little dangerous to provide so much info on three little kids. What does everyone else think? Feel free to tell me I'm being paranoid!

frgr that's it...but imagine if my DD wants to keep her upbringing private? She might not ant people to know what school she attended for her own reasons...if Ive got pics of her all over the net then that's that privacy gone isnt it?

I think people are naive and dont think about future technology.

It would be possible to trace people back to links with criminals also...wht if my DDs Uncle was some murderer (he isn't) And in the future that was something she wanted private but there are pics all over the net of them?

teens put their own photographs online wimpoftheballet

this thread was about putting someone elses decent photographs online and that was the objection due to the decent photographs being used in a perverce way - yet you bring indecent photo and say it is the same as they are children putting photo of themseves online - what you put online yourself is up to you and that is the point of this thread the fact that someone else can do this

ffs!! YANBU! its not just the risk of sex offenders with posting pics of kids on fb. look at the bloody t&c's. fb have a license to sell on your pictures to third parties, as yet unspecified. i dont want dd ending up on and advert in japan or worse.

go and see mil and talk her through it and stop her.

Charliesmommy...no...you are missing the point.

As I said...it's not only 13 year old girls who post scantily clad pics is it? No...there is disturbing evidence of kids as young as ten doing it.

Nd before you tell me it's another issue...it' not...they're closely bound.

People stick all kinds of images on there...kids on the beach, kids in the bath...who says the parents have the right to do that?

People knock celebrities for having their children with them when the Paparazzi are after them...this is no different really.

Respecting your child as a person and not "Owning" their image is important. Very important in this age of technologhy.

Wimple, well it's interesting that you mention the example of your Uncle. i found out at about the age of 22 that my own Uncle (on my mum's side) had been in prison for 7 years due to a relatively serious offense. it was so serious i do not see him any more, i do not want my DCs around someone who could do what he did. (We were not close before though, so no huge argument, just a drifting away.)

Would I want pictures of me during the summer holidays as a very small child available online? Absolutely, postively not. But then if it's being posted by someone else, i don't even have any control of that, do I? the most people can do is politely request for the removal, and hope the poster agrees. Or, if it's otherwise delicate e.g. comprimising pictures, then report and request to Facebook Officials.

YAB(a bit)U

"Would I want pictures of me during the summer holidays as a very small child available online?" was meant to be "Would I want pictures of me during the summer holidays as a very small child with him, at his house, in his garden etc available online?"

YANBU. You need to tell her to stop as posting them gives facebook ownership of those pics forever. And yes the privacy thing, and yes the paedo thing. All valid, ieven if they do appear to some to be overly concerned.

Your kids, your right. This is not just showing her bingo buddies her digital camera piccies. Maybe I missed it, but is DP onboard to tell her to quit it?

this is about someone else uploading the photograph wimple - not the person involved.

I hope to goodness that MIL isn't taking indecent photographs of her grandchild and that is the point you are missing point, you are talking about the person in the photograph uploading the same photograph and that is not the point.

If my MIL put photos on FB of DD I would ask her to take them down. I do not put them online so would prefer it if she didnt either.

It's not paranoia, I don't care whether a pervert or a nun can see them I don't want them on FB.

She is welcome to show piccies to anyone in RL tho...

Here...Facebook will remove pictures of under 13s which have been posted without your permission if you ask them to. So I was correct in this case CharliesMom

www.facebook.com/help/contact.php?submit&show_form=unauthorized_photo_underage

Try it first and see what happens wimple - then come back and tell us how hard it is to get facebook to listen to you about getting the photographs taken down

Plus to get the photographs taken down -guess what you have to actually give all this information, which then facebook keep and sell on to other companies

Your full name
Your child's full name
Your child's date of birth: month
Your child's date of birth: day
Your child's date of birth: year
Your postal address
Your telephone number
Your email address

How many of you on facebook use your real names - you don't use your real names do you - so wh would you then give it out and all your dc information, as that is actually the dangerous part - not the photograph

HOw do you know all this ivykaty? Have you tried it?

Oh I see...it's the form...but that info is put out by people ALL the time when they sign up to thiings on Mumsnet or go shopping!

Yeh but you don't use your real name or real date of birth - do you, you never give out information like that to a form you don't know what they will do with that information or who might come across it.

yes I have had dealing with facebook and yes they where hopeless.

Also facebook is the only place I have ever given my real phone number - strange that I get phone calls for my facebook name...Fortunately I can hang up as I know know it is a sales call as not my real name.

Far better to protect your real name which is far easier to abuse and steal than photographs of a beach scene

What! You would give a fake name when you were entering a Mumsne comp? No you wouldnt! I wouldn't anyway...nor would I do that when buying online!

i sign up with fake names on most things. unless i think it's suitable for them to contact me - e.g. competitions and so on.

i actually misspell my name on most things just to see what they do with my info sometimes. e.g. my name Sandy Jones becomes Sandra Jameson. except more obvious. it's mega interesting to find out which companies pass on which information And double so when you've TICKED the "don't sell on my info" box

I also mispell my name and make myself male at times!

No I don't enter comps - sorry but even mumsnet and verify that I don't enter comps

My facebook isn't in my real name either - is yours?

Well yes it is..I only use it for family and close friends... how would people know me otherwise?

It is not so much pervs looking at children that people usually worry about - more pervs using digital pictures of children, along with photoshop, to create very unpleasant made-up pictures of children. Many people would not want their childs face superimposed on these images, especially if their child was also present in school uniform and so could have their location identified.

and your worried about photos...the mind boggles

I have no problem using an alias on facebook and people know who I am.......from my photo. But facebook sold on an alias's details

whatkatydidathome - I keep hearing that perverted things are done with these photos - but I have never come across a case in the newspapers or on the internet - can anyone find a case of the photograph being adulterated and awful images put on young dc bodies

Many people are found guilty of "making indecent photos" as well as of "taking indecent photos". Eg:

Blanchard?s pleaded guilty to eight counts of making indecent pictures, four of distributing indecent pictures, five of taking indecent photographs...