The OFFICIAL buddy bench/naughty bench thread No. 4

[Teaandcakeplease]

Come hither all those who haven't found their place on mumsnet, have scrapped in Aibu or crossed words in chat. The buddy bench shalt not judge.

The buddy bench will hand out wine and cakes, it will join you on your scoffathons getting pissed

All those who sit on the bench, will have their sins erased and be given a warm welcome and cheerful chat from CheerfulYank, gomummy, tired mum, Elmo, AF, HE, Cheesey and far, far too many more to mention.

Welcome to the buddy bench, we look forward to meeting you all

Oh and don't forget, last one to leave polishes bench and locks up!

She has a TV in her room, but not sure if it can get all the freeview channels, husband (sorry don't call them DD and DH!!) can't seem to get it

kicked off again this afternoon as always over trivial crap

I think she is crapping herself over going to the family counselling as she knows she will be told she needs to take a look at herself

Oh blimey, i am no good when it comes to teens, i hope one of the others are better help, i am dreading the teen years

Lol elmo at calling him kevin, i love harry enfield

Family counselling is a good idea purple , Sorry you've had a bad day [hug]

My ds is exactly like Kevin which would be funny except we are 3 years off him being a proper teen!!! God help me!

Oh and after googling I am pretty sure that Triple P course is free purple - worth a shot?

Tis true tiredmum .
This will be ds next year when he turns 13

She is 14, and cannot even see that she is even a tiny bit like Kevin the teenager!

We have clashed for years, about when she was 7!

Not had a chance to look up Triple P, but it will be hard for me to do anything on a regular basis, will see how we get on

sorry purple i meant my ds is like kevin
What is your dd like with her dad ? does she argue with him too ?

A teen never would be able to laugh at their behaviour purple, that comes with maturity.

I remember watching a programme about a study on how teens perceive other people and they actually find it extremely hard to read other people's body language and facial expressions, it was something to do with brain development. It explained how clashes with parents happened because they just couldn't see how their behaviour affected other members of the family.

Also talked about how much sleep they need in the mornings hence the classic 'teens sleeping all day and getting up when the day is practically over' scenario. All due to chemilcals in the brain.

No I am agreeing with yu elmofan!! She is like kevin!

she is the same with her dad, but we aren't bad parents as she knows how to behave for every bugger else so we have done something right (woman from school been speaking with us has told us this!)

Just makes me feel worse, if all kids behave like this and I (at the time when she was much younger) and now we can't deal with it then it is obviously something we do or don't do

Leaving the room or even the flat today didn't really help me calm down, not much else I can do!

She isn't even aware of her own body language!

At times I think I must need to go to the doctors as I am seeing her mouth move and seeing her face move but she didn't speak or move at all!

I honestly think you have to pick your battles with kids and especially teens. Hard work though x

When ds rolls his eyes and grunts and tuts , I tell him not to do it , he dinies it and says 'But I'm NOT' and I tell him 'YES you are , I know because I used to do it to Granny!'

Denies!

Ooh i get told by ds's teacher too that ds is a very polite / mannerly child that loves to help others ... at home he drives us up the walls at times & I've lost count of how many nights I've ended up crying after he has gone to bed .
Could you maybe find ways of relaxing when she has gone to bed like having a glass of wine or a bath ? Hopefully the counselor might be able to get through to her whereas if you say things to her she might take it as nagging iykwim .

that is my problemm=, just struggle to change. I can only do my best and it isn't good enough. I expect she will be put off being a parent for life and will be on mumsnet of the future moaning about how her parents ruined her life

Off to watch a film, night ladies, hope tomorrow is better purple x

night vslium! x

Night valium .

oops, valium!!

Hope everyone had a good weekend? :)

I am still doing uniform/games kits

Me too valium i've just finished ironing the uniforms although poor dd has an earache so not sure if she will be able for school in the morning.

Oh no poor dd ear ache is horrible, I remember it as a child.

I fold from the drier - I am allergic to ironing

Lol i usually say that to dh but he's in work atm so have to do it myself tonight.

I'll see if she gets much sleep tonight, if not i'll keep her off school.

How was your weekend?

Suspect I've missed everyone tonight (though still don't know what the time difference actually is). Hope you've all had a lovely weekend.

Need some food-gift ideas for an elderly gentleman who lives alone and has recently lost his "companion." They did not live together but she did all the cooking for both of them. Would like to take him something but not sure what - maybe something freezable, or that keeps well or could be made into smaller portions...not sure...help? Would some baking be better?