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to have had this argument with a woman in Weatherspoons today?

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OnEdge · 11/01/2011 19:32

I tok my 18 week and 18 month old into Weatherspoons this morning. The lift was out of order so I ended up leaving the baby in the buggy, unstrapping my son and taking him a level (4 steps) to the bar to order my coffee. I took my son because had I left him strapped in the buggy he would have started arching his back and becoming agitated. The buggy was only about 12 feet away from where I was standing at the bar. My boy was toddling about, within a few feet of me while I waited to be served. A lady bought a coffee and was walking past me to her table with it, I saw my son walk round a large pillar and could possibley walk into her path. I warned the lady and said "oooh ! careful" and pointed my son. She walked past him and said loudly "He shouldn't be walking about !"

So I followed her to her seat and asked her why my son should not walk about.

Her "Its not me that says it, its this place."

Me "But YOU said it, what do you expect me to do with him when I place my order ?"

Her "Can't you strap him in a buggy?"

Me "No I will not strap my child down for your convenience>"

Her "I didn't want to step on him"

Me "All you had to do was look where you were going, I warned you he was there."

and then it carried on for another 2 minutes.

So, was I BU ????

I'm gonna get slaughtered, but I am intrigued as to whether or not you think I was out of order.

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MadameDefarge · 12/01/2011 22:56

I am adoring the naif charmlessness of the OP...so refreshing amongst all you world weary sophisticates!

monstermunchlover · 12/01/2011 23:17

I have followed this thread from the start and can't help but wonder if OnEdge is also Mrs1D2Oddery

I think she is trying to wind up and fool us all, please correct me if I am wrong.

GiddyPickle · 12/01/2011 23:30

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kittybuttoon · 13/01/2011 00:00

What a lousy example you set to your child in Wetherspoons, picking a fight with a complete stranger.

I expect he will grow up to be just like you (with the world revolving around him)

I see trouble ahead. Repent while there's still time, and make friends out of other people, instead of enemies.

Mists · 13/01/2011 00:07

"What a lousy example you set to your child in Wetherspoons, picking a fight with a complete stranger"

DH has just looked over my shoulder and said, "but that's traditional!"

Well it is in out local Wetherspoons. If memory serves Grin

Mists · 13/01/2011 00:07

our

FGS.

ILovedYou · 13/01/2011 00:39

OK OnEdge - you are with 2 very young babies.

Alone.

In a pub trying to have a nice day out. If the toddler has stayed in the pushchair he would have arched his back etc.

Perhaps this motion would have had the pushchair rock back and forth and perhaps the pushchair overturning?

The toddler was not by your side and i know you needed a break but holding his hand in order to prevent an accident was best.

You see your toddler behind a pillar and the Lady with the scalding coffee is walking by. You forsee an accident and say ooh careful as you obviously did not want your son to be hurt. The lady with the coffee speaks her response and i think as you felt responsible for the curt excahnge you follow her and want to win!...

It didn't work, next time hold toddlers hand and ignore people that you feel are rude or anti - children in a child friendly public place.

You gave birth 18 weeks ago so maybe things seem to be worst than what they are at the moment.

Forget it now...chalk it down to experience. Not everybody likes or is comfortable around children.

You are honest, i like ya!

Mrs1D2Oddery · 13/01/2011 10:22

Oh very dare you Mrs Lover!

tomhardyismydh · 13/01/2011 13:14

love this thread Grin

it is teetering but has not manage to tottaly kick off yet.

op you need to call someone a cunt or tell someone to fuck off then it will become a mn pombear legand.

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OnEdge · 14/01/2011 03:33

Well, I was definately unreasonable regarding the lady in wetherspoons,, and now I have calmed down and slept I feel bad about the whole thing. I don't usually behave like that. I can understand people getting annoyed regarding what happened in there, but I don't know why posters get so personal and nasty about me personally. I asked if I was being unreasonble in weatherspoons, not if I was the biggest cunt that ever walked the earth. Why do posters have to be so nasty ? I was wrong about the argument but I won't accept a lot of the other stuff that people have said regarding me and my son. The posters have said some awful stuff about us and very insulting based on a description of something that happened. I know that AIBU is not for the feint hearted, but it is a bit of a weirdy place, like looking through the looking glass.

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OnEdge · 14/01/2011 03:37

What is The pom bear thing ?

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OnEdge · 14/01/2011 03:39

fuckin ell, my own stupid post is dragging me back in now and no one even up. I really am getting mi coat now.

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kittywise · 14/01/2011 06:59

sorry on edge. I' glad you've seen that you were BU But I agree , it always gets horribly personal on here. People can say really nasty things. Please don't get too upset. See it as a lesson learned. I barely post anymore for that very reason.
Can't stand the bitchy personal comments. And it makes no difference what you're posting about eitherSad.For instance I've wanted advice about something for ages now. I have thought about posting but know I won't be able to stomach the obligatory tosser that will come along and be vile. It's such a shame. this is supposed to be a place of support. it used to be.

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OnEdge · 14/01/2011 09:05

Wow, that was a nice post for here. It seems to be regarded as a sport, almost like entering a ring for the entertainment of the pack. Its comments like "pass the popcorn" that make me feel like this. I am aware of AIBU, and didn't get upset because I expected it.

I knew it was going to get nasty, but I really did want to hear what people thought because I don'y usually row with old ladies, and I couldn't understand my own reaction. I just put it down to being very tired, her tone of voice just triggered a reaction.

I still do find MN extremely supportive, but just not in AIBU.

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OnEdge · 14/01/2011 09:08

People that get really nasty in AIBU are similar to trolls in that they post things to get a reaction and bait the OP. Its trolling in reverse.

Keep on passing round your pop corn !

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OldMumsy · 14/01/2011 10:07

If you spent as much time looking after your child as you did arguing with that woman you would not have had the problem. YABVU
I would not take kids in a Wetherspoons in anycase, full of dross.

JBellingham · 14/01/2011 10:16

Kids should be under control when in pubs, if you cannot manage to control your brood then stop going in pubs where your unruly sprogs might get scalded from coffee because they are wandering around. Other people should be able to walk from the bar to their table without tripping over your offspring. Wetherspoons provide a 'family area' and you should not have children at the bar. If this is too difficult go to McDonalds.

sloggies · 14/01/2011 10:17

I wondered if the row with your mum had upset you more than the Weatherspoons thing, but you were focusing on that instead?

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OnEdge · 14/01/2011 12:45

Jbellingham unruly sproggs - thats nice !

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hobnobsaremyfavourite · 14/01/2011 12:47

Yeah lovely nearly as nice as shouting at an old lady! Don't dish if you can't take OP

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OnEdge · 14/01/2011 12:49

If this is too difficult go to McDonalds ?? Why do you feel the need to make sarcastic nasty comments ?

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OnEdge · 14/01/2011 12:51

I didn't shout at her.

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OnEdge · 14/01/2011 12:54

hobsnosaremyfave She also "dished" and she could take it quite well.

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OnEdge · 14/01/2011 12:54

You may have noticed that I can indeed take it !

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OnEdge · 14/01/2011 13:15

right im hiding it now, its like a bad habit, if i get withdrawal i will go and watch jeremy kyle and pass the pop corn.

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