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Original poster

I think I have just been unreasonable...

54 replies

BlueberryPancake · 07/01/2011 16:51

I shouted at a (secondary school) boy probably 12 yo because he jumped in front of my car and I nearly hit him. I mean, nearly hit him by a could of inches. I had to do an emergency break with my two kids at the back. I was FUrious. I got out of the car and shouted at him. I didn't sware or use any abusive language but I did shout very loudly. I wish I hadn't shouted so much and so loudly, he is going to be traumatised for the rest of his life.

He came running on the street out of nowhere, there were cars blocking my vision, and I could have killed him.

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BuzzLightBeer · 07/01/2011 16:52

maybe he'll be traumitised enough not to do it again. YANBU.

coatgate · 07/01/2011 16:53

YANBU - What do you think you should have done - waved at him?

Pinkjenny · 07/01/2011 16:53

YANBU. And I very much doubt this is the first or the last time he's been/will be shouted at.

faverolles · 07/01/2011 16:54

Yanbu.
Hopefully it taught him a valuable lesson.

MrsMoosickle · 07/01/2011 16:54

You've had a shock. You got a fright and you reacted appropriately imo.

Your reaction might stop him behaving so foolishly in future and might just save his life.

YADNBU

Original poster
BlueberryPancake · 07/01/2011 16:54

no but I should have spoken to him more calmly I was really out of myself

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Bogeyface · 07/01/2011 16:54

YANBU - if you hadnt then he probably wouldnt have considered how bloody stupid he had been and this way hopefully he will be more caredul in future.

BubbleBobble · 07/01/2011 16:56

Definitely NBU. My DS is only 8 months, but when he's old enough to do stupid things like that, I hope he gets shouted at.

bellavita · 07/01/2011 16:56

OP, I would rather he be shouted and shocked then go do it again and be killed.

TechnoKitten · 07/01/2011 16:56

YANBU - it's a "rest of his life" that he at least has the chance to have. Hopefully he'll think twice before jumping into a road again.

Bogeyface · 07/01/2011 16:56

I should have spoken to him more calmly

Bollocks! Sorry but calm just doesnt cut it sometimes. He needed to know how stupid he had been, and how it affected you.

I never get this "always stay calm" thing. Sometimes losing it is the only way to get a message through!

BluTac · 07/01/2011 16:57

YANBU.

FellatioNelson · 07/01/2011 16:58

YANBU - hopefully you have done him a big favour. This sort of thing happens to me regularly as I drive alot in an area that is choc-a-bloc with 6 secondary schools, all in close proximity. They just don't look at all - they are all in daze, headphones on, texting, or playfighting and chucking one another in the road for fun. I've seen so many near misses it makes my blood run cold.

AmazingBouncingFerret · 07/01/2011 16:59

I remember once getting an absolute bollocking off a stranger in a car when I rode out into the road whilst he was reversing off his drive.
It put the fear of God into me and taught me to not only look up and down the road but to check for moving cars anywhere
YANBU. I think back to that bloke and dont think "what a twat" I sympathise with him!

PorkChopSter · 07/01/2011 17:01

Jeez Shock I don't blame you, and I hope he remembers to look next time.

Deaddei · 07/01/2011 17:01

Good for you.
I did the same thing outside dd's school when girls at a bus stop were shoving each other in the road for a laugh.
Suddenly they had to contend with a 6 foot harpy unfurl herself from her car to bollock them. Oh and I added "and I know your mother".
Never had a problem again.

ChickensAreFlyingUnderTheRadar · 07/01/2011 17:03

YANBU. A short sharp shock might stop him killing himself in future.

walesblackbird · 07/01/2011 17:04

YANBU

We have a small village car park where I park to take the children to school. It's also used by the Higher School's 6th formers who park there all day and block the spaces.

Anyway, on this particular morning one teenage boy was obviously in a hurry - just as I was getting my three children out of the car and sorted.

He drove at around 30mph whizzing around the car park clearly giving no thought to all the other mums and young children trying to get to school.

I was incensed at his thoughtlessness and made my three hold hands and stay close while I ran after him and yelled at him to stop. He did and wound down his window when I yelled at him again and told him how irresponsible he was.

He clearly thought I was completely barking mad but did have the grace to look embarrassed before driving off - slowly.

celticlassie · 07/01/2011 17:04

You should definitely have shouted at him - I've shouted at kids before for exactly the same thing and will do it again

walesblackbird · 07/01/2011 17:04

YANBU

We have a small village car park where I park to take the children to school. It's also used by the Higher School's 6th formers who park there all day and block the spaces.

Anyway, on this particular morning one teenage boy was obviously in a hurry - just as I was getting my three children out of the car and sorted.

He drove at around 30mph whizzing around the car park clearly giving no thought to all the other mums and young children trying to get to school.

I was incensed at his thoughtlessness and made my three hold hands and stay close while I ran after him and yelled at him to stop. He did and wound down his window when I yelled at him again and told him how irresponsible he was.

He clearly thought I was completely barking mad but did have the grace to look embarrassed before driving off - slowly.

walesblackbird · 07/01/2011 17:04

whoops!

Laquitar · 07/01/2011 17:06

BlueberryPancake (I typed your name and have cravings now, i wish i had one), this happened to me , i was about 10. I still remember the man - big build, grey beard. I was very very embarrassed. Everybody was looking at us. But i never did it again, i was very careful after that. If i met him now i would thank him.

In an ideal world you should talk to him calmer but its ok you were in shock.

The main thing is that you are all ok Smile

Original poster
BlueberryPancake · 07/01/2011 17:11

Yea he will probably remember me as a very tall women with mad hair and angry eyes!

Ah I will remember the 'And I know your mother' bit if there's a next time...

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LisasCat · 07/01/2011 17:15

Definitely not BU. Even if the stupid boy still doesn't realise how dangerous his behaviour was, at the very least he might be afraid of a crazy lady screaming at him again, and look more carefully next time.

jugglingjo · 07/01/2011 17:56

Well done Blueberry Pancake - You missed him !

He'll soon get over a mild bollocking !

There's always at least two ways of looking at things Wink

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