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AIBU?

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to have had this argument with a woman in Weatherspoons today?

554 replies

OnEdge · 11/01/2011 19:32

I tok my 18 week and 18 month old into Weatherspoons this morning. The lift was out of order so I ended up leaving the baby in the buggy, unstrapping my son and taking him a level (4 steps) to the bar to order my coffee. I took my son because had I left him strapped in the buggy he would have started arching his back and becoming agitated. The buggy was only about 12 feet away from where I was standing at the bar. My boy was toddling about, within a few feet of me while I waited to be served. A lady bought a coffee and was walking past me to her table with it, I saw my son walk round a large pillar and could possibley walk into her path. I warned the lady and said "oooh ! careful" and pointed my son. She walked past him and said loudly "He shouldn't be walking about !"

So I followed her to her seat and asked her why my son should not walk about.

Her "Its not me that says it, its this place."

Me "But YOU said it, what do you expect me to do with him when I place my order ?"

Her "Can't you strap him in a buggy?"

Me "No I will not strap my child down for your convenience>"

Her "I didn't want to step on him"

Me "All you had to do was look where you were going, I warned you he was there."

and then it carried on for another 2 minutes.

So, was I BU ????

I'm gonna get slaughtered, but I am intrigued as to whether or not you think I was out of order.

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Gissabreak · 11/01/2011 21:47

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mumeeee · 11/01/2011 21:47

YABU. Your child was wandering about. Why couldn't you have hels his hand while you ordered. It was very rude of you to follow her to her table.

stillbobbysgirl · 11/01/2011 21:47

there are about 150 posts here telling you that yes, you are BU, but you seem unable to take any of the comments on board?! why are are even asking if AIBU if you clearly have no intention of even considering that you might possibly be so?

StewieGriffinsMom · 11/01/2011 21:47

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FudgeGirl · 11/01/2011 21:48

Seriously, I must be bonkers then. I can't understand why you'd leave a baby in a buggy anywhere, let alone next to some stairs.

BoysAreLikeDogs · 11/01/2011 21:48

Hah Reading, the OP was in a PERFECT place then, non? viz your second sentence

OnEdge · 11/01/2011 21:49

I can see how people think I'm wrong taking children into weatherspoons if they are nasty, but ours really is very nice. Its a small town in Devon , not a city centre pub.

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tomhardyismydh · 11/01/2011 21:49

I was meeting my parents for brunch actually. What does pfb stand for ? I had a coke and a coffee and a flapjack for son.

then why didnt you just wait for them before having to go to the bar.

OnEdge · 11/01/2011 21:50

stewie You couldnt be more wrong, I'm genuinely interested, where was I hysterical ? When did I whine and when did I flounce ?

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Doramustdie · 11/01/2011 21:51

Oh poo sticks.. "what does pfb mean anyway Hmm". Does this mean two nights on the trot I'm posting on a dodgy thread. Don't want to yell TROLL!

Vallhala · 11/01/2011 21:51

So a nurse lets her toddler wander around a pub while people walk past with cups of hot coffee and then follows them to their table to argue with them about her own poor decision?

Thank goodness I don't attend a Devon hospital. Hmm

OnEdge · 11/01/2011 21:51

tom because I got there first and wanted a drink.

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LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 11/01/2011 21:51

It's not the venue that's the issue, OP, it's your lack of attention as a parent and your refusal to see that you handled the situation wrongly.

Or maybe you just crave the attention, hmm? Wink

OnEdge · 11/01/2011 21:52

I don't work in a hospital vallhala and what has being a nurse got to do with it, I wasn't working.

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tomhardyismydh · 11/01/2011 21:52

well you havent flounced yet but soon you will. Grin sticking round for it Grin Grin Grin

colette · 11/01/2011 21:53

yabu

BringOnTheGoat · 11/01/2011 21:53

I'd leave my baby in a buggy at the bottom of stairs rather than try and hoik it up them. Buggy was in view, inside, only oredering a drink. 18 week old was prob asleep anyway!

DuplicitousBitch · 11/01/2011 21:53

onedge your actions were those of a fishwife. accept the mn judgement and move on

OnEdge · 11/01/2011 21:53

What lack of attention ? I was very attentive, I was with him and ensuring he was safe, just not holding him. He wasn't far away. I just warned the lady he was there.

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tomhardyismydh · 11/01/2011 21:54

tom because I got there first and wanted a drink.

but clearly you cant manage to do that alone without getting into trouble so you should have waited.

readinginsteadnow · 11/01/2011 21:55

Boys, maybe you're right, if Exeter has the same traditional English seaside holiday feel as Clacton or Southend.The same kind of atmosphere that makes us all think we can wear bikinis in Macdonalds, because we're on holiday, etc etc.

Having said that, I repaeat that I'd never take a toddler; it madness! We took our 4yr old as little as possible eg older one went with dh, whilst we went straight to the beach with food from local shop.It was much more fun for a littly than making him sit still and be patient.

tomhardyismydh · 11/01/2011 21:55

you didnt actually warn the lady he was there you said oh carefull

Vallhala · 11/01/2011 21:55

"what has being a nurse got to do with it"

Erm... an awareness of the peril posed by hot liquids of scalds and burns, especially upon someone small with delicate skin who isn't as aware of danger as an adult?

OnEdge · 11/01/2011 21:55

I'm not flouncy really, Ive been accused of being a chav, a bully and my son described as wandering about like an animal, if I was going to flounce off, I would have gone by now.

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VivaLeBeaver · 11/01/2011 21:56

Don't really see what the OP's job has to do with anything.