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think why do women scream and shout in labour

186 replies

AuntiePickleBottom · 10/01/2011 22:00

is there any real need.

OP posts:
wukter · 10/01/2011 23:01

Silly OP

PrincessBoo · 10/01/2011 23:02

There was a very loud lady on OBEM. But did you see her shining eyes and love for her baby as soon as she was born? I loved the fact that she was completely unashamed - she said it helped her with the pain.

mathanxiety · 10/01/2011 23:04

Clearly attention seeking.

iloveyankees · 10/01/2011 23:04

Same here cerealqueen had all that with my first.

With my daughter I shouted a little and swore. I really couldn't help it Blush

tomhardyismydh · 10/01/2011 23:06

"Is that you Tom?"

who me? why would you thing it was me? Hmm

COCKadoodledooo · 10/01/2011 23:07

I have no idea if I screamed with my first, because I was far too off my face on drugs to care Grin

emmanana · 10/01/2011 23:10

Whatever gets you through it I say! Including repeatedly calling your lovely husband a 'tosser' everytime he said breathe , breathe.... :-)
I was just watching OBEM feeling sorry that that some first-timers may be watching it and getting terrified, Please don't be.

ledkr · 10/01/2011 23:10

strange post.Unless op is a mw why would it affect her?

Porcelain · 10/01/2011 23:10

I was very quiet, I'm stoic like that. Next time however, I think I will have a go at as many labour noises as I can. I was particularly impressed with the. Woman down the hall, howling like a wolf. If it helps go for it.

As far as OBEM goes, I wasn't sure why she was still screaming after the epidural but hey, its labour, making a whole new life, I think we should be able to do it how we Damn well please.

cerealqueen · 10/01/2011 23:12

However, I did scream some lovely things about DP, X factor contestants and Ronan Keating. I blame the drugs too, and DP loves to relate the tale. [GRIN].

No-one could say it was a BORING labour.

SookyStackhouse · 10/01/2011 23:13

YABU what is it to you? No screaming or shouting from me, more like a noise which sounded like someone was trying to milk a bull. I found it helped. Grin

Porcelain · 10/01/2011 23:13

I did take to slapping dh every time he said "you're doing really well"

wukter · 10/01/2011 23:13

I am going to do some comedy impressions during my next labour, and perhaps a little light political satire.

NellieForbush · 10/01/2011 23:15

Probably the same reason people shout when they are being tortured. Incredible pain will do that.

maras2 · 10/01/2011 23:17

Because they effin well can.

gaelicsheep · 10/01/2011 23:17

FWIW, if this is based on OBEM, yes I did think the screaming woman was being a bit of a drama queen. I am basing that on the fact that she was actually talking, rather than screaming in her own private pit of terror (like me). But that makes me really judgmental, and just as bad as the MWs who dismissed the horrendous pain I was in at the start of my first labour.

Porcelain · 10/01/2011 23:23

I guess even if you aren't in mind numbing pain, you can still be traumatised and want to let it out vocally.

Gotabookaboutit · 10/01/2011 23:24

I have a very high natural pain threshold - 1st baby had a little gas and air and never even raised my voice. Must say I was a little smug

2nd baby had planned an aromatherapy and water birth, ended up with a 2 hour Labour and pethidine which I begged for as I was literally mooing with the pain. Now not so smug

ShowOfHands · 10/01/2011 23:25

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK

Sorry op am I offending you? It's really helping me MN.

Ladyofthehousespeaking · 10/01/2011 23:27

I haven't given birth, but I have a Painful disease that crops up now and then and the last time I was in pain with something Unrelated I was nearly silent (ended up getting a lovely big shot of morphine because I'd reached the end of my tether)
I do these visualisation type of things - where whenever I get a wave I imagine the best times of my life and force myself to remember little things like what was on the menu/smells/what I wore etc

but then again when my thumb nearly got cut off in a car door I turned the air blue because it was such a suprise Grin

emmanana · 10/01/2011 23:29

Hope the OP never has a gallstone attack either. Try a 6cm gallstone trying to force it's way out of the gallbladder. Just as excruciating, only this time it's the upper half of your body. And there's sod-all to look forward to at the end...

Porcelain · 10/01/2011 23:31

The problem I found with labour was after 2 days of contractions, I was bored with the "happy place" I was visualizing, and too tired to keep it up.

emmanana · 10/01/2011 23:35

I was totally with the lady who wanted to rock though, that is a big help for pain. Must say I was in tears at the closing shots with the young lad holding his son and sobbing! Awwww...

cunexttuesonline · 10/01/2011 23:40

I didn't scream and shout when in labour, but then I go very into myself when in pain, don't want anyone near me etc.

If it helps to get through it then why not? However the girl on OBEM seemed to be making things worse for herself rather than helping. Panicking slows things down after all.

cunexttuesonline · 10/01/2011 23:40

emmanana - yes I was a rocker in labour too :)

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