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Original poster

I think I have been, re DH and DS1's birthday party

175 replies

Ormirian · 07/01/2011 13:41

DS1 was 14 on Tuesday. We are taking some friends to play laser tag on Sunday and the home for food and cake. Didn't want to do it on Saturday as DD has a riding lesson and it would mean rushing around like a mad thing to fit it all in. Could have done it Sunday afternoon but then it would run into Sunday evening chores (baths, packed lunches, inevitable last minute hw Hmm). So I booked it on Sunday morning and told DH today.

Problem is DH plays footie on Sunday am and there has only been one match for about a month. But there has hardly been a day over Christmas when Dh hasn't been out in the evenings for an hour or so, and has watched matches in the pub or at a friends' house. He managed to avoid a few family visits that way. All of which is fine in moderation but I think he took the piss personally this time.

I could change it to Sunday afternoon but as it would just increase the stress factor for me I don't want to. And I suspect I am trying to give him a subtle slap on the wrist - which isn't really like me.

DH didn't complain but looked a bit sorry for himself. So AIBU and selfish?

OP posts:
Truckerulent · 07/01/2011 16:50

Last one- I'm silly and Hully is? Sensible?
I always Netmums was better. Hun.

JamieLeeCurtis · 07/01/2011 16:51

had your dad been out after work playing/watching football?

Hullygully · 07/01/2011 16:51

Quite. How else does one fill the long long long days of wedded bliss? The best sport of all.

bupcakesandcunting · 07/01/2011 16:52

Hully is the BESTEST.

Now piss off and do your kicking and shouting before your mrs coups you indoors and makes you open a jar for her or whatever it is that women do to the poor kiddies mens.

JamieLeeCurtis · 07/01/2011 16:52

hully, you are the Eddie Izzard of threadery. Pulling all the strands together

Truck - your poorly-worded post was a low blow.

Hullygully · 07/01/2011 16:52

In fact, let us consider the fun games of wedlock:

Competitive Tiredness

You Had It Last

That Isn't What I Said

Surely It's Your Turn

bupcakesandcunting · 07/01/2011 16:53

My dad don't do football. He's a rugger bloke, bless him. He thinks that football is a game for morons, played by morons, watched by morons.

Hullygully · 07/01/2011 16:54

Pore ol Truck.

Never mind. You'll have to raise your game if you want to play with the Big Boys.

bupcakesandcunting · 07/01/2011 16:54

I am the "That Isn't What I Said" current champion in this house. DH is the "Have You Looked For It? I mean properly?" champion.

Original poster
Ormirian · 07/01/2011 16:54

Alright I will tell him

"You are being an arse. MN says so. Seeker told me stop all this passive-aggressive pussy-footing and tell you to your face. Oh and hully says I must break your teeth so come here while I do it"

OP posts:
JamieLeeCurtis · 07/01/2011 16:55

When Did We Last Have Sex?

It Goes Over There

Well Pick It Up Then

Just a Half

Original poster
Ormirian · 07/01/2011 16:55

No hully isn't sensible. She is funny.

OP posts:
Hullygully · 07/01/2011 16:55

Try and get in how Tired and yet Uncomplaining you are and you're nearly there.

bupcakesandcunting · 07/01/2011 16:56

"Last one- I'm silly and Hully is? Sensible?
I always Netmums was better. Hun."

How does one nominate for Quote of the Week? I've found a gem.

Original poster
Ormirian · 07/01/2011 16:56

Oh dear is truck really cross now?

I am tired and uncomplaining. Except for complaining about being tired.

OP posts:
Hullygully · 07/01/2011 16:57

It Would Be Really Nice If The Things On The Stairs (his) Put Themselves Away

JamieLeeCurtis · 07/01/2011 16:57
bupcakesandcunting · 07/01/2011 16:57

What is the Just a Half, Jamie?

mayorquimby · 07/01/2011 17:06

yabu purely because you are only doing it as a passive aggressive punishment

LisasCat · 07/01/2011 17:06

I know this has gone off in different directions since the OP, and I'm a bad MNer for not reading all 5 pages. I just wanted to pipe up and agree with someone on the first page that watching and playing are quite different things. I cut DP some slack with footie and cricket games he's due to play in, because there are 10 other people counting on him to be there too. Both teams struggle to make full numbers, and are often going out with only 10, so I do try to cut him some slack for that reason. But if he's watching too much sport, and family life is being sacrificed, then that bit I will moan about. Also, when he was playing for 2 teams at one point, and occassionally helping out a third, I had words about that too.

Hullygully · 07/01/2011 17:07

Orm is In The Right.

bupcakesandcunting · 07/01/2011 17:07

Sorry quimby, we've moved on now. OP is punching her DH's gnashers out and that is that.

Original poster
Ormirian · 07/01/2011 17:08

"yabu purely because you are only doing it as a passive aggressive punishment"

Oh not only.

OP posts:
Hullygully · 07/01/2011 17:08

hee hee

bloomingnora · 07/01/2011 17:08

No, We Didn't Discuss That

I Can't Smell Anything

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