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to have had this argument with a woman in Weatherspoons today?

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OnEdge · 11/01/2011 19:32

I tok my 18 week and 18 month old into Weatherspoons this morning. The lift was out of order so I ended up leaving the baby in the buggy, unstrapping my son and taking him a level (4 steps) to the bar to order my coffee. I took my son because had I left him strapped in the buggy he would have started arching his back and becoming agitated. The buggy was only about 12 feet away from where I was standing at the bar. My boy was toddling about, within a few feet of me while I waited to be served. A lady bought a coffee and was walking past me to her table with it, I saw my son walk round a large pillar and could possibley walk into her path. I warned the lady and said "oooh ! careful" and pointed my son. She walked past him and said loudly "He shouldn't be walking about !"

So I followed her to her seat and asked her why my son should not walk about.

Her "Its not me that says it, its this place."

Me "But YOU said it, what do you expect me to do with him when I place my order ?"

Her "Can't you strap him in a buggy?"

Me "No I will not strap my child down for your convenience>"

Her "I didn't want to step on him"

Me "All you had to do was look where you were going, I warned you he was there."

and then it carried on for another 2 minutes.

So, was I BU ????

I'm gonna get slaughtered, but I am intrigued as to whether or not you think I was out of order.

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iamamug · 11/01/2011 23:22

You have 3 children under 4 ?? Think you're on the edge! You were wrong and you know it. We are all mothers on here telling you - just accept it..Sorry!

MadameDefarge · 11/01/2011 23:22

Perhaps you should give a couple of nice ribbons on a stick and he could do some free form eurthymy for the delectation of onlookers?

CurlyhairedAssassin · 11/01/2011 23:22

"Oh I know strap him in a high chair - nice."

Yep, they are. That's what they're there for after all. To stop lickle children falling out of them onto old ladies' toes.

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OnEdge · 11/01/2011 23:23

Vallhala If that was one of your precious fekkin dogs you would go mad

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OnEdge · 11/01/2011 23:25

Na, no need to strap kids into gadgets

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mears · 11/01/2011 23:25

I know your pain when out with young children. Have been there, done that and got the T-shirt. I would never have made life more difficult for myself out shopping with with a baby and toddlers by releasing one to create havoc. If 18 month old babies know that wriggling is not going to release them, they stop wriggling! You should have given him something that would hold his attention while he was in the buggy and you were ordering your drink. He was at risk of injury yet you would blame others for not dodging him. YABU.

MadameDefarge · 11/01/2011 23:25

perhaps valhalla's dogs could jump through some flaming hoops also? What a show!

PiccalilliShinpads · 11/01/2011 23:25

Rhoobabble - how are whetherspoons a family environment when they serve alcohol at breakfast time?

Bizarre!

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OnEdge · 11/01/2011 23:25

lamaug I have accepted that I was wrong.....a bit

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CurlyhairedAssassin · 11/01/2011 23:26

Well, sit him on a fecking chair then!!!!!!!

Troll or no troll, this thread has gone past the amusing stage to the "pissing people off stage." So am definitely going now.

Also Madamedefarge is scaring me with her vocabulary.

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OnEdge · 11/01/2011 23:27

mears I really disagree, i don't think you should tie kids down to keep them in one place. He came with me, I looked after him.

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auntyfash · 11/01/2011 23:27

Wetherspoons, a much more interesting subject, yes. They are not somewhere I would like to take my family. Alcohol for breakfast, a few hundred nazi thugs at tea time.... nah, not my cup of tea.

mears · 11/01/2011 23:28

And I will add I had 3 children under 4 and I kept them strapped in at every opportunity for my sanity Smile

They are all grown up now and perfectly happy - even number 4.

Vallhala · 11/01/2011 23:28

OnEdge, I know pubs into which I can take my dogs. And on occasion I have taken one or another.

My dog has remained with me, on a lead, at all times, not because they cannot be trusted or do not behave but out of courtesy and for reasons of safety. Yes they are precious, too damn right, but not to the extent that I have the right to expect others to look out for them when going about their business in a pub.

Likewise my children when they were small. If I took them into a pub as you did I didn't have them on a lead of course but I bloody well made sure they were with me and held on to, in their buggy or in a highchair.

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OnEdge · 11/01/2011 23:29

NO its not what buggies are for

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OnEdge · 11/01/2011 23:30

They have straps to stop the children from getting out, but not for our convenience its bloomin wrong that.

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MadameDefarge · 11/01/2011 23:30

My ds is 10. He has never left his buggy. Best place for him, I say.

mears · 11/01/2011 23:30

What are they for?

Vallhala · 11/01/2011 23:30

It could be argued that children are not what pubs are for.

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OnEdge · 11/01/2011 23:31

Its lazy mothering

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iamamug · 11/01/2011 23:31

It's just boring now-off to bed

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OnEdge · 11/01/2011 23:31

It could be, but why not valhalla

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MadameDefarge · 11/01/2011 23:32

Yup. Dullsville.

Cannot be wasting that enormous vocabulary on dreariness!

Happy dreams, all!

auntyfash · 11/01/2011 23:32

It's lazy mothering not making sure your child wanders off in a place where hot drinks are served! You should have held his hand.

The head has stopped stinging now btw.

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OnEdge · 11/01/2011 23:32

Or `Mothers?

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